Kindergarten Cruelty: Not Child’s Play
When did kindergarten teachers get so mean?
In Port Lucie, Florida, Wendy Portillo told kindergarteners to tell five-year-old Alex Barton why they didnââŹâ˘t want him in class. After telling him that he is ââŹĹdisgustingââŹÂ and ââŹĹannoying,ââŹÂ the children voted on whether he could remain in class. AlexââŹâ˘s best friend, whoââŹâ˘d wanted to keep him, changed his vote when the teacher pressured him. Alex was voted out 14-2.
AlexââŹâ˘s sin that day was lying under a table and kicking it. He also was known for throwing and eating crayons, eating boogers, eating paper and chewing on shoelaces.
The teacher knew Alex was about to receive an autism diagnosis. SheââŹâ˘d attended meetings to develop an Individual Education Plan to help Alex function in the classroom. She should have realized that children on the autism spectrum have trouble picking up non-verbal signals, interacting with others and handling the stimuli of a noisy classroom. But she got the class to reject him ââŹâ just for the day, she says ââŹâ in the hope that public humiliation would be good for him.
I envision a teacher getting the class to tell a slow learner thatââŹâ˘s heââŹâ˘s stupid, so heââŹâ˘ll become smarter.
Another case of kindergarten cruelty was revealed days later. Parents of Gabriel Ross, a five-year-old boy in New Albany, Indiana, revealed their audiotape of the boyââŹâ˘s teacher, Kristen Woodward, screaming at him. HeââŹâ˘d complained all year the teacher was ââŹĹmean.ââŹÂ The tape caught Woodward saying, ââŹĹIââŹâ˘ve been more than nice to you all year long and youââŹâ˘ve been ignorant, selfish, self-absorbed, the whole thing! IââŹâ˘m done!ââŹÂ She continues: ââŹĹSomething needs to be done because you are pathetic! If me saying these words to you hurt, I hope it does because youââŹâ˘re hurting everyone else around you.ââŹÂ
Gabriel can be heard crying on the tape.
The teacher hauled him in front of the class and encouraged his fellow kindergarteners to reject Gabriel. ââŹĹSo you guys think, is that somebody you want to be with?ââŹÂ Woodward asks the class. In unison, the other students reply, ââŹĹNoooo.ââŹÂ
She told the boy, ââŹĹSee, your friend doesnââŹâ˘t want to be with you. I donââŹâ˘t know what else to tell you. So youââŹâ˘re not going to have friends because of your actions.ââŹÂ
Gabriel is a normal kid whoââŹâ˘s ââŹĹno angelââŹÂ at home but isnââŹâ˘t out of control either, say his parents. ItââŹâ˘s not clear why he drove his teacher nuts, but two weeks into the school year Woodward told his parents he needed a ââŹĹbehavior plan.ââŹÂ They say she told them later she was too busy to talk about it.
Both of these are experienced teachers. Both apparently think they did nothing wrong. Portillo says she thought Alex would pay attention to his classmates if they told him how much he was bothering them. Woodward says she had a bad day (which just happened to be the day she was being recorded).
Kindergarten teachers who canââŹâ˘t keep their cool with difficult five-year-old boys should find another line of work. Maybe these are just isolated incidents, two mean teachers in a sea of nice ones. But there may be something else going on here.
In talking to teachers and reading the dozens of comments on my blog posts here and here, I see a pattern.
Teachers complain that more wild and crazy children are coming to school, and that thereââŹâ˘s little that teachers are allowed to do to enforce discipline when parents are uncooperative or incompetent. Of course, youââŹâ˘d think GabrielââŹâ˘s teacher could have scheduled at least one meeting with the parents to discuss that behavior plan.
Teachers also say theyââŹâ˘re promised training in dealing with children with disabilities or behavior problems, but they never get it. Or they get it, and itââŹâ˘s not helpful. TheyââŹâ˘re told special education teachers will co-teach or that aides will work with high-need children, but the extra help never appears or vanishes with the next budget cut.
Across the country, special ed teachers are in short supply, so districts assign low-seniority teachers ââŹâ those with the least training and experience ââŹâ to work with the neediest children.
This doesnââŹâ˘t serve children with special needs like Alex. It doesnââŹâ˘t serve their classmates, whoââŹâ˘d prefer not to have their tables kicked when theyââŹâ˘re trying to color.
Morningside Elementary in Florida has a school police officer, who investigated the voting incident for evidence of criminal abuse. Go here to read the report. The officer knew Alex well ââŹâ he was sent to the office frequently ââŹâ and had no trouble getting him to cooperate. He certainly showed more patience with this little boy than his teacher. Why didnââŹâ˘t the school have a special education teacher or aide who could have worked with Alex in the classroom? An elementary school has a cop but doesnââŹâ˘t have an aide?
Mainstreaming can work. Recently, I visited two elementary schools that make integrating disabled children part of their core mission. Teachers get effective training and support from well-trained aides; they communicate frequently with parents.
At both schools, children with autism or similar issues are encouraged to leave the classroom before they lose control. Sometimes an aide comes along; sometimes the child is old enough to go solo. They jump on a trampoline, run around the building or lift heavy objects in the gym until theyââŹâ˘ve calmed down. Then they go quietly back to class.
Alex and Gabriel donââŹâ˘t have to be outcasts.
Sadly, both boys are too scared to return to their neighborhood schools.
Joanne Jacobs is the author of Our School: The Inspiring Story of Two Teachers, One Big Idea, and the School That Beat the Odds. She blogs on education at JoanneJacobs.com.
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June 6th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
Women are told from the cradle that they are ’skilled communicators’, ‘empathetic’, ‘nurturing’ whathaveyou. They are told that they are ‘naturally good’ at ‘conflict resolution’. They ‘listen’.
They listen to all the ego-stroking hubris. They believe it – and so never feel the need to actually learn and develop these skills.
So they go into teaching and kindergartens at age 19 after a community college Certificate awarded by other ‘naturally’ expert women, with the cradle marks still on their bums and an attitude that they are perfect. Whatever they do is the right thing.
Other women believe it too and hand over their children to narcissistic bullies with an attention span barely above that of the kiddies in their charge.
And we wonder where it went wrong.
June 7th, 2008 at 8:16 pm
[...] first found GabrielââŹâ˘s story on MNDââŹâmensnewsdaily.com in a June 5, 2008 editorial ââŹĹKindergarten Cruelty: Not ChildââŹâ˘s PlayââŹÂ by Joanne [...]
February 12th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
I would not want my children learning amidst the autistic kids. It is not fair to slow the learning process to accommodate the problematic children. I would have another perspective, if my children were autistic or plagued with any other non-social ailment. Your examples are really out of the norm. Most teachers break their collective backs to accommodate these children and others with issues like language and cultural deficiencies. Anyway, you’re making it extremely difficult to retain the better teachers, at least at that level (Kindergarten). Your thoughts about patience and understanding are almost irrational…especially the challenge to teach while accommodating the needs of the special children who must jump on a trampoline to ease their angst. Wow!