This article is a reprint of a previous column posted: 6/23/06
I just celebrated my first Father’s Day as a father this year. That single day, once a year, is the solitary break from the typical societal hammering of fathers and men in general.
Take a look on any television show that features a father. Usually the father is a bumbling boob struggling to keep up with his much more intelligent wife. There exists not one single show that depicts an involved and intelligent father.
While Miller Lite commercials and puerile shows like “The Man Show” celebrate what they consider manliness - what they are really celebrating is boyishness.
This boyishness has been enshrined into the gold standard of male sexual expression by feminism.
Feminism, at least the branch typically described as feminism, holds two lies as truth: The first is that all men are basically as mature as a typical seventh grader, or more coarsely, they think only with their penis.
The second is that women can achieve fulfillment and happiness by imitating these “men”. The problem is that neither of the above are true.
What has happened is that by holding up seventh-grade sexuality as the model to be imitated, many of the boys emulate what has been expected of them. It became socially acceptable for “men” to bound from bed to bed.
With this, along came date rape, objectification of women and the decline of any real commitment in marriage. The reason abstinence education “doesn’t work” isn’t because of abstinence. It is because in every direction society is telling boys to sleep with anything that walks.
This is most decidedly what manliness is not. Despite the claims of the “adult” entertainment industry, manhood is not glorified penis-idolatry. I enjoy meat and beer as much as the next guy, but that doesn’t make me a man.
Manhood involves responsibility, taking on not only the responsibility of a job, but of raising children. Real men are directly involved in their children’s lives and don’t relegate the duties of parenting to woman.
Manhood involves being able to relate to a woman as a human person, not as a collection of a preferred set of genitalia. Real men can realize that women have intelligence and talents that are useful outside the home. They leave pornography to the boys.
They live lives with a purpose. While boys are running around looking for ways to amuse themselves, men are at the very least providing for their families.
More often, they are pursuing some noble end. The Founding Fathers were men. Hugh Hefner is a boy.
They love their wives. By love, I mean completely and for reasons going far beyond sexual gratification.
They don’t view marriage as a relationship where they are recipients of benefits, but as a relationship where they invest their heart and soul into the woman they love, who in turn invests her heart and soul back.
Manhood should not be confused with boyishness and at least one day a year society seems to know the difference. Manliness is a virtue and a pillar of any good society and it is about time we stopped idolizing boyishness.
Rate this post:
(No Ratings Yet)
Loading ...
Stumble It!
supamike said,
January 2, 2007 at 5:42 pm
mirwalk said,
The problem instead exists with women. They don’t commit, they look down on men, they divorce and kick the men out of thier lives. I would love to find that person who devotes everything to men and I to them. However VERY few women even come close to this anymore. I think you need to start with them long before you start on us.
That is my opinion anyway.
January 2, 2007 at 7:32 pm
supamike said,
January 2, 2007 at 8:41 pm
Will Malven said,
Political correctness and special interest pandering by the Left, and to some extent now by the Right have given us this problem. Until men with backbone stand for office and vote their consciences rather than their political future, we will continue to have this problem.
Short of that there will have to be some sort of convulsive event that will change the political landscape. I don’t believe that the Second Coming is going to happen anytime soon, so it will have to be something of a more human nature.
I wish to God I knew what would work short of eliminating all leftists…maybe the legalization of drugs and the development of some really powerful pot will distract them so much that they will forget to vote.
January 2, 2007 at 10:33 pm
amfortas said,
I have held long to the idea that women are not the enemy, that relationships with women are not only possible but to be sought. I recognise that there are good women about, but they seem to be as rare as hen’s teeth.
For too long women have smiled and nodded at misandric statements. They laugh at the TV programmes. Rarely do you see them frown at the bad portrayal of men and boys. It is a rarity for a woman to contradict someone who puts men down.
Far too many men, too, seek explanation in esoteric theories which backfire and blame men. Even misusing terms like ‘boyishness’ to describe behaviours you don’t approve of - behaviours which few could approve of - simply reinforces the anti-male message.
Leave boys alone. Stop abusing boys. It is Intellectual Paedophilia.
January 3, 2007 at 12:05 am
snootfish said,
Women are not the problem, exactly.
The problem is the culture. The culture is defined by laws (and other forces).
Women are influenced by the culture.
It is the culture that is the problem.
It is true though that some women have
caused the present cultural problem.
It is also true that nearly all women
passively accept and participate in
the present toxic culture.
It is a lot to ask to expect the average
woman to stand up against the existing culture.
Few people can do this. You place the average
person in a toxic culture and they are going to
do what the culture demands, expects or permits.
These women would act completely differently
if the culture were different.
January 3, 2007 at 2:13 am
Leopold said,
The way I see it the main characteristic of a manhood is related to strength, dignity, reliability and self-respect.
By erradicating even the smallest amount of the above from being associated with man the feminazi western culture is leaving no desired models for boys.
Ironically it’s becoming reversed - grown man are looking up to boysh behaviours as raw model..
Ohh, man…
January 3, 2007 at 4:12 am
conservativation said,
January 3, 2007 at 9:25 am