Check out this video broadcast on ABC’s Primetime News:
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=2754248
It shows a woman physically abusing a man, while people pass by and ignore it. It’s a setup; the people are only actors, and really aren’t fighting. But the point is to gauge the reactions of the people who pass by — to measure the public’s denial of the seriousness of female-on-male violence. Nobody does or says anything to stop it. In fact, one woman who passes by makes hand motions expressing glee at the other woman’s abusiveness. Here is the page on ABC’s Web site where you can read more about this story.
This is what we’re up against, the misandry in a culture that considers female violence against males to be a woman’s prerogative. Just because women are more likely than men to be injured does not mean that men should have to sit back and take it. And forget about self defense, or retaliation; these are a ticket straight to incarceration. An abused man’s only option is to flee, and even then he may return home — only to find he has violated a bogus restraining order that his abuser has taken out against him, in order to conceal her violent behavior.
A 1995 report by the Massachusetts Department of Corrections revealed that half of all restraining orders filed in that jurisdiction did not even contain an allegation of violence. Restraining orders are available to any woman for the asking, granted on the flimsiest of evidence. Merely stating she has experienced an emotion is enough to subject a man to criminal penalties if he returns to his home. An example of the abuse of restraining orders is a woman in New Mexico who obtained an order against television talk show host David Letterman, because she believed he was telepathically communicating menacing messages to her through the television screen. Restraining orders in the hands of violent and abusive women are a looming threat to the liberty of men who are unfortunate enough to live in such hellish relationships.
Here’s what such men are up against, the hard reality of domestic violence against males: when men call police to report abuse against them, often it is the male victim who is arrested. Even when male victimhood from female violence is acknowledged, public services intended for abuse victims are denied to men (including any children in tow). A lawsuit is now pending against the state of California for this very reason (see videos).
Abuse by women against men is barely acknowledged in the courts, or in the culture. But there is a tome of independent scholarly research indicating that abuse against men is not only common, but it actually matches or exceeds male-on-female violence. Research compiled by Dr. Martin Fiebert of California State University, Long Beach demonstrates this fact.
I took the liberty of compiling it all into an Excel spreadsheet. You can now sort through this research, and do quantitative calculations of your own. Despite the fact that anti-male violence is so well-documented, both the public and lawmakers remain in denial (and some even tacitly approve of it, as shown in the Primetime video).
It should be noted that, according to the full story on ABC’s Web site, a group of four women witnessed the abuse, congregated at a distance, sent one of their group to “offer help” (which was refused — by the abuser), while another of the four called 911 on her cell phone. Police were already aware of the staged scene. It bears mentioning that it took some brave WOMEN to take a stand, while all the men who passed by were too ashamed or embarrassed to intervene. Weak men who can’t intervene make the problem worse, as do any people who deny, blame, and minimize the seriousness of female-on-male violence.
What will it take to wake up both lawmakers and our culture to the fact that anti-male violence is a serious problem? Perhaps ABC Primetime is starting to catch on. When a woman abuses a man, the only thing reliable enough to prove her guilt is surveillance footage. Even eyewitnesses will not help, for God’s sake, including the men. What in the world has this culture come to, when women can’t take this abuse seriously enough to report it, and men are too ashamed of jeopardizing their masculinity to report it (or to ask for help)?
Until violence against men — in all its forms — is taken seriously by police, the courts, and even eyewitnesses, only surveillance footage will save abused men from the secret hell they are living in. Perhaps more videos like this one will wake up the public to this fantastically ugly reality.When the legal system expects men to prove both their innocence and their victimhood, it’s time for men to press the record button.
John Dias
Founder, DontMakeHerMad.com
“Stopping False Allegations with Technology”
