Background: Recently I asked you to help Wisconsin Fathers for Children and Families try to get their shared parenting bill out of committee. To learn more, click here.
Sharon, a reader, sent a letter via my site to the Wisconsin legislative committee titled “I do NOT Support Wisconsin’s Equal Placement bill AB-571.” I asked and received her permission to share her views on shared parenting with my readership–her letter to the committee is below.
Dear Wisconsin Representative:
Equal parenting / shared parenting ONLY works when BOTH parents can cooperate for the best interest of the child.
I have a drunk for an ex-husband who abused me both physically and emotionally throughout my entire short marriage. We have a 2 1/2 year old son that is being cut in half emotionally and tortured every weekend he is forced to spend under his father’s care. I have termed this abuse of my son to be “Solomonizing”.
It is clear through psychological studies that children thrive in happy homes consisting of 2 loving parents. They can also thrive in happy homes of a single parent. And they can thrive in broken homes with split parents that both love and focus on them. They do not, however, thrive in situations where they are taken away from their mother and picked up by an aunt and left at grandma’s while dad gets drunk. They do not thrive in situations where medical information is withheld because the parent doesn’t want to risk being held accountable for neglecting the child. They do not thrive in situations where telephone calls are restricted and refused and tampered with to prevent the baby from talking to mommy when he is away from her.
If the divorce is a custody battle full of lies and horrific accusations, and the parents can not even handle a possession transfer at the child’s home, and has to be mandated to transfer the child at a police department, then forced shared parenting is not going to work. It becomes a license to take away the civil liberties of the custodial parent and put that parent on county arrest until the child turns 18. (more…)
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Robert Stevens said,
I have to be fair though, shared parenting is not the easiest thing in the world to do! It does require trust and cooperation that is usually not present in a post divorce setting. But it is usually the uncooperative behavior of women and the “terrorcrat state officials” who back her that creates this “state of war” that existe. Women don’t want to give back control of children that they fair and square did, with the help of the state, judicially kidnap and now do not want to give up any of the spoils of that victory.
It is about power with women and they don’t want to give it up.
And all this talk about the “best interest of the children” and ” a man should do the right thing” is just empty talk. If it come down to the women, in the “best interest of the child” having to do something they don’t like or want to do, then the childs interest go out the window.
We should protect the safety and welfare of children, but a balance is needed. A real threat has to existe , not simply some woman not wanting a man to have parental rights. We can’t assume someone will harm their children just because we don’t like them, it has to be proven. No matter how PO liticall CO rrect and pretty, denying a man his rights is made to appear. It is simpy wrong and that is enough for most people.
February 7, 2008 at 1:31 am
mdkn1 said,
February 7, 2008 at 4:34 am
TheManOnTheStreet said,
“My ex-husband abused me both physically and emotionally blah blah abuse…blah blah fear….blah blah MY children….blah blah…. scared for my life….blah blah…….”
Sorry toots… two sides… two stories.. and I AM SURE his side (pardon the pun) is quite different…
TMOTS
February 7, 2008 at 6:49 am
donnieboy57 said,
February 7, 2008 at 9:46 am
bolwriter said,
February 7, 2008 at 10:20 am
Eric said,
http://www.ChildrensJustice.org
This article was posted. Here a just a few of the comments made about it:
FathersRBest
What the following “lady” does not seem to understand is that there is no proposed bill preventing the ability to contest Equal Shared Parenting (ESP). The above UPREPA proposal certainly does not.
We say, take the exceptions to the courts. Stop the insanity of having every divorce scrutinized and thusly, saving each divorcing couple about $20,000 to $500,000 that can be used for the benefit of the children or whatever the parent feels/deems worthy.
EricTheGreat101
What gets me about her comments is that it lays out every single freak’n “excuse” by the feminazis to promote their slavitude of the male to the female.
Of course, there is no sound reasoning for this except for the feminazis illogic, lies, twists of the truth and outright lies as they take everything out of context to promote what? More money. For whom? The PIGS and the cohorts of mommy court and the tyrannical black robes of injustice-damn the disposable pawns and the damage done to the poor innocent children-as they line their pocket books with blood money.
FathersRParents2
Hasn’t anyone noticed that she doesn’t want the law to change, yet she has the problem(s) (supposedly) with the CURRENT laws?
Just imagine how freed up the courts would be to take care of her alleged problems if every single divorce case was not scrutinized by some “measure” of what the “correct” people think things should be?
Support the UPREPA proposal.
It’s the right thing to do.
Sheesh!
What a biotch!
LooseScrews101
Forget about the wench.
She just has an aberrant desire to “prove” that she is the most worthy parent just because she is female.
Besides, with the UPREPA proposal, there would be “first right of refusal.” So, if she did not want/like the child to be “parked” somewhere without the other parent around, she could have the child when the father decides to responsibly leave the child with the grandparents late at night as he solves his “problems” with a “roll in bed with honey” (the jealous biotch!).
Now (no pun intended) she has to modify the custody order when if the UPREPA proposal was law, she would only have to enforce it instead of modifying and then enforce it.
Sheeesh!
Do we have to teach EVERYTHING to all the women “out there?”
Get over it. YOU ARE NOT THE “parental gods.” You are only 1/2 of the equation whether or not you like it. Don’t like them apples? TS.
Grow up women. Stop being stigmatized because you don’t have sole custody. Think of the children first.
Don’t like that? Keep your skirt zipped and keep an aspirin between your knees!
Me? I am “neutral.”
ROFLMAO
February 7, 2008 at 12:39 pm
conservativation said,
CRAPPPPP!!!!!
So if I’m beaten to a friggin pulp, THAT has no emotional effect?
I swear folks have checked out and ain’t checkin back in mentally.
She was emotionally abused??? Oh but its just not at all emotionally harmful to keep a man from seeing his kids eh?
SICK.
February 7, 2008 at 2:16 pm
roger said,
February 7, 2008 at 3:06 pm
Eric said,
Women lie.
Never give them an inch.
Why?
They will take a mile.
Otherwise, I think your argument/points are worthwhile.
Eric
February 7, 2008 at 3:45 pm
Robert Stevens said,
I do support the passage of the UPREPA ( Uniform Parental Rights Enforcement and Protection Act .) Maybe I should in nonlegal terms explain just what UPREPA is, in simple english this proposed federal law abolishes the civil cause of custody for children, the criminal cause would remain. It would do away with the ” judicial kidnapping’ that now goes on in the utterly corrupt and evil family courts. But it would not guarantee joint physical/legal custody. It would force the biased courts to abide by the law and give fathers more rights, but it would have be enforced and we would have to pass supporting legislation. A lot of “government terrorists” and a lot of women would have to be came down hard on to make them obey it.
We should protect children from being hurt. I firmly believe if you harm your own children, there is no punishment severe enough for you and we should not give children to such a person or even let them around a child.
We need a balance, we need to go back to common law. If you prove by reasonable evidence a parent would harm their child then they should be barred from the child to protect them. This would have to be base on “real evidence” a hysterical women making absurd and unsubstantiated claimes needs not only to be discounted but if she lies and it causes a man to lose his rights, she needs to be punished severely. Go to jail and face stiff civil penalties, I believe that is what it will take to stop them from making false , it will take years and lot of battles. We will win ofcourse, but it will not be easy.
February 8, 2008 at 12:38 am