‘Affluent, professional women may experience less physical abuse and more emotional or verbal abuse’
This Naples News article describes a domestic violence program designed for well-heeled women:
“They live behind gates in glorious homes with swimming pools and manicured lawns. Many drive fancy cars, wear expensive clothing and eat at upscale restaurants. Some have successful careers or have husbands with high standing in the community. They are among the elite — women who by all appearances seem to live blessed lives. But appearances can be deceiving, said Claire Oglander, a counselor with the Naples Shelter for Abused Women and Children.”
I’ve no doubt that there are wealthy women who are abused by their husbands, just as there are wealthy men who are abused by their wives. However, I’m very suspicious about statements like “Affluent, professional women may experience less physical abuse and more emotional or verbal abuse.” Sometimes these claims are legitimate, but when it comes to divorce and custody battles (as well as restraining orders, which are often used as tactical maneuvers in these cases), “emotional or verbal abuse” can be almost anything. As the California State Bar’s Family Law Section recently pointed out, these types of accusations are often employed against innocent fathers.
Also, it is ludicrous to pretend that only men may engage in emotional or verbal abuse. When a wife argues with her husband and then takes the baby to her mother’s house, and won’t let the father see or talk to his baby until he apologizes, that’s emotional abuse. And women can certainly yell as loudly and as angrily as any man.
While on the subject of domestic violence in wealthy families, I would call the reader’s attention to the highly-publicized Xavier Caro case. It was a textbook domestic violence case, but no published journalist (with the exception of myself) used the words “domestic violence” in reporting on the case. In my column Domestic Violence Series Substitutes Emotion for Facts (San Francisco Chronicle, 4/8/05) I explained:
“Socorro Caro (pictured) abused her husband Xavier, a prominent Northridge, California rheumatologist, for years, once assaulting him so badly he had to have surgery to regain his sight in one eye. Later Socorro shot and killed three of their four children, the murder spree ending only because she ran out of bullets. The judge in the case said that the children had been used by Socorro against her husband as ’sacrificial symbolic pawns of a failed marital relationship.’ Socorro Caro is now on death row in California.”
The article on domestic violence and wealthy women is below.
Collier abuse shelter offers unique program for ‘women of means’
By Ryan Mills Naples News, 7/22/07
They live behind gates in glorious homes with swimming pools and manicured lawns.
Many drive fancy cars, wear expensive clothing and eat at upscale restaurants. Some have successful careers or have husbands with high standing in the community.
They are among the elite — women who by all appearances seem to live blessed lives.
But appearances can be deceiving, said Claire Oglander, a counselor with the Naples Shelter for Abused Women and Children.
Nationally, one in four women will be abused at some time in their lives, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. In 2006 there were 1,822 reported cases of domestic violence in the county, the Collier County Sheriff’s Office reported.
Though domestic abuse is not typically associated with professional families who live upscale lifestyles, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist in those families, officials said.
“You can’t say it’s limited to one cultural or economic based group,” said Detective Joe Whitehead of the Naples police department. “It’s something that is cross cultural, cross economic standing.”
In an attempt to better serve victims of domestic abuse who live in Collier County, the shelter recently started a Women of Means program to support upscale, educated or professional women who suffer from physical, emotional, sexual or financial abuse.
The program offers trained advocates, themselves women of means, who provide peer support to victims and make the initial contact with them at a safe, mutually agreed upon place, shelter officials said.
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August 1st, 2007 at 6:09 pm
This may well be true, however no woman should be abused in anyway for any reason.
Ever.
August 1st, 2007 at 6:39 pm
Excuse me, Vicar, but that should read, “…no person should be abused…” Singling out women as the only ones deserving of an absolute prohibition is, quite simply, sexist. Not to mention a rather thoughtless thing to say on a men’s rights board.
Or are you just trolling?
August 1st, 2007 at 6:47 pm
In order to make any sense of this psychotic feminist screed (the article, not Glenn’s commentary)…
you have to understand the THEORY (and common law) underlying all domestic violence policy and the systemic misandry linked to the DV Industry.
GOOGLE “Duluth Model.”
Educate yourself.
I could summarize the Duluth Model as “shame-and-blame-men” or, “women=victims: men=perpetrators.” (The Evil Patriarchy is the only reason women are not “equal…”)
But you really owe it to yourself to do an hour’s worth of self-education.
It is far worse than what you may imagine …
August 1st, 2007 at 7:51 pm
more women-as-victim hysteria = more congressional feminist pork!!
These women are so fat on femi-pork that there legs are almost collapseing!!
August 1st, 2007 at 10:19 pm
“….no woman should be abused in anyway for any reason”.
It is just so friggin’ easy to spout cant and nonesense, isn’t it. So, if she is robbing a bank, whacking some 2 year old in the supermarket, caught out making a false accusation of rape, stealing the reputation of a man or pocketing hundreds of thousands of taxpayer dollars on some feminazi pretext, she should not be abused?
These are insufficient ‘reason’ ?
She should be more than just abused, you thick shit ‘Vicar’. And frankly so should you.
August 1st, 2007 at 10:41 pm
If you shelter battering women, then you’re a batterer.
August 2nd, 2007 at 6:10 am
It’s utterly ridiculous to say that “no person should be abused in anyway for any reason.” Dominance struggles are a fundamental characteristic of biological systems and one person’s defintion of “abuse” is another person’s defintion of engaging in “a frank and open discussion”. It all depends on who’s winning the discussion.
None of these phrases have operational defintions so their occurrence can never be tested with any sort of validity or repeatability. The sorts of statements made in the original article and in some previous comments are nothing more than attempts at social manipulation to gain social advantage, which is the whole point of feminazi discourse anyway.
August 2nd, 2007 at 6:10 am
dont know where to start this thread,but this is funniest saga iv seen ,read the comments
money changes everything
Elizabeth Dewberry Left Robert Olen Butler To Join Ted Turner’s Collection
http://gawker.com/news/money-changes-everything/elizabeth-dewberry-left-robert-olen-butler-to-join-ted-turners-collection-284346.php?cpage=2
August 2nd, 2007 at 7:28 am
This is womens way of entering the work force!!
Women-as-victim hysteria = congressional femi-pork…
August 2nd, 2007 at 9:01 am
Before I’m verbally battered I should qualify my last statement..
This is (SOME) womens ways of entering the work force!!
women-as-victim hysteria = congressional femi-pork!!
August 2nd, 2007 at 9:28 am
>In an attempt to better serve victims of domestic abuse who live in Collier County, the shelter recently started a Women of Means program to support upscale, educated or professional women who suffer from physical, emotional, sexual or financial abuse.
Now we have “financial” abuse too? Give me a break! Pretty soon the whole of men’s behavior in any marriage will be regulated and everything that at all bothers the woman will automatically be “abuse”. Then after that, all those rules will be applied outside of marriage.
Gee, I can’t wait! Seems like we’re almost there now.
August 2nd, 2007 at 9:52 am
My annoyacne stems from the title of the article that says they “experience less” , inherently implying that regardless they are subjected to abuse, it just so happens that being educated and upwardly mobile means that it is less. But still the affront is that all marriages must be somehow abusive for women.
August 2nd, 2007 at 10:29 am
In America I observe that marriage is risky for a man.
Divorce is unilateral and no-fault, so it is easy to accomplish; hence, America has one of the highest divorce rates of the world’s approximate 230 countries.
The way America’s government courts award children, income, property, and liberties, women are rewarded to divorce. The way media glorifies single mothers, women are honored to divorce.
A man could be called foolish to marry an American woman in America today.
August 2nd, 2007 at 11:57 am
This is one one the best expose’s of the current “marraige strike”
http://www.mattweeks.com/strike.htm
August 2nd, 2007 at 12:13 pm
Now we have “financial” abuse too? Give me a break!
Oh yes! If your bank account is nearly empty, and you do not allow your wife to overspend (with YOUR money) – then feminists will call this abuse.
Economists, however, will call it “living within your means”.
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:56 pm
This is women’s way of integrating into the workforce. If it does not like it and it’s offended it has to be changed. The privileged princess’s effort of flooding the workforce with their manufactured “womyn friendly” degrees has ensured that my wages have not changed for 15 years.