In a previous blog, I wrote about how it might – just might – be appropriate for the law to view sex between adult women and minor boys as less criminally serious than that between adult men and minor girls. The biological differences I pointed to were the one-sided nature of pregnancy and childbirth and the truth that sexual intercourse is almost invariably extremely pleasurable for males and MAY be painful, and even agonizing, for females.
Now I would like to deal with confounding and confusing aspects of the statutory rape laws as they concern adult men and minor girls.
A man named Tom Green was convicted of the statutory rape of a girl when she was 13 ½ years old. He had impregnated her and she had given birth to their child.
At the time of his conviction, the victim was 30 years old. She was also in the courtroom when the verdict was read.
One might expect her to have been delighted to hear the pronouncement of “guilty†or at least to have experienced satisfaction at learning that this crime against her was finally being avenged by society.
Not quite.
In fact, not at all.
When the verdict was read, the woman who was legally Tom Green’s victim, Linda Kunz (who called herself Linda Kunz Green), burst into tears. She complained bitterly to reporters, “This is so unfair! It was ME that fell in love. It was ME that wanted to get married.â€ÂÂ
The situation of Tom Green and Linda is complicated by Tom’s being a polygynist. He had made several public appearances with his five “wives,†of whom Linda was one, and he had previously been convicted of bigamy.
However, leaving the issue of simultaneous multiple marriage aside, a look at the Tom and Linda relationship is useful in discussing the complications that can attend the statutory rapes of minor girls by adult men.
Linda has always insisted that, as a 13-year-old girl, she actively pursued the relationship with Tom Green and sought to “marry†him according to the tenets of their religious faith. After his convictions for bigamy and for raping her, Linda put up a website in which she vociferously defended him. She argued that, if she had been truly raped, she would have escaped from her rapist at the first opportunity. Instead, she had willingly remained with Tom Green all through her teen years and well into her adulthood.
In another case, two Muslim emigrants to the United States were arrested and charged with statutory rape. Although Islam allows polygyny, it wasn’t at issue in these cases. Both men were married monogamously. Each man’s wife was under the legal age of consent in the state of the United States in which they resided. In both cases, the girls who were legally alleged to be statutory rape victims opposed the prosecutions.
There have been several instances of teen girls who weren’t “married†in any sense to the adult men with whom they had had sex opposing the prosecutions. In some cases, the men have been jailed or imprisoned for statutory rape, been released, and then wed the victim who had reach adulthood during his incarceration (much as the infamous Mary Kay Letourneau married male victim Vili Fualaau when she got out of prison).
Why do some minor girls react negatively to the prosecution of adult men with whom they have had sex?
To understand this, we have to take a step back and consider the connotations of the word “rape.†With reason, a sense of horror attaches to this term. It carries the suggestion of brutality, violence, and terror.
The victims here under discussion suffered none of the above. They participated willingly in sex. They may even have initiated the sex. However, they were legally unable to consent to sex, making them victims and the men who had sex with them rapists.
I believe that there is a common paradigm of adult male-minor sexual relationships and that the statutory rape laws were, in large part, designed to deal with that paradigm. The model to which I refer is that of a predatory and exploitive grown man. He deceives and makes false promises. He often targets a teen girl who is especially vulnerable: a girl who is unattractive, unpopular, self-conscious, and/or shy. The man gives her the attention and compliments that she craves. Then he attempts to have sexual intercourse with her. The girl submits to his wishes out of gratitude or to continue the relationship he threatens to end unless she has sex. She endures, rather than enjoys, the sexual act. Soon the adult man is gone and the teen girl has abandoned is pregnant.
The above paradigm became a paradigm because it is rooted in reality. There ARE adult men who blithely and callously enjoy sex with minor girls, frequently impregnating them and just as frequently abandoning the pregnant teens.
However, the above is not what happens in EVERY case in which a grown man has sexual contact with a minor female.
This point was ironically underlined n the 1964 movie, “The Night of the Iguana.†In that film, Richard Burton’s character is asked to define “statutory rape.†The character answers, “When an older man is seduced by a young girl.†I laughed at this description: when the MAN is seduced. Such reversal seemed funny – like the idea of a woman physically abusing a man. (However, I now realize that men ARE in fact physically abused by women.)
Cases of male-on-female statutory rape include a wide variety of circumstances such as girls who are eager to grow up and lie about their ages, girls who consider themselves married to the men, and girls who are curious and want to experience sex.
The adult man who has sex with a minor girl commits what is legally a serious offense. Regardless of the circumstances, he may lose his freedom. In jail or prison, if he is not a tough sort of man, he may himself be FORCIBLY raped. When is regains his freedom, he must register as a sex offender for the rest of his life and that greatly restricts both his work opportunities and possible places of residence. In the case of those who marry or cohabit with their former victims who have grown to adulthood, there is an irony in that the female he legally victimized shares the troubles caused by the constraints on where he may reside.
There is an old saying that “hard cases make bad law.†However, an understanding of the range of usual cases is necessary to craft good law.
I admit that I don’t really know exactly what form our laws on adult-minor sex should take. I do know that adult men who violate the statutory rape laws with minor girls are not necessarily monsters. They may not even be rogues. And their punishments can be grossly disproportionate to their crimes.

