oh and another thing, stop being lazy. stop being slackers who just "get by". have some ambition. and stop watching sports all day and playing video games when you could be doing something productive with your time. if a woman doesn't respect you, you know what, maybe you haven't earned her respect. ever thought of that? either that or you are a pushover who can't stand up for yourself, which goes back to you not being to earn her respect. too many guys nowadays don't carry themselves in ways that would earn my respect. or they are too timid to go after a girl, which could translate into being too timid to do a lot of other things in life. for lack of a better phrase, grow a pair.

and lastly, the respect goes both ways. so many guys nowadays have little respect for women and use them until they are ready to settle down. but then when they are ready to settle down, they wonder why they have to deal with women who are jaded by men. hmm, maybe because those women were played by guys like you in the past who didn't respect them. as the jewish tradition goes, if you treat a woman with respect and give her the world, then God will give YOU the world. so maybe men should step up and make the first move in that department. good luck guys.

Secondly, young men will not participate in marriage until the divorce system is reformed and moved to a “responsibility-based” model. For forty years, men have married women “until death do us part”, until she changed her mind. This most often occurs shortly after the birth of a second child, and corresponds in time with the marriage being long enough to get the lion’s share of a property settlement. Two kids = one whopping child support order.

This situation is out of women’s hands now. Men have made their move, and they won’t change their minds until marriage is restored as a protected and valued institution at the policy level.

The results are pretty shocking:

1. Only 5% of women surveyed feel their ass is too big.

2. 10% of women surveyed feel their ass is too small.

3. The remaining 85% say they don’t care; they love him; he’s a good man and they would have married him anyway.

for the record… the don who asked for this article sure as hell wasn’t donnieboy57!!!

With Disney raising our daughters, the influence of feminist entitlements and government sponsored economic incentives to divorce….how many women in western culture truly fall out side the category of “the selfish or the fickle.”

Modern psychology is a feminized fraud that portrays all women as victims and all men as perpetrators. The MAJORITY of shrinks are our enemy

..You may be onto something, and there are a handfull of psychologists that are trying to redeem th profession!!

Secondly, why in the world is this “Dr.” Helen allowed to post articles on this site?

Hm, let’s see:

1) Encourage your husband to see friends once in a while.

2) Don’t call your husband continuously on his cell phone to “check up on him” when he is out with friends or others.

3) For goodness sakes, don’t write on your blog or on chat boards about the problems you are having with your relationship.

4) Finally, just try to treat the guy the way you would like to be treated and treat him like a human being with some compassion and kindness.

Wow, what depth! Is this what shrinks charge $150 an hour for? To give advice that sounds like it comes out of the mouth of an eighteen year old?

Modern psychology is a feminized fraud that portrays all women as victims and all men as perpetrators. The MAJORITY of shrinks are our enemy.

And for what? To be a housewife? Horrors. That’s slavery, women are told, men are told. Leg irons attached to the stove. Remember stoves?

And why? Hormones? Desires? Delusions, the Feminists say.

“Missing out on marriage because a bunch of “feminists” told you”, may well be the start of a new paragraph but as any housewife will tell you, when you grind shit into a pristine carpet there has to be a hell of a lot of scrubbing to do to repair the damage and Dr H hasn’t reached for the soap. Nor have all too many women who are idly content with the stain in the middle of the room.

You can’t miss the stain nor the pile of shit. It’s right behind the friggin’ Elephant.

This glaring lack of detail is a point of particular interest since many feminized American women tend to spend quite a bit of time with their ankles back beside their ears enjoying themselves with whomever catches their fancy, biding time with their careers or lack thereof as the case may be until……….

……. they decide that it’s time to cash in their chips before it’s too late and try to find a “Poindexter” (successful career-oriented man, if perhaps not a “hunk”) to marry so that she can deny him most or all of that wild sex that she spent a decade or two enjoying while she gets a lock on a meal-ticket.

The upshot of course is that many of them are waiting a bit too long after gravity takes its toll and the 30- and 40-something women realize that they are competing for a smaller pool of marriageable men – that would be the marriage strike that feminists forgot to mention in their “you can have it all” speeches.

While it would have been nice to see Dr. Helen advise women wisely on choosing prospective husbands, the general rule is that women tend to look for affluence in men that they wish to marry.

I doubt if any advice directing women to do otherwise would even be taken seriously by most, given other societal pressures for women to “get what you grab”.

Families, procreating families, the ones that can and do have children, are the cornerstone of our society. If two people don’t expect to have children then the whole issue of marriage is almost irrelevant. And, by their choice, they have become almost irrelevant to the society.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that, even though you have been married for 13 years, you don’t have children. If you had even a single teenager or older in the house then you would realize that children are the essense of a real marriage.

That said, her advice falls flat. She advises women to marry the “right” man but no advice on what the right man is or how to find him. A good marriage begins BEFORE the couple meets each other. If they’re total jerks before they met, it’s highly unlikely that they’ll change their ways afterwards. (This isn’t to say that immature people don’t grow up when they get married as many have done so out of necessity.)