Venus: The Dark Side–’Some women ‘remind’ their children of that time when their father abused them even though he did not’

“[Dr Richard A. Warshak] recounts an experiment with a group of pre-school children who were asked to recall a time when someone called Sam Stone visited the classroom. His visit was part of the experiment. The next day the children were shown a dirty teddy bear that was not in the room when he visited. The children were asked:

“‘Remember that time Sam Stone visited your classroom and spilled chocolate on that white teddy bear? Did he do it on purpose or was it an accident?’ By the end of the experiment 72 per cent of the youngest children falsely accused Sam Stone of wrongdoing!”

Alienating parents can and often do plant false “memories” in the minds of impressionable young children. In Venus: The Dark Side, Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary write:

“Some women ‘remind’ their children of that time when their father abused them. Even though he did not. This ‘reminder’ is repeated so often that eventually the children believe it must have happened, even though they have absolutely no recollection of it. This is pure brainwashing.

“By the time they go to court, the children remember very clearly the abuse that never took place. It is well known that vindictive mothers coach their children to say certain things against their father during child residence battles.

“Divorce Poison, by Dr Richard A. Warshak, is a ground breaking book that catalogues the extreme measures some parents – men and women – are prepared to take to get back at ex-partners, for actual or perceived transgressions. The author details systematic campaigns of hatred and revenge intended to inflict maximum harm with little or no regard for the well-being of the children. The book offers a great deal of practical help for both partners to counter the effects of this divorce poison. A must-read for any parent caught up in child residence battles.

“In his book, Warshak recounts an experiment with a group of pre-school children who were asked to recall a time when someone called Sam Stone visited the classroom. His visit was part of the experiment. The next day the children were shown a dirty teddy bear that was not in the room when he visited. The children were asked: “Remember that time Sam Stone visited your classroom and spilled chocolate on that white teddy bear? Did he do it on purpose or was it an accident?” By the end of the experiment 72 per cent of the youngest children falsely accused Sam Stone of wrongdoing!

“When the vindictive mother of your children knows you love them, these types of actions sometimes become her most effective weapons against you. However, you have a weapon too. To help your children to question any negative things their mother tells them about you, make sure they meet and spend time with people who think well of you. These can be colleagues, family members, friends and all their children. Let them see you being liked and appreciated by others.”
 
(The above contains excerpts from Venus: The Dark Side, Copyright ©Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary 2007. www.VenusTheDarkSide.com.)

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