I read an article called “Are You Going to Let Him Manipulate You?” on a website called Latin Bay Area. Like so many articles I come across on abusive relationships, the author chose to label all males as perpetrators and all females as victims. While I applaud Maria Marin‘s desire to empower women, like many others she does it by degrading men. I find this unacceptable.
How common is male-bashing? The answer is truly disturbing.
Ever heard the term “deadbeat dad?” The reality is fathers pay more of their child support orders, and more often, than mothers do. In other words, for all parents with child support orders, there is a higher percentage of “deadbeat moms” than “deadbeat dads.” How often do you hear the term “deadbeat mom?”
Do you have a teen son who has a relationship with a girl who hits him? Does he play-it-off like it’s not a problem? Maybe that’s because our society is slow to accept the fact that females can be aggressive, dangerous, even lethal. The truth is teen and college-age females hit their partners more than males. Over-all females abuse and murder children and initiate partner aggression more often than males.
If you’re a mom who lives in California you might think you could turn to the California Women’s Law Center to learn how to help your son. What you’d find is a brochure called “Teen Dating Violence: An Ignored Epidemic.” I’m sorry to say, you won’t find the support or solutions you’re looking for. According to this brochure, only females are victims and only males are perpetrators.
It can’t be this bad, right? Oh yes, it gets worse.
Male-bashing (literally) has even made it into the comics. You know something is accepted in our society when it’s part of a comic strip. And here it is (ZITS):
So, when is this going to stop?
