What Women Don’t Want
The Vaginal Parachute
Women don’t want penalties, or disincentives, for their MissBehaving. And, judging by our overwhelmingly profemale reproductive, civil, workplace, and marital laws, women have prevailed.
Whether observing the behaviors of individuals, companies, or governments, one can conclude that economic incentives and disincentives are at the root of almost all decisionmaking. Governments go to war to prevent destruction and loss. Companies leave states and countries with unfavorable taxes, low living conditions, and uneducated workforces. People pay their taxes on time to avoid penalties.
Yet, if a married woman becomes pregnant with another man’s child, she faces no penalties, which is why she willingly chooses such an immoral path. In fact, the “system” rewards her with child support from either the biological father — if she tags him with paternity — or her unsuspecting husband, who eventually will discover her infidelity, divorce her, and be forced to provide her a lucrative “vaginal parachute” for her soft landing into singledom. What a country!
Even a mouse has to navigate a difficult maze to earn a piece of cheese. For a woman in America, in contrast, the marital maze consists only of two adjoining doors — entrance and exit — and the cheese is freely available in exchange for zero effort. Congratulations to the male lawmakers who have built this marital maze and its lopsided incentive system.
Now comes the New York Times, with its latest slicing and dicing of the 2005 US Census data. The NYT’s new conclusion is that, on average, only 49 percent of American women are married and living with their spouses — a new low. Breaking it down by race, this 49 percent average is: 30 percent of black women, 49 percent of Hispanic women, 55 percent of non-Hispanic white women, and 60 percent of Asian women.
The article goes on to say that, despite the picture for married women, 53 percent of men are married and living with their spouses. But it does not segment these men by race, as it does for women, and it does not explain to whom this majority of men are married.
Sam Roberts, the article’s author, proudly quotes “independent” women who feel liberated by removing the shackles of marriage. Sadly, it mentions nothing about the deleterious effect of marital decline on children. Roberts should have included a sidebar about the growing trend of teenage girls beating the crap out of each other, videorecording said beatings, and posting the videos on the Internet for all to see. Could there be a correlation between such MissBehaving and a society that devalues men and marriage? I’ll bet the “progressive” policy wonks never considered that unintended consequence.
In essence, the marriage rate is declining because both men and women no longer have the same incentives or desires to commit to “happily ever after,” as they once did. From everything I can see, there are zero benefits to or incentives for men to be married. But, the same isn’t true for women. Because there no longer exists a social stigma for being divorced, women see matrimony and alimony in the same mental picture, as both words have the same ending: mon[e]y. Accordingly, the main reason for a woman to marry is to have legitimate children and a means to support them … and herself.
The policy wonks aren’t out of the woods, though. For the 37 percent of American children born out of wedlock, these progressives must construct DMV-style socialized programs to parent and feed them. What we all need, for a healthier society, are more government programs, higher taxes, and kids in therapy. Right?
NoNonsense Bottom Line
I have little use or patience for endless discussion and theorizing. I continue to see the professional and financial progress of “independent women” (read “Women to Rule Men by 2010″), and I am one of the biggest supporters of female achievement — which is why I constantly rail against entitled women. So, I propose the following steps that our misandric state and federal lawmakers, mostly men, can take before the next US Census:
- Abolish alimony
- Abolish child support — for divorced and unwed mothers
- Abolish presumed child custody for mothers
- Financially penalize wives who become extramaritally pregnant
- Make Roe v. Wade constitutional — give men the equal right to opt out of parenthood.
If the aforementioned five goals become reality, our entire society will change, and the next US Census will reflect those changes. Will this happen? Never. Always follow the money. Matrimon[e]y. Alimon[e]y. Always follow the money. Politicians want votes, not change — unless that change jingles. It turns out that women don’t want change, either, unless it jingles.
About the Author
Marc H. Rudov is an internationally recognized author of 30+ articles and the books Under the Clitoral Hood: How to Crank Her Engine Without Cash, Booze, or Jumper CablesTM (ISBN 9780974501727), and The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet EarthTM (ISBN 0974501719).
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January 16th, 2007 at 1:21 pm
Yep…It’s all about the money. I will get much enjoyment out of handing over my last child support check in 3 years. What will she do for tax free income then ?
You’ll also notice that the divorce lawyers don’t settle your case until they are sure that neither of you have a cent left in the bank.
January 16th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Henry David Thoreau’s thoughts on what honest men ought to do about unfair government rules.
“I heartily accept the motto, — “That government is best which governs least”; and I should like to see it acted up to more readily and systematically. Carried out, it finally amounts to this, which also I believe, — “That government is best which governs not at all”; and when men are prepared for it, that will be the kind of government which they will have.â€
“The mass of men serve the State thus, not as men mainly, but as machines, with their bodies. They are the standing army, and the militia, jailers, constables, posse comitatus, etc. In most cases there is no free exercise whatever of the judgment or of the moral sense; but they put themselves on a level with wood and earth and stones; and wooden men can perhaps be manufactured that will serve the purpose as well. Such command no more respect than men of straw, or a lump of dirt. They have the same sort of worth only as horses and dogs. Yet such as these even are commonly esteemed good citizens. Others, as most legislators, politicians, lawyers, ministers, and officeholders, serve the State chiefly with their heads; and, as they rarely make any moral distinctions, they are as likely to serve the devil, without intending it, as God. A very few, as heroes, patriots, martyrs, reformers in the great sense, and men, serve the State with their consciences also, and so necessarily resist it for the most part; and they are commonly treated by it as enemies. A wise man will only be useful as a man, and will not submit to be “clay,” and “stop a hole to keep the wind away,” but leave that office to his dust at least“
“Unjust laws exist: shall we be content to obey them, or shall we endeavor to amend them, and obey them until we have succeeded, or shall we transgress them at once? Men generally, under such a government as this, think that they ought to wait until they have persuaded the majority to alter them. They think that, if they should resist, the remedy would be worse than the evil. But it is the fault of the government itself that the remedy is worse than the evil. It makes it worse.â€
“Under a government which imprisons any unjustly, the true place for a just man is also a prison.â€
http://usinfo.state.gov/usa/infousa/facts/democrac/19.htm
Recal that Thoreau was imprisoned for not paying a tax that was used for something immoral.
I suppose child support a form of taxation (albeit a divorce tax) as the government orders men to pay an exact amount at certain times.
January 16th, 2007 at 2:11 pm
Marc, I keep suggesting the solution.
January 16th, 2007 at 4:00 pm
This egg is broken! The “only” solution is to eat something other than eggs. Either that or choke on the damn thing, as we are now. The real problem is not the 90% of women who don’t see the world as we do, but the 40% or so of “men” who don’t get it. Blame that on my generation of men (baby boomers 50 and older ). Its the king on the moutain thang. Last man standing gets the chick. aarrrgggg! Thats my simplistic take anyway.
January 16th, 2007 at 5:40 pm
I am a woman who as an unwed mother several years ago felt that since I had had the right to choose, the father should also. I never believed that he owed me any child support if he chose not to provide it.
I think the five steps proposed above are excellent. Alimoney should certainly be abolished. If people – male or female – still choose to have financially dependant spouses, instead of alimoney, a prenuptual agreement can take care of those who have willingly surrendered their independence and no one’s free will gets violated.
January 16th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
Precisely, tinkru.
January 16th, 2007 at 5:57 pm
Lol, good luck on those proposals Marc
Leykis is discussing this topic right now (1st hour).
We’ve had several examples in the recent months of high profile men who are going through divorce. Jordan, Kidd, etc. Michael Strahan actually signed a prenup signing over 1/2 of joint marital assets and 20% of his income. They all will be paying through the nose.
It should be a lesson for all of us.
January 16th, 2007 at 7:10 pm
tinkru, you have no idea how beautiful you are, and I have no idea what you look like.
look after yourself please, i need to know there is one of you in the world.
or was stepford a real place????
January 16th, 2007 at 11:23 pm
Right on, mruffolo, about Henry David Thoreau! One more thing about him: he remained unmarried & childless his whole life–as did US President James Buchanan, economist Adam Smith, Confederate general Jubal Early, & many men not as famous as they, both in their time AND increasingly in ours. Especially the young generation of men (ages 40 on down) are waking up to the dysfunction of modern western societies, fighting it the best way they know how, by avoiding 4 things: dating, r’ships, marriage & sex. I for one am 30 years old & have ALWAYS believed that both genders should pay their own ways on dates. And when it comes to sex, “No glove, no love.”
To those of the old generation who currently run the gov’t of America: I am man, now hear ME roar!
January 17th, 2007 at 7:41 am
Great suggestions, but there are too many men out there trying to protect their daughters at the expense of society. These men and their women should realize that oppression breeds revolution.
January 17th, 2007 at 12:03 pm
Nice proposals, Marc -
But I do not think you can give women both Choice and Responsibility.
These are incompatible with the current evolutionary status of the female psych…and as you point out, there’d be no money in it (which is the biggest blocker to actual legal EQUALITY).
January 17th, 2007 at 12:14 pm
Roger,
To say that you cannot “give” women choice and responsibility is insulting to women. The problem is that this rarely happens — women are NOT forced to be responsible, and I blame men for that. Men continue to defer to women and treat them like little girls; women respond by living down to those low expectations. Goldgivers attract golddiggers. VAWA authors encourage false rape accusations. I could go on and on. In life, we reap what we sow.
January 17th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
Au contraire, Roger, choice & responsibility DO go hand in hand–for both genders. We’re supposed to ACCEPT responsibility for the RESULTS of whatever CHOICES we make, no matter which gender we are. Choice without responsibility is precisely what laws like VAWA attempt to give women.
January 17th, 2007 at 10:31 pm
you guys are preaching to the choir.
women today have choices. while they “appear” to be independent, they are typically financed by men.
case in point: a woman finds herself pregnant and announces that she is going to bring the child to term. her male friend objects. she then states, “I don’t want a thing from you”.
2 months after the birth he is served paternity papers.
her ‘completely independent’ choice, his responsibility.