Debra LaFave Rewarded for Rape
Yes, folks, the female double standard lives! Debra LaFave, the former schoolteacher from Tampa who raped a 14-year-old boy, was rewarded today with a slap on the wrist. Our society continues to hold women to a lower standard of behavior.
Recently, for example, a college girl from Florida Atlantic University admitted to falsely accusing her boyfriend of rape. The punishment for lying? None. The chief of police in the case decided against prosecuting the liar, who could have sent her innocent boyfriend to prison. The police chief felt that admitting the lie to her parents would be punishment enough for her. Where’s my violin?
Had the gender roles been reversed in the rapist-teacher case, a male teacher would have been jailed without issue. The real kicker, of course, is that Debra LaFave blamed bipolar disorder for her behavior. I’m in tears, Debra. The hysterical part of this story is that LaFave now wants to become a journalist. You go, girl.
The double standard is that an underaged boy is not harmed by sexual intercourse with an adult woman. Only girls and women can be harmed. That’s because our society doesn’t care about boys and men. Boys and men are impervious to harm, right? Had LaFave gotten pregnant, the boy’s life would have been ruined from teenage fatherhood and child support. But, nobody cares because he is, after all, just a male.
NoNonsense Bottom Line: girls who are not forced to grow up, don’t grow up — ever.
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Stumble It!
March 22nd, 2006 at 8:06 am
What’s most disturbing is that it is often the men in power who make these decisions regarding prosecution and sentencing. Unfortunately this will continue until the men’s rights movement gets a louder voice.
March 22nd, 2006 at 5:13 pm
You can’t teach boys to not cry, whine or complain, while also teaching that sex is what women give, and men get, and then expect adult males of females to see a woman giving sex to a boy as a problem when boys who are harmed don’t want to shed tears in court.
As a man who worked with teens in treatment facilities, and who was sexually abused as a boy by an adult women (I was very young) having attended workshops by women – sexual assault awareness programs – I have seen the double standard related to sex crimes many times. If a man suggests that he was molested by a woman … even if he is believed, he ends up ridiculed for complaining… (did you like it, did she touch your pee pee) That idea that a crazy old bitch would straddle a little boys face, make threats, a darkness in the darkness, smoothering, … well. It’s not something I can speak about but typing it is easier. (See examples of boys being abused sexually – the movie, Antoine Fisher. The new book by John Irving (Until I find you) a young boy in the book “Guilty by Reason of Insanity. Those stories and mine are not part of a sexual offender data base counting male victims. I know other men as well. None are listed as victims, no females are listed as offenders related to our cases. I would like to blame men for not coming forward, but I know why they don’t.
What I see is that we teach girls and boys that the male touch is dirty and defiles while a woman’s touch helps a boy become a man. And if he turns around as an adult, bored with his frigid wife, or maybe expecting more from his “normal” wife, expecting the wildness of a woman who would risk sex with boys… and then he turns around and molests a girl … he expects to be treated as gendtly as the woman who harmed him, but he goes to jail,
It made me really sad to see this women get off (after getting off) and have her nails and hair done, professional make up it appeared, getting ready for her “made for TV” or book deal… smiling and talking about journalism school…
Meanwhile, a friend of mine is in court, sex with a promiscious 15 year old who had told others in the past that she would get him for bogus sex charges… long story, but after two threats with witnesse a couple of years ago, she, a realitive, staying at his house, while he is drunk on his ass, gets into his bed, … claims he drugged her got her drunk, she was “out of it” although no drugs found in her system. If a 15 year old boy had gotten into bed with a drunk women, forties, had sex with her, he would be charged with rape, instead, this man’s business, career are ruined and he could end up in jail for years. There is a double standard between men and women.
SD
July 15th, 2006 at 2:51 pm
When I was in the ninth grade,there was a teacher that I was very attracted to.I would have had sex with her no question.