ABC video shows woman abusing man, passersby ignoring it
Check out this video broadcast on ABC’s Primetime News:
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=2754248
It shows a woman physically abusing a man, while people pass by and ignore it. It’s a setup; the people are only actors, and really aren’t fighting. But the point is to gauge the reactions of the people who pass by — to measure the public’s denial of the seriousness of female-on-male violence. Nobody does or says anything to stop it. In fact, one woman who passes by makes hand motions expressing glee at the other woman’s abusiveness. Here is the page on ABC’s Web site where you can read more about this story.
This is what we’re up against, the misandry in a culture that considers female violence against males to be a woman’s prerogative. Just because women are more likely than men to be injured does not mean that men should have to sit back and take it. And forget about self defense, or retaliation; these are a ticket straight to incarceration. An abused man’s only option is to flee, and even then he may return home — only to find he has violated a bogus restraining order that his abuser has taken out against him, in order to conceal her violent behavior.
A 1995 report by the Massachusetts Department of Corrections revealed that half of all restraining orders filed in that jurisdiction did not even contain an allegation of violence. Restraining orders are available to any woman for the asking, granted on the flimsiest of evidence. Merely stating she has experienced an emotion is enough to subject a man to criminal penalties if he returns to his home. An example of the abuse of restraining orders is a woman in New Mexico who obtained an order against television talk show host David Letterman, because she believed he was telepathically communicating menacing messages to her through the television screen. Restraining orders in the hands of violent and abusive women are a looming threat to the liberty of men who are unfortunate enough to live in such hellish relationships.
Here’s what such men are up against, the hard reality of domestic violence against males: when men call police to report abuse against them, often it is the male victim who is arrested. Even when male victimhood from female violence is acknowledged, public services intended for abuse victims are denied to men (including any children in tow). A lawsuit is now pending against the state of California for this very reason (see videos).
Abuse by women against men is barely acknowledged in the courts, or in the culture. But there is a tome of independent scholarly research indicating that abuse against men is not only common, but it actually matches or exceeds male-on-female violence. Research compiled by Dr. Martin Fiebert of California State University, Long Beach demonstrates this fact.
I took the liberty of compiling it all into an Excel spreadsheet. You can now sort through this research, and do quantitative calculations of your own. Despite the fact that anti-male violence is so well-documented, both the public and lawmakers remain in denial (and some even tacitly approve of it, as shown in the Primetime video).
It should be noted that, according to the full story on ABC’s Web site, a group of four women witnessed the abuse, congregated at a distance, sent one of their group to “offer help” (which was refused — by the abuser), while another of the four called 911 on her cell phone. Police were already aware of the staged scene. It bears mentioning that it took some brave WOMEN to take a stand, while all the men who passed by were too ashamed or embarrassed to intervene. Weak men who can’t intervene make the problem worse, as do any people who deny, blame, and minimize the seriousness of female-on-male violence.
What will it take to wake up both lawmakers and our culture to the fact that anti-male violence is a serious problem? Perhaps ABC Primetime is starting to catch on. When a woman abuses a man, the only thing reliable enough to prove her guilt is surveillance footage. Even eyewitnesses will not help, for God’s sake, including the men. What in the world has this culture come to, when women can’t take this abuse seriously enough to report it, and men are too ashamed of jeopardizing their masculinity to report it (or to ask for help)?
Until violence against men — in all its forms — is taken seriously by police, the courts, and even eyewitnesses, only surveillance footage will save abused men from the secret hell they are living in. Perhaps more videos like this one will wake up the public to this fantastically ugly reality.When the legal system expects men to prove both their innocence and their victimhood, it’s time for men to press the record button.
John Dias
Founder, DontMakeHerMad.com
“Stopping False Allegations with Technology”
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December 28th, 2006 at 6:19 am
I am reminded of a dreadful incident many years ago in New York (I think) where a young woman was murdered in a busy street. A man beat her and stabbed her. People walked around her dying body, hurrying on, not getting involved even to call for help for her. She was begging for help. As she died.
I am amongst the first to recognise and shout about the scandalous misandry in our society, but what this video shows is the everyday cowardice of people, not simply misandric nonchalance.
People don’t want to get involved.
I saw another video only a few months a go of a crowded park where a little girl drowned in a lake a few yards from the bank where people were lounging around in the sun. Some were watching this child drown. This was a video of the actual event. Someone videoed the drowning. They didn’t rush in to save the child. There must have been 30 adults within 40 yards of this child, some only 10 yards away. Men. Women. Young men and women. NO ONE ran into the water. It was not deep.
I cried. For the little girl. For our society where so many have no morality at all. No courage at all. Dead souls.
Our empathetic society, so improved by the woman’s touch. God help us all. We reap what we sow.
December 28th, 2006 at 6:46 am
Violence against men is not only accepted by society,many consider it humorous. Latest issue of Readers Digest, a magazine that claims to be a family magazine, carried a joke about a wife giving a man two black eyes for, I assume, cheating. Apparently, cheating is a valid reason to commit DV; whoops, that’s only if you’re a female. If a woman cheats on a man, well he just better walk away.
December 28th, 2006 at 8:20 am
IF a women cheats on a man, it is because he abused their relationship and she needed space, a new start and solace in her personal grief. If a man cheats on a women, he has abused the relationship and the women can now do as she wishes (both physically and legally), because she needs space, a new start and solace in her personal grief. But what do I know.
December 28th, 2006 at 8:31 am
Dannieboy57,
I think you know quite a bit.
I think you have it dead on.
Also, a woman is entitled to find herself, fulfill herself, become independent, etc.
I think she is given license to cheat even irrespective of the assumed guilt of the man.
Women are not held to any agreement or standard.
This has been true in intimate relationship for some time. I see it more and more in business relationships also. Every really good screwing I have suffered in business for the last several years has been the result of female customer.
December 28th, 2006 at 9:07 am
Let us not loose sight that the message IS indeed getting out there. Eventually someone did something. And to my amazement, it was a group of 4 women that stepped up to the plate. One attempted to intervene while another reported it (accurately*) to the police.
*accurately meaning that she reported that the woman was out of control and beating on the man…that an officer should be dispatched.
TMOTS
December 28th, 2006 at 11:36 am
The whole point of all of this is gauging reactions.
Everyone has an excuse, especially the cops who were off duty and unarmed. The cops knew getting involved was dangerous as they would be held to a high standard of scrutiny and not protected by the government lawyers as they are off duty.
The women who banded together for the decision making orocess relied on concensus before taking action. Classic example of the functioning process of the society of women.
The woman walking alone felt empowered against men and was appaerently a foreigner who may have been subjected to disperate treatment in her original culture. While the women in a group felt responsible for the condition of their immediate society, still needing concensus.
When a man is acting belligerent a single woman will get brave and intervene.
The score is this. Male on female violence is still unacceptable.
Even though violent female incarcerations are known and have risen in the last 100 years, Female on male violence is humorous not serious.
Those four women might represent the first meeting of minds that the double standard is now naked.
Even armed I was hesitant to get personally involved when I saw a woman beating her assailant’s head repeatedly against a tree stump as his two friends watched or took her things.
Their failure to flee gave me the impression they knew each other.
I did call the cops though.
I agree, surveilence is the key.
What are the poor who cannot afford the equipment, or wives control all the money to do?
I have been there on the financial end.
Looks like since women cannot be held to any agreements there is no safety and one should not play the game without all of the tools first.
December 28th, 2006 at 1:17 pm
I had a first hand experience with this sort of thing about 20 years ago.
I was entering a grocery store with my then 2-year-old daughter. My ex and I were expecting our second chid and so I had recently been re-instructed in infant CPR, which was part of the Lamaze class I was in with my ex.
As my two year old and I approached the front door of the store, there was an elderly man sprawled out on the ground a few feet from the store entrance. As I got closer I could see that people were walking around him to get in and out of the store, but nobody was stopping to help. The guy’s face was purple, and his hat was several feet from him, suggesting that maybe he was having a heart attack and fell to the ground or whatever. He was motionless and his face was a deep shade of purple, so either this was a very quick heart attack and he was already deaf, or else he had been laying there a few minutes. I don’t know which.
I immediately attmepted CPR on him as best I could, and I start pointing at various people who weer entering the store. I ordered one of them to go into the store and call 911 and get an ambulance here immediately for an apparent heart attack victim. I ordered another to go tell the store manager about the situation an have the store manager come out to help.
As it turned out the man never recovered. I never got a pulse nor a breath from him, and backed off when the abulnace EMTs arrived and let them take over. I think the man was dead before I ever started trying to resuscitate him.
What the situation taught me is that people react differently to stressful situations, and that you never really know how you yourself are going to react until you have to react to one yourself. And yeah, I guess it taught me that some people just don’t want to get involved. But I think the bigger lesson was that people react differently under stress.
This incident occurred in a midwestern “city” of about 100,000 people, which is surrounded by cornfields for at least 30 miles in every direction.
December 29th, 2006 at 7:54 am
It did make me remember something that happened locally where a women tried to sue a man, who saved her life and claimed he did not do it right (say’s a lot), thankfully we still have common sense Judges on this Planet and he reminded her that if he had not saved her she would not be here.
Does tend to discourage any heroics in the future.
December 29th, 2006 at 9:35 am
amfortas – I agree that mostly the video just shows the tendency for people to not want to get involved. There certainly have been enough cases of everyone ignoring things like this whether the victim was a man or a woman.
The part you had about the drowning girl, though, has me shaking with horror and outrage. That no one would help a drowning little girl, and that someone would videotape it, are incomprehensible to me.
December 30th, 2006 at 3:17 pm
This excerpt from an Article on the Artist Poet William Blake makes danielboy’s understanding completely accurate.
“Mary Wollstonecraft, an early feminist; and Thomas Paine, American revolutionary. Along with William Wordsworth and William Godwin, Blake had great hopes for the American and French revolution and wore a red liberty cap in solidarity with the French revolutionaries, but despaired with the rise of Robespierre and the Reign of Terror in the French revolution.
Mary Wollstonecraft became a close friend, and Blake illustrated her Original Stories from Real Life (1788). They shared views on sexual equality and the institution of marriage. In 1793’s Visions of the Daughters of Albion, Blake condemned the cruel absurdity of enforced chastity and marriage without love and defended the right of women to complete self-fulfillment.”