This editorial cartoonÃ‚Â pretty well sums up society’s “woman good/man bad” norm on reproductive issues. I expounded on this at greater length in my co-authored column Respect a Man’s Choice, Too (8/1/06) for the left-wing website AlterNet. I wrote:
“….5 million American women legally walk away from motherhood every year through adoption, abortion or abandonment. In over 40 states mothers can completely opt out of motherhood by returning unwanted babies to the hospital shortly after birth. If men like [Choice for Men lawsuit plaintiff Matt] Dubay are deadbeats and deserters, what are these women?
“Whenever a child is born outside of the context of a loving, two-parent family, there are no good solutions. [Feminist critic Kai] Ma overstates her case, but she is correct that ‘Choice for Men’ is a flawed solution. However, the current regime, which provides women with a variety of choices and men with none, is also flawed.
“Dubay’s conduct is not particularly admirable, and he’s certainly not a candidate for father of the year; however, he does have a point. Over the past four decades womenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s advocates have successfully made the case that it is wrong to force a pregnancy on an unwilling mother. Despite the backlash against Dubay, hopefully his lawsuit will result in a greater societal awareness that it is also wrong to force a pregnancy on an unwilling father.”