‘When it comes to women men are “visual.” FAR too “visual”’

When I learned to control my lust for women (my head use to spin on my shoulders), I observed a shift in my ability to discern character and competency in a woman, among other things.

Today I use Billy Graham’s definition of lust – “two or more looks.” When you look at a woman with lust in your heart, you have committed adultery.

Merchant raiders are ships which disguise themselves as non-combatant merchant vessels, whilst “actually” being armed and intending to attack enemy commerce. Germany used several merchant raiders early in World War I, and again early in World War II.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merchant_raider

This article is about YOU, not about HER. It is about YOUR ability — or, more appropriately, inability — to screen a woman’s baggage. Yet, I see that the same comments posted in all other articles, regardless of subject, are plastered here.

Instead of running on autopilot, parroting the same, old lines ad nauseam, try holding up a mirror to examine yourself and admit where the faults really lie.

I had similar test of character for a future mate, however, ultimately the test failed to protect me from losing what I valued.

I suspect that American men lose, with or without a personal test, mostly because of greed from women and the government’s divorce incentive system, for example, for no reason, unilaterally (one person decides) the woman will divorce you, then the government rewards her with your children, over 1/2 your property, while reducing her debt (you are ordered to pay her credit cards, mortgage, lawyer bills), and she also receives eighteen years of tax free income paid by you.

Hard to pass up such an offer (even for a guy), especially she now has the freedom to have sex with other men, while those same men pay her entertainment expenses.

An American marriage is essentially a government-sponsored woman’s lottery paid by ex-husbands. Why do you think woman look for men with good paying jobs? It’s the incentives stupid.

Very well written and easy to understand. Very valid points. I get in a lot of homes due to my work and get to see how a LOT of people live. You are correct in your assumed numbers, by my observations at least. There are quite few households where difficult subjects can be brought up and hashed out without some display of tantrums, silence, pouting, passive-aggressiveness and/or outright aggression. It’s sad really.

There are very few men OR women who are of the type you describe as extremely rare and fortunate. I think Marc’s point, his point in a lot of his writings, is that you have to look for them, and not settle for less. So many of us have simply quit. And “when you quit, you neither live nor win.”

You don’t have to follow me in lockstep, but you do have to stick to the topic.

I will delete any piggyback pseudoauthor with his own agenda and topic. I’ve yet to see a multipost discussion about the negative effects of tolerating a woman’s baggage. Still waiting.

that is so true.

according to the Medical Reference On-Line schizophrenia has as a major symptom – delusion.

delusion (Webster): something that is falsely believed or propagated. (propagated means passed on, as to our young).

i like the part about “only by getting into tough subjects can you expose her baggage – and yours”.

good stuff marc. we are on your side you know. just not in lock step.

but that whole piece did make me (like the others) think of constant lying, and how that too is baggage from the past. maybe even some of mine, as you pointed out.

It is proper to discuss the article at hand, when posting a comment, not to further your personal agenda by piggybacking that agenda off the author’s article.

If you want to become an author, reveal yourself (real name, please) and write your own material.

http://mensnewsdaily.com/2008/04/17/rape-charge-slaughter/

We all love ya, no disrespect intended. But we probably work off our own comments… Although, you topic was “Learn to Screen Her Baggage” we see it as pointless because dating and marriage are NOT an option. No disrespect to you or your article.

imho, this is a learned behaviour and a deadly form of this “baggage” marc talks about. she learns from a very early age, from whatever sources, that marriage is profitable/desirable for her.

that being said, be careful you don’t become a serial liar yourself when trying to deal w/ them. i am a man and meant to have women in my life. so i am forced to date, to even have a meaningful relationship at times, but not to marry. i am too wise to the ways of “family” court to ever do that again. but, when in a relationship with a woman you are required to lie about your motivation. it’s inevitable, after a set period of time the “M” word comes out. why? because she has a goal…to get married. as soon as just about any woman finds out you are not interested in marriage, she will have no more interest in you, and you instantly become that immature $%^& that just won’t grow up and commit; and, she will repeat that to anyone who will listen.

so you learn from her to lie, constantly. to not lie means to not be around women. and is that really an option?

Suggestion: when doing the screening, watch out for compulsive liars and hystrionics– that may mean the difference between that bogus PPO and that false rape or molestation charge. The good news is that female compulsive liars are easy to spot, if you’re deliberately looking for them. Just pretend to believe whatever they say, and encourage them to elaborate on their stories; soon they’ll be contradicting themselves, and you’ll know to run like hell.