An unfortunate lack of Unity in our movement

I’m not sure that many understand the significance of the Pogo quote: “We have met the enemy, and he is us.”

It is our male nature that prevents our success. The very male qualities of aggressiveness and competitiveness coupled with male ego that are our enemy. Powerful men help victims, not other powerful men beat down by more powerful men. It’s male nature. Women don’t have theses problems and easily band together and cooperate by nature for survival.

In almost every case of a significant victory for our cause, one man has produced results IN SPITE of being surrounded by others telling him how to accomplish the task. Most often the man producing results is trampled by other men who seek to capitalize on his success. He is forced out and gives up and the jackals smelling success destroy the progress.

PS: After our combined 140 years of life experience, I’m sure Rich and I both agree that we’ve learned there is a Missiah and we aren’t him.

I’ve supported Rich and http://www.MensDefense.org since the mutinous fall of National Congress for Fathers and Children in ’94 because of his message of UNITY. Only Rich has continually expressed the importance of respect for ALL men and father friendly efforts be they politically correct religious in nature to the most politically incorrect extreme. Having the good sense to not attack each other is of ultimate importance. Suppressing male ego and the tendency to claim the status of the messiah must end.

“The history of our “movement” has resembled a circular firing squad unable to redirect its fire at the real, philosophic enemies.” – R. F. Doyle

Here is Rich’s message from http://www.mensdefense.org/Men‘s%20Unity.htm

Imagine men pulling together!

From a perspective of over 40 years in these trenches, I submit that ultimately the only way to ‘Save the Males’ is to form a united front of the many disparate reform organizations against the various enemies of men and fathers (many listed in “Save the Males”). Unity, though the ideal approach, is outside the realm of possibility at present, but a cooperative approach may be possible. All well-meaning organizations and individuals must have common information forums and agree to cooperate strategically if not tactically. There is enough talent and manpower dispersed throughout the men’s/fathers’ movement, internationally, to successfully confront the enemies of justice if that talent and manpower were properly coordinated. Such a force would be overwhelming and could garner the political strength to rival, if not surpass, the feminist juggernaught.

Of course, an agreement like this is more easily conceived than constructed. Requisite to any form of cooperation or unity are a common philosophy and means of communication. The common philosophy must be broad enough to include all reasonable approaches and narrow enough to exclude those approaches that are actually harmful to that philosophy. I have long suggested a philosophy meeting that criterion: “To preserve the traditional nuclear family through restoration of equal dignity and equal (not identical) rights under the law for all male persons across a broad spectrum of life, including divorce, employment, health and crime punishment.” Anything essentially similar to this will do.

I hereby put the foregoing proposal forth to leaders of the major men’s/fathers’ organizations. It is my intention to list on this page of the website the organizations that respond favorably, and who are prepared to sign on to a unity/cooperation effort. In addition to identifying the cooperative among them, this list will be informative for non-affiliated persons wishing to join organizations oriented toward achieving justice and which may be of direct assistance to them.

- R. F. Doyle