Sperm Donor Betrayed by Lesbian Couple He Aided
A man who was kind enough to donate his sperm to a lesbian couple has now–18 years later–been stabbed in the back and hit up for child support. According to the New York Post:
“A sperm donor who sent gifts signed ‘Dad’ to his biological son has been slapped with a child-support order, 18 years after helping his friend get pregnant.
“The Nassau County man donated his sperm to a work colleague, and included his name on the child’s birth certificate, saying it would give the boy an identity, courts documents revealed.
“He then blurred the lines between donor and full-time father by sending money, presents and cards signed ‘Dad’ and ‘Daddy,’ and having phone chats with the now college-bound teen.
“But the man’s goodwill backfired: A court ruling says he is now liable for financial support of the 18-year-old, who lives with his mother in Oregon.
“‘It really is no good deed goes unpunished,’ said the man’s lawyer, Deborah Kelly of Potrush and Daab in Garden City…
“‘He was assured that he would have no responsibility on his part and of course 18 years has elapsed where there hasn’t been responsibility,’ she said.
“‘He did not anticipate this would happen now, when the child is almost an adult, that the mother would come forward for child support.’
“She said her client had requested a DNA test, ‘because we have no concrete evidence he is the father.’
“Nassau County Family Court judge Ellen Greenberg ruled Nov. 16 against a paternity test, saying it would have a traumatic effect on the child.
“The child signed an affidavit stating that he has ‘never known anyone other than [the man] to be his father,’ according to court documents.
“If payments were to go ahead, the child support would be determined based on the mother’s earning capacity; the reported income of her partner, who is also a doctor; and the father’s income…
“The father said he had contact with the child from his birth until 1993, when the lesbian couple and his son moved to Oregon, according to court documents. From then the contact dropped to seven phone calls in the past 15 years and one meeting for a few hours three years ago.”
A few points:
1) Incredibly, the court won’t even allow him to have a DNA test to confirm that he really is the father.
2) According to the Post, “The child signed an affidavit stating that he has “never known anyone other than [the man] to be his father.” One wonders what pressure his mother may have put on him to sign this and be a part of this scam.
3) The boy is 18–he’s no longer a child, and nobody should be required to pay child support for him. This is a court-ordered double-standard–as a married father, my wife and I are not legally required to give my son a dime when he’s 18.
4) The kicker is “If payments were to go ahead, the child support would be determined based on the mother’s earning capacity; the reported income of her partner, who is also a doctor; and the father’s income.” So it’s not enough for the biological mother to have her own income and be supported by her lesbian partner, who is also a doctor–she needs to suck money out of yet another person to pay for this.
I’m sure in any other aspect, the biological mother would fiercely assert that her lesbian partner fills the second parent/parental role for the boy, and that he doesn’t need nor ever did need a father. Yet somehow when it comes to child support, her lesbian partner means nothing, and she’s got to go get money from a man.
The full New York Post article can be seen here.
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December 4th, 2007 at 11:14 am
For those viewers who don’t realize it, these greedy b*tches were able to make a claim for child support 18 years AFTER the birth of the child……….
…… while a man’s right to disclaim paternity to a baby that he does not believe is his is limited to mere WEEKS, depending upon the state.
Isn’t it a bit of a double standard that women can take as long as they wish to get their paws onto a man’s money while a man must defend himself promptly or automatically be forced to accept paternity!
The moral of the story is that men’s semen has marketable value……. with that value amounting to 18 years’ worth of payments.
Your tax dollars at work, providing such fair and equitable laws……..
December 4th, 2007 at 12:16 pm
that would be 18+ years of payments. some states REQUIRE that you pay if the child goes to college…while children of intact couples have no such guarantee of financial support during college.
December 4th, 2007 at 4:03 pm
Glen, they’re man-haters anyway…don’t be so surprised.
December 4th, 2007 at 6:34 pm
The aim was to transfer wealth from those who earn it, using the best interest fo the child/ren.
Melaine Phillips in “The sex change society”
December 5th, 2007 at 10:25 am
Aside from this being another F-the-man-exploit-the-child story, there’s another angle: Why now? Why after 18 years does the woman suddenly decide to screw up an arrangement that had worked for so long including for the child?
It’s possible that this has to do with her wanting to get someone else to pay for her son’s college but it’s more likely she just decided to stab this guy in the back for the fun of it.
Foreign men from a variety of ethnic backgrounds tell me that they have seen women in other cultures hate men or even be vindictive, but there’s usually a reason. American women, they argue, just hurt men for the sake of it.
When I was considering dating and marrying American women, apologists told me that I should just accept their (apparent) materialistic nature. They don’t do anything for men and they judge men based upon what they can get out of them. I found that relationship to be sterile at best and draining at worst. Why would I want to live with a sword of Demacles over my head?
Now it’s apparent that American women, drunk with power, will not stop at simple exploitation and not just the lesbians above.