Gratitude to shared parenting moms
One of the Officers of the Berkshire Fatherhood Coalition has a letter to the editor in The Berkshire Eagle on Mothers Day:
Gratitude to shared parenting moms
Sunday, May 13
To the Editor of THE BEKSHIRE EAGLE:We at the Berkshire Fatherhood Coalition want to thank all the mothers out there who have decided to make shared parenting a part of their and their children’s lives. While courts routinely deny shared parenting in litigated cases, it is now becoming increasingly common for mothers to voluntarily place their child in joint physical custody so as to put the child first.
We understand that there are financial inducements put in place by our legal system for you to do otherwise. You, shared parenting mothers, realize the path to hell is paved with greed. You understand that not every victory that can be had in a family court is a victory for the child. You understand the importance of both the father and a mother in a child’s life. You have gone out of your way to make sure that the father is allowed to be at all important occasions in your child’s life. You have made efforts to split parenting time, and have made every effort to civilly cooperate for the sake of your child.
You have made every effort to make sure your child maintains a good relationship with the paternal side of the family, including paternal grandparents, and paternal aunt’s and uncles. You are a modern woman — you realize that simply because the divorce has ended the marriage, your ex-husband still is the father of your child. You respect men and fathers, and do not celebrate Mother’s Day by having men and fathers engage in degrading pledges not to be a violent beast.
You, shared parenting mother, respect yourself as a breadwinner and respect the father as a nurturer. You, shared parenting mother, reject outdated stereotypes of gender roles so much embraced by people that call themselves “feminist,” yet know nothing of the meaning of feminism by quickly calling the mother “nurturer” and father “breadwinner.” You, voluntarily, provide equal time and access to both parents for your child’s benefit.
You understand that the legal system’s concept of a “primary” and “secondary” parent is anathema to God. You, shared parenting mother, embrace equality. To you shared parenting mothers, we send you our most ardent love and affection. May God bless you, and may his love shine upon you, this Mother’s Day.
MARK DEMMING
Great Barrington May 7, 2007
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About Rinaldo Del Gallo Rinaldo Del Gallo, III, Esq. is the spokesperson of the Berkshire Fatherhood Coalition, whose website is BerkshireFatherhood.com. He has been practicing family law attorney and has been a member of the Massachusetts bar since 1996. Mr. Del Gallo has handled a wide variety of family law cases including issues of child custody, child visitation, child support, restraining orders, grandparent visitation, contempt of family court, access to academic records, guardianship, allegations of abuse, criminal allegations related to domestic violence, disputes over the care of a child, and care and protection proceedings before the Department of Social Services. For years, he has hosted bi-monthly free legal seminars for people of any gender having problems in family court. On behalf of non-custodial parents, he has had made numerous media appearances in printed news, radio, and television. He has authored numerous family law related articles and columns. He has performed extensive bro bono work for fathers. Attorney Del Gallo also has extensive experience as a civil rights attorney, working in the areas of free speech rights and ballot access. Mr. Del Gallo is also an intellectual property attorney and a patent lawyer, and has written what is regarded as one of the most famous law reviews in the area of patent law, “Are Methods of Doing Business Finally Out of Business As A Statutory Exception?,†that helped end the so-called “business method exception,†which paved the way for an entire field of software and Internet related patents. Attorney Del Gallo graduated from Northeastern University (Boston) with a Bachelor of Science degree in Electrical Engineering, and graduated from George Washington University (Washington) in the top of his three-year class. | More from Rinaldo Del Gallo, III
Stumble It!
Well I have often stated ” there is nothing wrong with women, that 15 or 20 years of “growing up” socially,legally and morally won’t cure.” It seems some women have already grown up and realize that the winner take all approach is not only not good for them , it is not good for the children. That respecting a man’s right to remain a parent is a good thing, that it generally promotes peace, because it promotes justice.
Alll the fancy lawyers and all the years of “unproductive fighting” can give way to reasonable behavior on the part of all parties involves. The trouble is that women have the upperhand legally and generallyare in no mood to give up anything and act like a reasonable and fairminded adult. They got away with acting socially,legally and morally irresponsible and there have been no consequences for their action. I do beleive that once men stand up and demand a fair shake, they will get. Oh sure some of the women will cry and throw a fit , but they won’t do a bit of good. The government terrorist won’t like it , but a quick lesson of who works for whom should put stop to that. I thing once this ” new idea” catched on, there will be no stopping it.