Is lesbianism a political doctrine? In Cambridge, MA, they know it is.
I was going out with a woman from Cambridge, Massachusetts, for about six weeks. She’s a very bright, educated and analytical woman of 60. Good-looking, if you want to know, at least to me. Call her Lydia. She and I were walking hand in hand down a street in a residential area of Cambridge—a date of sorts—on the fourth of July. Massachusetts, remember, is a gay-marriage state.
“I hate lesbians,†she said.
Picture me gaping a little. I was not taking notes. Yet this is what she said. It was news to me, and I pass it on to others who might find it news.
“My friends Sally and Ruth are going to have an engagement party,†Lydia said. “They’re going to get married. The big news is that the party is going to be co-ed. It’s very exciting. Women will be able to bring their boyfriends! What’s so strange about that, you ask? This isn’t the done thing in Cambridge,†Lydia said.
“They’re not lesbians, you know,†she said.
“What do you mean,†I said, “they just live together like sisters? No sex?”
“No, they do everything. Sleeping together, kissing, anything two women can do, they do it.â€
“Doesn’t that make them lesbians?â€
“No. To be a lesbian,†she said, “your politics have to be right. They have to be correct. It’s not just sex, it’s the politics of it. You have to be part of the group, you have to believe. You can’t step outside the boundaries. That’s what it means to be a lesbian.â€
I didn’t ask her if the boundaries of lesbianism in Cambridge include man-hatred—as a political stance—because it seemed so obvious. If it was big news that two women getting married would allow men at their engagement party, well then it was obvious, right? Being a real lesbian meant shunning men. Lydia talked about all this as if it were as obvious as the July sunlight we were walking through that lesbianism is not just sexual, but a political philosophy of hating men.
“I hate lesbians,†Lydia said, and she didn’t say anything more than that. She kept holding my hand, and we walked happily down the leafy street.
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August 16th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
Ray Smith,
Lesbianism is not limited to Cambridge, it encommasses the entire New England, particularly Massachusetts.Some time ago The Washinton Post had an article “Northampton Lesbians, Free to be” and the interaction between Pioneer Valley lesbian community and women-only colleges which are exempt from federal law against sexual discrimination under Section 901 (a) 5 of Title IX. See
Women’s College Coalition
http://www.womenscolleges.org/colleges/default.htm
Curiously in the begining of your articla is advertisements for lesbian singles. Did you place them there as bite and switch or were they placed by others?
August 16th, 2008 at 11:49 pm
Any ads for lesbian singles are placed by others, believe me. My concern in writing this piece was to point out the hidden, covert, destructive agenda operating even at the most personal one-on-one level of holding a social event: attempts to force, through social norms, normal women to shun men.
August 17th, 2008 at 7:53 am
Ray Smith,
Thanks for the clarification The ads have been removed. The disingenious way for them is to “parachute behind enemy lines”. That is to join legimate sounding names like “Log Cabin Republicans” and earlier a real money machine “National Conservative Political Action Committee”
(NCPAC).
But they also have open resources like in Armherst College.
http://www.umass.edu/stonewall/resources/
Straight men only have a few, the best is MND
August 19th, 2008 at 12:39 pm
Politics and hate aside, at its core the lesbian agenda is to replace men in marriage and family with women. When this is accomplished men will have no social rights or place in the family.
Lesbians are not the only problem in this equation.
There is ample evidence that gay men have the same attitude. In his column this week (Savage Love), Dan Savage takes the position that gay relationships are more freeing than ones with women, because gay men don’t have to worry about getting somebody pregnant, and that partner swaps are therefore not a problem.
In both cases, we see that gay/lesbian issues are, at their core, not about “human rights”, but the practice of very destructive or dangerous forms of sexual hedonism, silent hate, all propelled by trial lawyers, politicians, spinoff NGO’s, drug manufacturers, psychologists, and others who make fortunes every step of the way supporting the destruction of heterosexual relationshipts, marriage and society and then wedging themselves into the situation to clean up the mess.