It seems that after every school shooting, the usual suspects, often with vested interests, come out of the woodwork with their theories: guns, psychotropic drugs, violent video games, Satanic lyrics, Nazism … But the Secret Service has determined that school assassins do not fit a “profile” — aside from the fact that they have all been boys. Therefore, a more productive approach would be to look for certain character risk factors:
1. Lack of attachment with a primary caregiver at beginning of life. Seung-Hui Cho did not even communicate with his parents and those around him. In 1997, the father of Minnesota shooter Jeff Weise committed suicide and two years later his mother, whom he “hated,” was partly paralyzed and brain damaged. Weise was estranged from his mother and other family members and had a strained relationship with his grandfather, whom he lived with and murdered. The parents of Granite Hills High School assassin Jason Hoffman separated when he was 3 months old.
2. Recent trauma. Wiese’s school had rejected him six months prior to his rampage and was placed on “homebound study.” He then left a message on the school’s computer screen that people at the school “are going to pay.” Hoffman had just learned that he was not going to graduate. All these boys had left numerous clues that they were deeply disturbed, and their cries for help were ignored. Cho is simply the latest example.
3. Trigger. These boys were heavily stressed out in dysfunctional home environments. Former neighbors of Hoffman said he spent hours walking his neighborhood to get away from a troubled home life.
A groundbreaking 2001 Australian study of violent high school students discovered that almost all had suffered the loss of, or separation from, a close family member in their early childhood years. Before he reached the age of 10, Weise lost three relatives in eight years. The study, written by Elizabeth Parry, found a connection between stress-related disorders and the background of boys most at risk of violent behavior.
Parry reported that these boys were “unhappy with themselves, fearful, afraid of the future and concerned they would die with no identity.” Weise and his male friend who helped him plan the methodical rampage discussed in e-mails the placement of school cameras; not to avoid detection, but to make sure the shooting spree would be filmed. Cho took pictures of himself, which he then sent to the media.
Scientists have recently found a possible link between the psychological effects of lack of attachment and how the brain develops. According to researcher Antonio Damasio, there is “compelling evidence that the human brain has a specialized region for making personal and social decisions and that this region, located in the frontal lobes at the top of the brain, is connected to deeper brain regions that store emotional memories.”
Frontal lobe damage has always been a paradox: why do these bright boys behave so poorly in the social world? Drs. Antonio and Hanna Damasio found that human decision-making involves the frontal lobes utilizing separate but interconnected circuits. One functions in the social/emotional domain and the other functions in extra personal space, objects, language and arithmetic domains.
Hoffman was fascinated with mechanical things such as cars, boats and engines. But when it came to making rational decisions in personal and social behavior, he fell apart.
Boys suffer the majority of childhood brain disorders and diseases, many of which eventually translate into immoral or undisciplined behavior; and the adolescent male brain tends more toward diseases that affect self-control. But our schools have not realized how mentally and emotionally fragile boys can be.
When we finally switch from assuming that boys do not need any help to proactively assisting those who are adrift and angry, we will hopefully be inspired to a new way of thinking. Until then, these lost boys struggling to cope will continue to “cry bullets.”
This article was originally published in the Petaluma Argus-Courier.
(Joe Manthey is a Petaluma-based gender equity advocate who is a trustee for The Boys Project and leads Teaching to Gender Differences in Brain Development seminars. His Web site is www.joemanthey.com.)
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veritas said,
Thanks for youre work joe..
Ever since the feminists broke up mens social networks in the 50’s (moose clubs, elks clubs, bowling leagues, ect. ect.) We’ve witnessed a tengeable increase in all forms of anti-social behavoir..more rapes, murders, roberries, drug abuse…
We cannot continue to fashoin our culture solelly around women/girls at the expense of abbandonding our boys!!
August 8, 2007 at 4:00 pm
Virtue said,
I was going to make a sarcastic remark about being captain obvious …..then I realized yeah what your saying is obvious but no one WANTS TO SEE THE TRUTH….so I guess its not so obvious after all.
August 8, 2007 at 5:04 pm
infidel said,
Dr James Dobson in one of his books (”Raising Up Boys”, I think) said that nearly all men in prison had no fathers or bad relationships with their father.
August 8, 2007 at 6:12 pm
steven deluca said,
Glad to see you are still going strong Joe. Good work.
August 8, 2007 at 6:15 pm
mruffolo said,
Boys with bad character is one of the consequences of a feminism.
With good male leadership in the family and with excellent male teachers in schools in general, boys may have better role models, better examples to learn.
Ironic how feminism to focus on the kids, and the government gives them this right, yet, in general, results are poor for boys.
August 8, 2007 at 6:36 pm
amfortas said,
The ‘Best interests of the Children’ are determined by women. Women know sweet FA about being male so the ‘best interests’ of 50% of our children is increasingly F’ed U.
August 9, 2007 at 3:04 am
Virtue said,
infidel said,
Dr James Dobson in one of his books (”Raising Up Boys”, I think) said that nearly all men in prison had no fathers or bad relationships with their father.
He isn’t far off…..I noticed that about 98% of all juvenile inmates had a father that was either not present or in jail or completely useless as a human being
August 9, 2007 at 5:43 pm
college activist said,
according to federal satistics…70% of all repeat violent offenders grew up in a home where there was no father, and probabbly no adult males around at all!!
Feminist anti-male hysteria is causing judges to remove fathers from their childrens lives, and the net result is societal criminality/chaos!!
September 6, 2007 at 6:46 am
cybro said,
There is only one solution to this problem. Boys who show violent behavior, like playing tag or video games, must be removed from the school systems by the age of 7. Before they can do any harm.
The violent behavior can be channeled into something useful. They can be trained to fight in places like Iraq or Iran. About 10 years of combat should be enough to settle them down. After that they will be able to return to society under normal circumstances.
September 15, 2007 at 3:29 pm
mruffolo said,
In America after the wife divorces, fathers do not have civil rights to train up their children.
October 5, 2007 at 8:29 pm
conservativation said,
Middle school teacher Moms pull a train on your male children
February 19, 2008 at 9:20 am