Venus: The Dark Side on Female Sociopaths (Part II)–’She abuses the children by depriving them of their father, because she’s punishing him’
“So obsessed with what she wants, she will ignore or neglect her children while claiming the opposite. She plays the martyr and expects constant attention. Her demanding behavior almost guarantees it.
“If she is divorced, she may have grown to hate her ex-husband more than she loves her children. She abuses the children by depriving them of access to their father, because she’s punishing him for not delivering what she wanted in a husband. She refuses to consider that she played any role in the marriage break-up.”
There are male sociopaths and there are female sociopaths, but female sociopaths are rarely discussed. In Venus: The Dark Side, authors Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary discuss this important subject in depth. Sheppard and Cleary write:
“She believes she is entitled to everything she desires. With an overdeveloped sense of self, working for what she wants is an inconvenience. Hard work is for everybody else. She wants the fast buck and the short-cut to success. Becoming a social parasite is quicker than toiling for anything. And when she pulls it off, she can then congratulate herself on cheating, conning or defrauding others who may be more intelligent or successful than she is.
“Her every whim must be accommodated. Humility is alien to her. She is self-centered, opinionated and over-confident, and expects to be pampered and treated as superior.
“She has possibly dabbled at shoplifting to feed her sense of entitlement for whatever she wants and for the ‘buzz’. So obsessed with what she wants, she will ignore or neglect her children while claiming the opposite. She plays the martyr and expects constant attention. Her demanding behavior almost guarantees it. (more…)
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January 15th, 2008 at 11:30 pm
I know someone who fits that to a T.
Watch the femonazis go after the authors.
Feminazis are the cultural equivalent of the old Robber Barons, psychopaths and sociopaths all.
January 16th, 2008 at 2:41 am
All,
A lot of guys end up picking the sick chick every time because they do not know how to avoid picking exciting narcissist-Oedipal women.
Here is an excellent series of very short pamphlets (out of print, but available used on Amazon). The author is Brenda Schaeffer. The pamphlets are “Power Plays”, “Signs of Addictive Love”, “Signs of Healthy Love”, and “Love Addiction, Help Yourself Out”. In 20 years of doing support group work, I have never found anything so powerful, simple, useful, and straightforward as these pamphlets are. There is no psycho-BS in these pamphlets.
There are nice gals out there. You won’t pick a good one until you know what to go for, what to avoid, and how to see through the dating mask so you don’t wake up to a daymare on your honeymoon.
And, if you are stuck in a sick relationship (or extricating yourself from a bad marriage), these pamphlets can save your life. You might not like it, but at least you won’t end up in a one-down situation all the time. It is possible to pull a sick chick out of her swamp if you know what you are doing. If you are married to a sick chick and you are miserable, you need these pamphlets more than air.
January 16th, 2008 at 4:05 am
I don’t see any reason to get married in the first place. It is only a tool to be used for future divorce. Marriage is a contract you sign with the government that benefits only the woman. Ask yourself what will the marriage contract gain for you. Ever wonder why woman are the ones who push for the marriage. Always under the guise of “Don’t you love me” “To make it legal” “For the children” Don’t you believe it. There is nothing you can’t have monetarily , emotionally ,or intimately by just living together.
DO NOT DO IT !
January 16th, 2008 at 8:32 am
Family law is both a dream come true and a bountiful playground for female sociopaths, getting the hero/victim treatment for abusing her children, having a few standard lies to tell to easily manipulate the entire system into placating her hate-filled whims, exacting revenge for her own mental problems on her children’s father, all with virtually zero chance of being exposed as an abusive, manipulative, sick, and evil fraud.
Psychopaths aren’t easily recognized, male or female. It is very hard to properly diagnose, and trained psychologists can be fooled. Though she will tell you they all got what they deserved, or more likely that they deserved worse, the surest sign of a female sociopath is a trail of ruined lives wherever she goes, although she won’t exactly be introducing you to any of them.
While male psychopaths are most likely either in prison or in a position of power, I’d wager that most female psychopaths are single mothers who don’t “allow” the children and father to have any sort of relationship, beyond subtly teaching the children to hate their father, bit by bit, day after day, as she laughs behind the back at those who shower her with accolades and approval her for her destructive actions.
Good luck getting the system to even consider, let alone investigate her psychological problems, especially sociopathy. Like pedophiles, government wants to ignore the fact that many sociopaths are female. It doesn’t conform to the woman good, man bad mindset of government, especially family law. About the only thing an unsuspecting male can do is get away, as far away and as soon as possible. Children with such a mother, particularly among the 99% of mothers who are undiagnosed, face a very grim future, and there is very little if anything anybody besides the sick mother can do about it.
January 16th, 2008 at 12:08 pm
This describes about 80 % of the female population in California.
October 4th, 2009 at 5:45 am
I was with a male sociopath for three yrs. I eventually had to self help myself by getting online and reading about the dangers of a sociopathic man and learning all their patterns, their charactoristics, etc… I was getting help by reading stories concerning the sociopath; By, FEED BLITZ, I was still with my boyfriend whom I had previously planned to marry, but, as time went on I realized that I had a major problem on my hands, I was stuck, or so I thought, as we will tend to get so attached to these type of sick people, as they will also have a sweet side to them …Needless to say, I learned the hard way in the three yrs. I was a glutten for punishment, I thought that with some time and Gods help that things would change for the better: God did help me, but his plan was far a different plan than what I was praying for, but he did help me to see the whole picture and I got help…Lucky I did for I almost lost my left eye at one time because my boyfriend tried to pluck it out, he threatened to break my neck several times, I was on an up and down roller coaster at all times, and I would stay because of that sweet, charming, and gentle side that he could have at times, and you’d never believe there could be another side to him when he was really nice, but there was a very cold and dark side to him that I learned I was never going to change or fix in any way. I am thankful that I did flee from this relationship, I feel fortunate that I still have my life, my eyes, my sanity, I now have peace of mind, I can breathe in and breathe out with peace, no more contension, no more wondering what did I do: Why is he this way? Is it something he was born with? Was he abused as a childe? can I help him? NO, NO, and No Etc…
I have a son who is in a relationship with a girl who we know now has all the charactoristics of a female sociopath, he’s been with her now for a year, he is miserable most of the time, she has three children and he has two, they are butting heads continually, it’s like spontanious combustion, and this girl wants to marry my son like yesterday, she’s very controlling, very minipulative, she is a severe jealous nature, of not only my son, but, my grandchildren and my sons attention towards them. When I first met this girl, I thought she was sweet, she’s very pretty, and has a compassionate way about her…Wrong, I was so wrong, as I have spent just two weeks with them , they needed me to babysit as she is going back to school etc…After just being in their home for the two weeks I found myself wanting to run and hide; They were at each other continually, fighting all the time, and I could see she was wanting to control his every day, his every breath so to speak, she is very minipulative, and threatens dangerously if things do not go according to the way she wants, she threatens his job, to damage his belongings “BURN THEM” very irrational and out of control, when he confronts he in a mild way and asks her why she gets so out of control, if she can not turn everything around and make it look as though it was him, my son, then she will not let him say anything, and she bursts in to hate and threats, very dangerous threats Etc… My son is very sick, and distraight, he’s mentally drained, yet trying to hang on to any hope left of saving this abusive relationship. I don’t see my son but very little, and I would like to help him to understand how these people who are this sick can really bring you down, or even kill you and the very best thing to do is get as far away from them as possible. I would like for you to send me more information on the sociopathic female if you will, you can send to my e-mail address, and I will forward it to him, he can read it while he is at work, and hopefully it will better help him see the light on this matter, these kind of relationships are deadly, and I would like to see my son get out of it before she has him thrown in jail as she has threatened to take her own hands and make it look as thought she has been chocked and see if she can have him put in jail, she has made alot of crazy threats off the wall things, she snaps in a matter of a blink etc… It’s a dangerous situation that my son has got himself in to. Please help with any information you may have to help him, and I will forward it to him so he can read it at work.
Thank you for all your time in this.
Sincerely,
T L