Comments on: When Divorced Dads Try to Install Financial Responsibility in Their Children, They’re Labeled ‘Cheap’ or ‘Deadbeats’ http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/10/06/when-divorced-dads-try-to-install-financial-responsibility-in-their-children-theyre-labeled-cheap-or-deadbeats/ Men's Rights Activism, MRA Politics, Analysis, Commentary and Global News Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:42:23 -1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: DcFather http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/10/06/when-divorced-dads-try-to-install-financial-responsibility-in-their-children-theyre-labeled-cheap-or-deadbeats/comment-page-1/#comment-52858 DcFather Mon, 08 Oct 2007 18:09:06 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=1138#comment-52858 No mater the scenario, there is a double standard in play that no matter what a divorced father does, he is to be vilified, while at the same time no matter what the mother does she is to be celebrated. The people thinketh what they are told to think, and they obey without question. No mater the scenario, there is a double standard in play that no matter what a divorced father does, he is to be vilified, while at the same time no matter what the mother does she is to be celebrated. The people thinketh what they are told to think, and they obey without question.

]]> By: TheManOnTheStreet http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/10/06/when-divorced-dads-try-to-install-financial-responsibility-in-their-children-theyre-labeled-cheap-or-deadbeats/comment-page-1/#comment-52846 TheManOnTheStreet Mon, 08 Oct 2007 12:31:16 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=1138#comment-52846 My kids got cars when they went off to college. TMOTS My kids got cars when they went off to college.

TMOTS

]]> By: Zebster http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/10/06/when-divorced-dads-try-to-install-financial-responsibility-in-their-children-theyre-labeled-cheap-or-deadbeats/comment-page-1/#comment-52835 Zebster Mon, 08 Oct 2007 04:50:29 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=1138#comment-52835 A parent buying their child a car is highly indulgent - even with the condition of good grades attached. When I was 16(only 8 years ago) I was told that I had to pay for everything I needed to get on the road - car, gas, insurance, license/permit fees, and lessons. That said, modern society labels anyone with significant funds who doesn't want to pony up for whatever fun, indulgent, half-baked or otherwise expensively wasteful scheme as "Stingy." It's not just fathers - although they're getting the worst of it - but rich and middle-class taxpayers, moms, grandparents, and many others. A parent buying their child a car is highly indulgent – even with the condition of good grades attached. When I was 16(only 8 years ago) I was told that I had to pay for everything I needed to get on the road – car, gas, insurance, license/permit fees, and lessons. That said, modern society labels anyone with significant funds who doesn’t want to pony up for whatever fun, indulgent, half-baked or otherwise expensively wasteful scheme as “Stingy.” It’s not just fathers – although they’re getting the worst of it – but rich and middle-class taxpayers, moms, grandparents, and many others.

]]> By: amfortas http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/10/06/when-divorced-dads-try-to-install-financial-responsibility-in-their-children-theyre-labeled-cheap-or-deadbeats/comment-page-1/#comment-52828 amfortas Mon, 08 Oct 2007 01:03:31 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=1138#comment-52828 "I told Brendan I would give him a car and pay for the insurance if he kept his grades up." We make sticks with which to beat our own backs. Is this just an American thing? The car buying for kids thing? Is it the affluent society gone nuts? I have little problem with giving kids incentives to do their school work well, - a praise, a treat even, but rewards such as this are way over the top. Excessive. He is 16. A child. He should be on a bike. His first car should be something HE works and saves for. If he wants his lad to know the value of work and money, "install financial responsibility", then stop giving him expensive bribes. The self-bought, first big thingo is an object of pride for a lad. Getting it for sod all isn't. Getting a car just for doing as expected at school is sending entirely the wrong message. What does this chap give him for wiping his bottom? As for the mother. Does this chap really expect the ex-wife to support his decisions? He should stick to his own decision regardless of the consequences engineered by his ex-harridan. “I told Brendan I would give him a car and pay for the insurance if he kept his grades up.”

We make sticks with which to beat our own backs.

Is this just an American thing? The car buying for kids thing? Is it the affluent society gone nuts?

I have little problem with giving kids incentives to do their school work well, – a praise, a treat even, but rewards such as this are way over the top. Excessive.

He is 16. A child. He should be on a bike. His first car should be something HE works and saves for. If he wants his lad to know the value of work and money, “install financial responsibility”, then stop giving him expensive bribes. The self-bought, first big thingo is an object of pride for a lad. Getting it for sod all isn’t. Getting a car just for doing as expected at school is sending entirely the wrong message. What does this chap give him for wiping his bottom?

As for the mother. Does this chap really expect the ex-wife to support his decisions? He should stick to his own decision regardless of the consequences engineered by his ex-harridan.

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