They have men fawning over them, and love feeling like “Madonna”. Many are also choosy prostitutes — taking on only rich hunks. Many blackmail men where possible. They often get themselves pregnant with the rich guys to boot to collect loads of child support and blackmail men in a form of self-entitling polymory.

At its root, stripping and prostitution are a cold trade of money for sex. In the end, both strippers and their customers look down on each other, and both often see themselves as being victims. Moral: One looks pretty stupid complaining about their problems after intentionally playing chicken with a speeding garbage truck.

Strippers and prostitutes either begin (or end up) with inferiority complexes and all sorts of mental and drug addiction problems as exemplified by Crystal Mangum (Duke case) and Heather Mills (McCartney). They often end up dead or in jail at an early age, and poor and lonely in older age.

Strippers are the worst possible marriage material. And so are the guys who hang around them (McCartney being the exception — he was hornswoggled by Heather Mills — but I am quite sure there were major red flags waving that this article would have caught that McCartney did not recognize before it was too late).

As I point out in the piece, those who are not ready for marriage will not be attracted to women who are good marriage material. The stripper issue is a first-rate example of that point on both sides of the marital coin.

By consensus, professionals recommend keeping the age differential within about 10 years. Sure, you can do 20, but that substantially increases the odds of disconnect at some point in the future. Twenty years is a generation — and generations do think differently.

1) Twice a week work-out which could include 300 meter swim which I find more fun than lifting weights.

2) Remembering that the commercial “No play for Mr. Grey” is an accurate reflection on reality. Also, it requires remembering that long hair only looks good on men in their early twenties. Keep it to a thumbs width.

3) Being well-read and up on history as well as current events. This includes repeating back to them on the second date things they said about themselves on the first date. Women consider their own history and current events to be the most important thing for a man to know about.

To keep them, only #3 is important.

The MRM has a standing disagreement on whether strippers are feminist or not. Maybe some of them are, but let’s remember that the feminists claim that strippers are victims of the patriarcy and male lust. Most of the one’s I’ve met were quite anti-feminist. Feminists mostly agree with Christian women that women should not sell themselves…which is why there is a feminist-Christian alliance that upholds laws like VAWA and IMBRA.

Also, although I love Marc Rudov’s presentation, someone else could do as well saying the opposite of what he says and still slamming feminism. It just would not be allowed on TV, however, if someone were to lament that not ENOUGH American women chase men for their money.

But I honestly believe that this is the case.

When I lived in Silicon Valley making tons of money in the 90s, there were no young women trying to place themselves in front of the rich young men from all the companies around there. They did not go to the singles club events, they did not join “Great Expectations” (only the older women joined that). They did not hang out in the gyms and at the pools where young rich Silicon nerds like me hung out. They did not even hang out much at the Francis Drake Skylight Lounge downtown San Francisco, which was the prime spot for women to meet rich men if the women cared to try. But they were generally not trying.

Even the churches were empty of the best looking young women.

Although I still managed to find some good American girlfriends, I left California (and the US) because I saw mainly a bunch of spoiled feminist brats whose only criteria for men were that they were the same age and did drugs or whatever.

There are happier places for dating in other countries.

The evangelical feminist debate rages, and knowing your history a bit you may find it interesting if not depressing.

Sorry to communicate via comments

She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=prov%2031&version=47

“Second wives can be far better marriage material than their inexperienced never-married counterparts who have stars in their eyes and expect a huge wedding and a rock the size of a bowling ball. “

If I were still single, I would approach a divorced woman with extreme caution. For we know the numbers: 70-80% of divorces initiated by women, and only a tiny minority were for “real” reasons such as infidelity or abuse. The lion’s share of divorces are filed because the woman is unhappy. So chances are her first husband failed to make her happy. What makes a guy think he can do any better? Why should he give her a second kick at the cat?

Now I may be partial, but I think divorced men make much better marriage material on average than divorced women. Why? Well, for one thing, they have shown that they can commit. They have shown that they have fulfilled their part of the social marriage contract, whereas their ex
wife broke it. They are also smarter than never-married guys-not only have they experience with women, but they’re more likely to have greater self-knowledge too. The only real detractor to a divorced man that I can see, other than his cautiousness with women, is the fact that he
likely has less earning power than a never-married man due to child-support debt peonage and such. These money woes can and will be a turn-off to women, who despite their claimed independence, still viscerally want the provider and protector.

In the end, what advice would I give to my boys when the time comes for them to look for a bride? Simple. #1 is that she is a Christian, in that her master is God. If she isn’t accountable to Him, she isn’t accountable to anyone but herself and we know where that leads. #2 is that she must–must–be willing to submit herself to his leadership in the home (note to feminists..you need to learn what Biblical submission is before you hyperventilate about it). A ship cannot have two captains, and certainly not a co-captain who, if she chose to quit, takes half the cargo and the rest of the crew with her. And has claim to 20 – 40% of your future earnings for the next two decades.
If she fails those two criteria, he needs to look elsewhere

http://dw.courts.wa.gov/index.cfm?fa=home.namesearch&terms=accept&flashform=0

Do use it to check your new date’s history.

If she has a common name you will want to eliminate the Katherine Smiths who are not her.
 When you do that, then you have some background information to consider. A criminal record is not necessarily bad, such persons can learn their lesson and reform.
 Even druggies and alkies can get clean and stay clean. However, a relapse into drug or alcohol addiction can be a wonder to behold! It is truly one of the most amazing things I have ever seen in my life!
Somewhat surprisingly, not to me but to too many other men, it is a lady’s CIVIL litigation history that raises the red flags. Is she a defendant in a string of collection and commercial cases, unlawful detainers? She ever petition for Chapter 7 bankruptcy when she has a job? Then don’t go with her if you think financial responsibility, spending within your means and BEING CAREFUL with your hard earned money are important to you.
 The real important thing for you to watch out for are the domestic violence petitions.
 Okay.
 No such petitions are no guarantee, there is always a first time.
 One petition, she might have met a Mr. Wrong and she might do just fine with a Mr. Right.
 But FOUR petitions? RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG!
 If it is with the same guy, all that means is that SHE DOESN’T LEARN A DAMN THING! When men get angry with their women, that is at the top of their list as to why!
 If it is with different guys, hmmm.
 If you are going out with someone with a record like this, and you wish to have a happy life with a minimum of problems, and ZERO court problems, RUN!!!!
 Oh yeah, you can say, quite self righteously and with an air of moral superiority:
“I have never hit a woman in my life and I will NEVER EVER HIT A WOMAN!!!”
 Right.
 Maybe you have never been TESTED. Do you really want to be TESTED?
 Some ladies just have the “knack”.
 Either they have poor taste in boyfriends (and she is going out with you? hmmmm), or they manage to piss them off, or both!
 Do you really want to have a relationship with a lady with a habit of pissing off her significant others?
 Think of all of the “stupid bitch” things she can do that will drive you up a wall!
You instruct her carefully, assure yourself she understands, to look through the peephole, and if the person is holding a manila envelope or a bunch of papers of the 8.5 by 11 inch variety, DO NOT ANSWER THE DOOR!!!! The “stupid bitch”, after receiving such instructions, will answer the door and accept the papers!
 You are a starting tackle on the best offensive line in football, you win your first playoff game, and you go out to celebrate. What does she do? She embarrasses you and humiliates you in public! You “discuss” this with her in the back alley and the cops haul you off to jail!
 We don’t need this shit!
 And if none of the guys she petitioned against ever hit her, or only raised their voices because they can’t help themselves, then she is a MALICIOUS PERJURER! Or a backstabber! Who needs that?
Avoid her like the plague.

Seriously, while we are all capable of adapting to circumstance, the ever changing whim and fancy that resides in the female mind is able to believe 2 things, equal and opposite, at the same time, and pull either one into conversation as the situation requires. And because one belief fits that set of emotions and their requisite back story they can take it then, same with the other.

This tactic is not only used in “debate” (dare I call it) in relationship, but also they can hop in and out of the yes/no answers to these questions, or at least the dysfunctions that underlie the behaviors, so readily as to make a snapshot of them in these terms valid for a day only.

Nice work. And you sum it up nicely in the closing paragraphs:

“You will not be ready for marriage until you can walk into a room and find yourself naturally attracted to the healthy people of the opposite sex in the room.”

Like most aspects of adult life, few of us know what that really means until we are in our 30’s. And for most by then the bad choices have already been made.

Its a waste of time seeking out good husbands or wives amongst such a morally impoverished and wretched peoples. Their integrity is already owned and sold before them in that they cannot promise each other anything. It is only to the State that such peoples can promise and be promised by, NOT THEMSELVES.

I was more than a little taken aback with the early proposition that previously married women are a good prospect. I still have serious doubts about that. They are the ones more likely to have initiated their divorce and broken their vows. (70-80% is telling). A ’second chance’ is sometimes worth offering but….. Second marriages ‘fail’ at high rates too and menopause brings a whole new round of emotional instability for a chap to cope with.

But your list of dangers to watch for is detailed and comprehensive. It would need a fairly reasonable length of time to elapse between first meeting and getting sufficient ‘evidence’ about the person’s reality. Women put make-up on almost every morning and maintain it by the moment. Not just on the face.

I think the list should include tips on when to use duct tape.