Comments on: Don’t Marry a Career Woman: The Debate Heats Up

By: fourthwire

fourthwire — Tue, 12 Sep 2006 00:53:48 +0000

Why would any man WANT to marry a career woman in the first place?

To get ahead in their career, any woman (or man) has to make sacrifices, dedicating a substantial portion of his or her time and energy toward his or her professional development.

To get ahead, one has to pay the Piper.

So……. given that men married to career-oriented women:

1. Cannot expect to enjoy much quality time with a career woman.

2. Cannot expect those career women to do many or any of those tasks considered women’s traditional roles.

3. Cannot expect to even have a reasonably high prioritization from their career-oriented wives.

4 CAN expect to be blamed for any number of shortcomings, pitfalls, missteps, and adverse consequences of his wife’s decisions or lack thereof, regardless of whether he actually is RESPONSIBLE for those shortcomings, pitfalls, missteps and advese consequences.

For in the end, those women who try to play the game and fail will need a scapegoat to blame…. and to punish. Guess who fits the bill?

There’s no advantage whatsoever for men to marry a career woman (or any woman) in America.

NONE…… Only risks.

There are no benefits to men from marrying career women that are not also available without marrying them.

NONE……. Only risks.

And by-and-large America’s career women know this to be true…… which is why a significant number of them are coiled up and hissing at articles like this one in Forbes.

By: mruffolo

mruffolo — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 15:58:43 +0000

To the point. Great job explaining the obvious that the media knows but fails to communicate.

In addition, woman who are unhappy in a marriage divorce that cause a world of hurt for the husband. Little or no reason is required to send the guys life and career in a tail spin.

No-fault divorce means that a spouse can divorce you for any reason. Most of the time woman divorce for selfish reasons like “I was unhappy.”

To PolishKnight point that non-career woman have feminist’s attitude, I hear what you write from many friend’s stories. The details vary, but the result is the same – a lazy, complaining, divorcing wife.

By: PolishKnight

PolishKnight — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 15:14:45 +0000

To the harpies’ credit, they’re angry partly because the article appeared in Forbes which is considered a businessness magazine. But they made a critical error by flying off the handle because it only drew unwanted attention. Didn’t they ever hear of the saying that there’s no such thing as bad publicity? The WORST thing that could have happened to Noer, I imagine, is that they could have ignored him and then silently told all their buddies at other publishers to blackball him. They probably already have done just this, but now everyone is going to know why!

Corcoran’s response only proved many of the points Noer made including that such women are hypercritical and demanding. After reading her article bragging about being married to her husband for 17 years or so, I felt bad for the poor guy. It sounds like he’s been walking on eggshells that whole time.

In many cases, admittantly, career women may not be worse than any others. Many normal women who are not especially career driven often have the feminist attitude of entitlement viewing men as ATM machines and sacrificial lambs. Check out Jerry Spinger or Montel Williams sometime. Those working class guys probably almost wish their wives were out working more and didn’t have so much time to watch TV!

Also, many career women may be fine provided the man meets up to her demanding selfish standards of women making good money and then finding a man who earns at least as much as she does. It’s selfish as hell but possible much like winning a few bucks on a scratcher and there are plenty of men with decent incomes who have content career women. What may be driving much of the hostile reaction to Noer’s article is that there are fewer such men left to make these women perfectly happy. Many professional men are not willing to settle down on their timetables regardless of whether the women are nice or not and this annoys them. It’s like the hunters blaming the deer for not being in abundance after the killing spree last year.

By: pskurnick

pskurnick — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 12:28:37 +0000

Gentlemen,
We need to simply keep at it. We know the truth of this whole devasting myth of the ’satisfied career woman’ We need to do the following:
1)Not partake in it. When in positions of responsibllity, simply do not encourage it. Hire the older more established man or reward the woman who has raised her family.
2) Encourage men to take a dim view of this whole stupidity.
3) when in a discussion of the topic be calm but immutable. You, just as our fathers were with us (Or should have been)stick to your guns, No is simply no. I don’t buy it. Yes we both work, but yes I still mow the lawn, fix the plumbing, build the playsets so you will have to shop for food and prepare the meals. sorry, that’s life. If you want a more rewarding life dearest wife, do like I have, figure out what your dissatisfaction is and fix it. Don’t stand there in the aisle of the grocery store of life and scream Like a two year old “Men are so mean” It’s not us dear heart it is you. Being so overwhelmed by the choices that true freedom give you, you want it all and when you can’t have it all (at once anyway) you blame Daddy.
Grow up.