The Survey Says: Women Prefer Shopping Over Sex
Men and women aren’t very much alike; guys think about sex every six seconds and gals think up a new excuse not to have sex every six seconds.
When a long-time married couple engages in sex the husband will imagine he is having sex with Britney Spears, and the wife will fantasize about a shopping spree at an expensive boutique.
There’s a new survey by Unilever, a consumer products company, that illustrates the great gulf between males and females.
From Reuters:
“For most women, the choice between sex and a new wardrobe is simple — they go for the clothes.
Women on average say they would be willing to give up sex for 15 months for a closet full of new apparel, with 2 percent ready to abstain from sex for three years in exchange for new duds, according to a new survey of about 1,000 women in 10 U.S. cities.”
Given a choice of giving up sex for a month or having to wear the same sweatpants every day for a year without washing them, a dude will of course choose to don the funky sweats for a year.
From Reuters:
“The study also suggested that clothes often wear better than relationships.
The average woman between 18 and 54 years of age has hung on to her favorite article of clothing for 12 and a half years, a year longer than she’s held on to her longest relationship.”
How sad, that ratty old coat that is still hanging in your wife’s closet, may outlast your relationship.
A chick who reads this essay may become so depressed that she will go on a shopping spree. A dude, on the other hand, will deal with his blues by going to a whorehouse.
Happy Valentine’s Day
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February 7th, 2007 at 12:28 am
Robert Paul Reyes said:
Now I know where your obsession with Britney Spears comes from, Robert. You fantasize about her, then deny your attraction by writing about how much she’s a skank.
That being said, women who think they’d like to shop more than have sex just haven’t had it good enough yet.
February 7th, 2007 at 2:18 am
“The average woman between 18 and 54 years of age has hung on to her favorite article of clothing for 12 and a half years, a year longer than she’s held on to her longest relationship.â€
And she has chucked out any clothing her husband tried to keep beyond 3 years and chucked him out too.
Women! Don’t get one today.
It’s never mentioned that men think about sex every this or that many seconds AND managed to build every friggin’ thing in the world in the intervening seconds. Meanwhile women have done sod all but whine and shop.
February 7th, 2007 at 2:26 am
I am certainly not one of those woman. I like clothes, but I don’t shop much. If someone told me I could have a wardrobe of clothes if I had no sex for 15 months I’d take the sex. I would go crazy if I went that long without it. Even a month is too long.
I think it is nice that men can usually get a lot accomplished even when they are thinking about sex frequently
I usually can, too, as long as I’m clear headed.
February 7th, 2007 at 9:02 am
John, I guess we will have to agree to disagree on the issue of her reason for lack of interest in sex. You say she has just not had it good.
First, in a new relationship, there is endless copulation, screaming, moaning, scratching, etc. Does that man then just become unable to perform correctly after a couple of months of her telling him he is the best lover ever? I know that the current one is always the best one, but seriously?
Also, most men including myself had had gf’s, lovers, that lasted years and ALWAYS wanted sex, while others were more typical, went through the enthusiastic forst weeks then trended off.
Add then the results of studies like this, and even KVolz’ reply, and you see massive diversity in female sex drive. One can even read KVolz comment “a month is even too long” to mean that therefore a couple of weeks would be acceptable, and that doesnt work for most men, so there again the disconnect ever with an understanding and agreeable woman.
It is simply a fact of life that most women will not ultimately want sex as much as their mates, or even w/ enough frequency to call a reasonable compromise. This notion of you self proclaimed studs lathering all these women up requires also I would think her to be receptive to the idea, not reluctantly after days of suggesting, agreeing to go and lay down a few minutes. Choosing a sexually agreeable woman carries far more success then all the studliness one can self proclaim.
February 7th, 2007 at 9:45 am
For men , a destination, the goal. F
or women , a tool used for something else altogether. I can disagree over the observation that initially there is wild apparent abandon and desired which when this tool has worked its magic, theres no point in using it that often and a new steady state is established because the tool as used previously is no longer needed.
The assumption that its (again) always the mens fault for being a bumbling demanding boob is yet another attempt to refuse to take fair share of responsibility for a problem that significantly impacts the vast majority of relationships…
February 7th, 2007 at 9:52 am
OOps I meant I cant diagree…
February 7th, 2007 at 9:57 am
If I were a woman going to bed with men clueless about sex, I’d fantasize about shopping, too.
This Unilever survey is self-serving and stupid. It reinforces the myth that men are more sexual than women; the opposite is true. If a man can’t crank a woman’s engine, he will never believe it. This is akin to the guy who’s never taken a ballroom dancing lesson complaining that he can’t dance.
I have yet to bang a woman who fantasizes about shopping. Women in my life have always fantasized about more sex.
February 7th, 2007 at 10:34 am
marc:
Kudos for your success with obtaining sexual favors but you avoid a certain reality. There is no trick to temporarily having a wild and randy time. I used to have to pull off the road 3 or 4 times after meeting an incoming flight. That changed almost instantly when the need for the flights to and from passed, then the disinterest set in, and not on my part. The nature of things is that there are ultimately different needs. Going from orifice to orifice and claiming continuing freshness and abandon is nice, but avoids the problem by serial novelty. I suspect you are neither monogamous or in a long term relationship.
Good for you.
I hope at least if you wish to enjoy Ghetto Lifesytle a la Caucaisien, you at least don’t leave us your mess to pay for…
February 7th, 2007 at 11:16 am
Marc I’m afraid the anecdotes don’t convince many people, most people actually. I belive you said you were divorced if I recall. Were you thrashing about lustfully for the duration of the marriage, or was that before you learned your techniques?
February 7th, 2007 at 11:53 am
Please…have you been to the malls lately?
February 12th, 2007 at 4:22 pm
Unilever is full of it and so is anyone ignorant enough to believe it. Reports like that ARE the reason for many divorces. Many, many men do not have a high sex drive – it’s not that they’re not attracted to their wives/girlfriends, it’s not that they are gay, it’s not that they don’t enjoy sex… they simply don’t have a high sex drive. Then the women who happen to fall in love with them feel that there is something wrong with them – because “hey, I read the report – ya know?”. And oh, let’s not even talk about the women who DO have a high sex drive – well, they read those reports and feel like a freak of nature because ya know…they’re not willing to give up sex for anything!
When it comes to sex.. there is no “most”. There are no percentages because the truth is that no one is ever going to be 100% honest on any of the surveys done – heck, “most” can’t even be honest with their spouses about what they want – you really think they’re going to tell someone that they don’t know?