Boy Didn’t Go to Disney World with Dad Because ‘Mom Said You Were Going to Kill Me’
A letter from a reader who was the target of his ex-wife’s Parental Alienation campaign:
“After I was divorced from my son’s mother, she would constantly use him as a pawn. I remember two instances in particular.
“I was injured on the job once, and as part of the settlement I came into a modest sum of money, which I used to buy my son’s Christmas gifts one year, as well as purchase a (non-refundable) trip to Disney World. When I told my son of this, he was ecstatic, and I’m told he let everyone he knew know we were going.
“On the day I went to pick him up for our trip, he suddenly didn’t want to go, and with him being about 10 years old, I thought maybe he felt he was too old for such a trip, and so cancelled the trip (again non-refundable).
“After Christmas, and before the new year, I called and asked my son if he was enjoying the new toys I bought him, and to my shock and amazement, found out his mother had sold them because, ‘We don’t have room.’ Of course he didn’t receive the pennies on a dollar she got for them. I was very upset by this, but knew there was little I could do about it, so again, I let the subject drop.
“Early after the new year his mother was remarried (and divorced within the year), and in the spring they took my son to Disney World. Upon his return my son was enthusiastically retelling the trip when I asked him why he didn’t go with me.
“To this day I can still hear the words, ‘Because mom said you were going to take me there to kill me.’ Just like that, matter of fact, no emotion.
“Fortunately he and I are great friends now, and he often shares tales of how his mother is such a this or that, which I have to, ironically, try to explain away. This is just the tip of the iceberg of how this woman has acted since our divorce, I could tell you many similar tales.”
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May 16th, 2007 at 11:32 am
It’s stories like this that really make me fear for my daughter’s future. As an unwed father, I have a feeling that I will not win any form of custody and her mother through court until she does something wrong.
I wonder though, for the father in this article, you said that your son was 10 at the time (presumably a year or so older now?). In my reading of family law and custody issues, once a child reaches a certain age, their input becomes a very important factor in settling (or reissuing) custody. Also, the fact that the mother has been married and divorced within a year can also constitute as changing the child’s situation up too much. If I were the father in this situation, I would definitely take the mother back to court. You have rights (not many), exercise them!
May 16th, 2007 at 11:44 am
Almost sounds like a story from my past. I’m now 50 years old and happily married with 4 kids. My parents divorced when I was 4 years old. When I reached age 14, Missouri law allowed back then for a child to submit to the court who they preferred to live with. I got on the stand and told the judge who I wanted to live with (my dad) and all we got for our efforts was my dad having to pay all court costs, pay for my mom and her lawyers victory dinner and fees, and I got 60 days each summer to live with him – that’s it. Dad & I were screwed again and I’ll never forget it.
May 16th, 2007 at 11:49 am
Sach’s story is just pure terrorism – pure and simple.
May 16th, 2007 at 12:31 pm
America dishonors its fathers.
Feminist movement and laws have turned being a father and child into problems.
And America wonders why many men and women have anger management issues.
May 16th, 2007 at 2:46 pm
need more of such tales, then go to the british second wives club: http://www.bswc.co.uk/yourstory/stories/index.htm
its not the same as the second wives club in america… but if you go to that link you can read page after page after page of second wives who tell their stories about the first wives abuse, alienations and such…
May 16th, 2007 at 3:12 pm
I read a story once (if I locate it soon I promise to link it at MND) where a boy in a situation similar to the one “walvord” posted above requested to live with his dad. The boy was fourteen or so and explained to the judge his situation. He depicted life at his mother’s home as such that if it were told by any other child (to competent authorities that is), the child would have been removed by child protective services. The judge refused to listen and remanded the boy to his mother’s custody.
During a subsequent court appearance the boy requested again to be removed from a rather bad situation and when the judge again refused to listen, the boy told the judge he would run away. He also told the judge that if he ended up injured or dead, he would be sure to get the word out that this judge refused to heed his pleas and allowed this to happen.
The judge, upon confirming the boy’s allegations that living with his mother was not in his best interest, approved a change of custody to his father’s care.
May 16th, 2007 at 3:16 pm
Oh my gosh, all you have to do is report this information to the domestic violence industry and they’ll be all over it – - – NOT!!! They could care less, when it is males experiencing such vile abuse at the hands of a woman.
May 16th, 2007 at 7:00 pm
“To this day I can still hear the words, ‘Because mom said you were going to take me there to kill me.’ Just like that, matter of fact, no emotion.”
A woman would say that this just goes to show that males don’t get in touch with their feelings. But what it shows is a complete shut-down of feelings, an protection of the soul from severe assault. This woman is a monster. I hope that one day some rapacious lawyers will cotton on to the millions that can be gained from suing the arse of such wicked, destructive mothers.
May 16th, 2007 at 7:16 pm
The courts and the therapists who get involved will usually uphold a mother who disposes of any gifts the child receives from his father: it may even be written into the custody order that sending gifts to him at her house or returning him after visitation with gifts is forbidden.
It’s become standard doctrine that that’s the proper way to deal with that `problem,’ and if the visitation or exchange is supervised, is even incorporated into California’s Rules of Court.
May 16th, 2007 at 7:27 pm
A mother usually has to do something VERY VERY wrong—such that she goes to prison or long-term rehab’—for it to affect the custody order.