The Man’s Quest

The Impetus for a Man’s Quest.

Earlier I explained that young Parzival – that is, YOU – set out on a Quest to find the Holy Grail. It was at the behest of the King.

Why?

This was asked of me by several people.  Well, I also had told of Percy’s mum, Herzeloyde being ‘heartbroken’. She was not the only one.

The King, Arthur, was also heartbroken. His beloved Guinevere had ran off with one of his best Knights. She had rejected him; betrayed him. She had withdrawn her love from him.

Arthur was mightily pissed off with this but that was just a fleeting anger. He fell into despondency and his entire Kingdom was let to waste. Only the Grail could cure him and restore the Kingdom. The Grail is a ‘soul’ food.

Can you see the relevance of this? The ‘mirror’ of what is happening to the civilization we live in right now?

Men’s hearts are broken by modern women who have rejected us and betrayed us.

Arthur adored Guinevere. His Kingdom was to house her, provide for her and honour her.  She, above all wealth and conquest, all achievement and effort, was his life.

Really? Some asked.

The result of her betrayal was clearly shown in the depth of his grief and pain and the decline of the world around him. The search for the Grail is a ‘soul’ search to find a ‘soul’ treasure. A cure for the ailment of modern man.

Guinevere had ‘followed her heart’, fickle as it was, and abandoned morality. I left you with that morality issue at the end of my last post. We can choose to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Time to continue.

Morals are Navigator Skills and Knowledge.

Well folks, Reality just doesn’t work the way of the bad people, despite their imaginary, fantasy success. Nor does it work for the innocent ignorant ones like young Percy with his armour stealing success. Parzival had to be ‘schooled’ by life, by his mentor and by confronting his own weaknesses and hubris. He had to become a ‘moral man’.

The mediocre Navigator who does not chart and know the tides soon hits the rocks that he has also ignored.

He never finds his port because he doesn’t ‘feel’ like being constrained by latitude and longitude and the mathematical calculating and other such ‘male’, ‘patriarchal’ rules for finding his way around.

He never looks at the stars let alone sights them.

He has no sextant and if one appears he scoffs at it. It is too difficult for his mediocre brain.

The crew suffers. Our society is on the rocks.

Men – even those ‘going their own way’ – need to navigate.

Morals are the navigator tools of the soul.

Young Percy had no idea where his steed took him. But he had to learn or get lost.

Our society is disappointing to me in this ‘morals’ aspect far more than any other. We have, as nations as well as individuals, capitulated to a childishness, a demand for ‘my way or the highway’. Our Rules.

 Gurus exhort woman to ‘follow your heart’ but where to and how? Some MRAs tell us to ‘follow our own individual rules’.

We could be road-builders of the soul, navigators of the spirit, discoverers of riches in ourselves – some quite gender-specific – and creators of wonderful trading relationship between adult men and women.

Instead what we have – just one current problem among others – is raiding armies of women who invade ‘men’sland’ to pillage. It is an army of ‘ordinary women’, who steal (moral issue), Lie (moral issue) and excuse themselves (intellectually dishonest – another friggin’ moral issue).

Even Hera taught Psyche how to access masculine power without destroying herself. Modern women do not heed even their own old lessons. I expect more of adult women. It is a reasonable and reasoned, adult expectation.

I expect as much from men, too. More so. I am a man.

My disappointment is not a feeling that I have lost out. It isn’t related to what I could have had but didn’t get. It isn’t because what I want has been blocked. My disappointment is FOR women. And FOR men. I have unmet expectations of MRAs that await too.

I am sad to the soul – a real emotion – for my preferred companions, for the fact that they have lost their way.

Our Fleet is separated and I fear for them. I have a sinking feeling.

Arthur was Sad to the Soul. Are we as MRAs still wallowing in the anger and sinking into a sadness of the soul? I believe we are. And our civil world is dying from neglect.

Most of the chaps in the MRM are somewhere along the path that Percy takes. Some are right at the start. They are young with hot blood and a huge chip on the shoulder and a load of hubris on their backs. This is not useful armour.

Many young men have been cruelly served. Some have had that moment of Total Insight in their late teen years, felt the Power of manhood and fulfillment of child-promise only to have it snatched away by their own innocent ignorance and lack of male models and male guidance.

Some men, I see them all around, are deep in the forest, bleeding and bruised, their bones broken. I would that all men had a wise old hermit to bring them back to health or an old, tired King with a healing draft.

Men are increasingly ‘leaving home’. It used to be to explore the world and discover. We have satellites for that now.

For ten thousand years we have been making homes for women. Because we Love women. Men and women need to make homes for one another. They belong in each others world.

But modern woman is not interested in making a home for men anymore and men are not coming back until women learn some home-making skills.

So, sometimes I write as that foolish boy who Aspires, Percy, the younger man and the middle-aged man, who found it all and lost it all and struggles on, angry and tired, searching.

From the feedback, so many men are like this, out there. They ‘had it’ and ‘lost it’. They aspire, like Percy, and are wounded, like Amfortas.

Percy became a Warrior. His sword is part of his arm. He used it until he, too, was quite old. People – men – can identify with Percy as I do with them. He learned from life, living it poorly and ignorantly, as I have.

And sometimes I write as Old Amfortas, knowing what it is that I have charge over – that Insight and Consciousness and Morality. A glimpse of it at any rate.

I see it paraded before me, going to the even greater Man in the back rooms. Few have that. Very few.

I teach. People call me a Fool. They would do better to ask the questions.

Few do. Amfortas was so frustrated by his constant pain, from a wound that would not heal – until a ‘pure fool’ would come by to touch him and relieve him of it and the Grail – that he begged his Knights to kill him.

I know how he feels.

We have lost such a lot that grief is to be expected. For most men there has been a loss of Trust in society in general and women in particular. This provides a base level of pain upon which many different personal losses are caused and built.

For some men it is their children; others their careers; others their marriages. For some the devastation of their meager treasuries has been most painful. For most men, the loss of any sort of stable future is the major loss.

But from a ‘gender’ perspective, the Law has been THE major loss. It used to be equal for all but have been stolen by Feminists and Marxists. Along with the law has gone Truth, Justice, Equality, innocence until proven guilty, habeas corpus et al.

Our education Institutions are a wasteland. Workplaces have become mired in hysterical Women-only laws. Much of our Western Culture has been buggered with a hot poker.

There are things which we rely upon that we take little notice of – until it is missing or taken away. Solid ground; gravity; air. Who takes any notice of them. Our family legal systems are generally not the subject of discussion in the pub. S

ocietal fairness has all but disappeared but doesn’t get noticed when we are busy on an X-box or wiping babies bums or dealing with hot wires and cold cement at work.

To me, personally, the most painful loss is Trust in women. I have always loved women. I fell in love first when I was five, with an older woman. She was six. They were always strange beasts but one could usually find one that was trustworthy; one that you could love; one that you could forgive weaknesses and foibles in. One in whom you could explore difference.

But they have all but died out. Those women that one could, possibly, trust, nevertheless have a sawn-down shotgun in their handbags. It is hard and stupid to trust someone with such a weapon that she could use at any time and against you as the primary target.

There is an Industry of rent-seeking scum that convinces women to use that shot-gun. They are the only ones that gain. Men don’t; women don’t; our children don’t.

The Kingdom is mired in Corruption. Greed. And Power. I see Feminism as just one of many roads to perdition, and currently the most pressing for men and boys. It is also a curse on women although they do not realize it.

Our Western Civilisation is at phase-end and I doubt very much that we can do anything about it , but survive as Individuals with Integrity. Unfortunately Integrity is lacking in most people. It is something to gain quickly, early on and hold onto. It is the Parzival problem that I spoke of earlier.

So we as men, as MRAs should be seeking that Integrity, that Holy Grail. Along with it is Truth, Clarity, Understanding, Transcendance of our Human limitations. And freedom from corruption, greed and power urges that can only be achieved from a sound and pure base.

Can men and Women find a Common Place.

A truly masculine man is almost identical to a truly feminine woman in the issues that matter. They differ in behaviours and approaches to biological limitations and attributes that are determined by their bodies – and they fit together very well – but both have equal ability to reach mature adult status living in Truth, Reality and Integrity, as Fully Conscious human beings.

Mature adults are rare beasts though and life is a journey, hopefully toward becoming mature.

For ‘Authentic Masculinity’ to assert itself we would need to understand why the one-dimensional didn’t work at anytime in the past and stop doing it, and stop it doing so much damage in the future.

To do that a man must understand where his journey’s milestones are and where he is intending to go. He needs to know what he can expect as he stumbles forward as a masculine creature, incomplete, and what completeness is when he finds it.

We don’t teach our boys that.

He would have to realize at some stage that he has to integrate a lot more than unidimensional masculinity if he has any hope of gaining Integrity.

Fathers must ensure that the next generation of sons are masculine men who chart their own path but with fundamental Character traits in firm place.

Or Mentors must.

Teach him to seek, Truth and Reason, Emotional & Spiritual integration, Integrity, authenticity; above, and not just, personal ’honour’.

 In many ‘Men’s Rights’ circles, ‘honour’ is seen as being a man’s worth, instead of a tool, like a sword, that he uses to serve his King.

Parzival ‘took’ honour’ from another. That other man was an honourable man too. T

each him to ask the question “Who does the Grail serve’. Teach him to ask “What ails thee, Uncle”. Teach him to ask himself these questions and seek the answers in his life.

MGTOW has been a traditional men’s pathway. It is a well trod path. It has pitfalls.

Our daughters need to be taught to honour all that is best in people; men and women. Otherwise they will be bereft in turn. At present we are overlooking the pain that our daughters are suffering. It is masked by our own pain.

When the story was written, Wolfram’s society was struggling its way out of the dark ages and civil life was starting to bloom. It was actively seeking ‘Life’, Meaning. It was almost as if by simply acknowledging that the Soul needs special, divine food, the Grail, that it was enlivened enough to drag it from deep despondency.

But we are at an opposite juncture.

Having lost our morality our society has become de-coupled from life. It has crept up with a roar.

Two world wars; a fascist slaughering of innocents, east and west; a communistic slaughtering on a world-wide scale; several generations of Good, sound men removed from the gene pool; women moved from home to work, to replace men away – or dead.

The wars of the nineteenth and twentieth centuries saw mass murder at an unprecedented scale. Men died in the hundreds of thousands. The millions.

Are we seeing women suiciding in sorrow?

The ‘miracle’ of the pill; the encouragement and advocacy of wide-spread abortion;

the wholesale destruction of family;

the abject failure to protect and nurture our children and the casting of our young people into drugs and promiscuity, crime, selfishness, ignorance and narcissism.

Is this not suicide?

At street level we live lives without the Authenticity of Love.

We abort babies.

We no longer ‘make love’; we ‘have sex’ with no intention or possibility of making children and when one ‘happens’ we kill it.

We have vasectomies; we tie tubes; we destroy potentiality and maim with hysterectomies; we have contraceptives.

A man and a woman, two human animals, do not permit themselves to authentically experience their natures. Or each other’s.

We meet, we ‘hook-up’, we ‘fuck’, but it is not authentic.

It is false.

We are busy creating a world of unfeeling faux-humans. We even look forward to machine people. Robots. Some MRAs wax lyrical about robots. I am astonished and dismayed.

Women, those who profess to lerve ‘nature’, orgasm on millions of plastic penises.

We are disrespecting anyone but our individual selves, falling down a hole of Hubris.

When a man and a woman ‘Love’ as in the act of Love, they ‘know’ if the other is ‘there’ or not. Fully there in all their humanity, warts and all. We Sense it.

We know when the one we are with isn’t real, Isn’t there.

Women are turning away from men. They sense the deficit of authenticity in so many men. They have been busy insisting that men change into something a whole lot less than men instead of more than men currently.

Men are turning away from women. There are hardly any adult women who love life to be found. We MRAs see – and talk incessantly about – our sensing of the inauthentic women. The hate-filled women. Women who are destroying all that was brilliant about women.

We sense the decline in Integrity; we see the lack of our own Integrity. We don’t want to see it though. We deny. We revel far too much in our power to deny life and deny the Integrity and authenticity of people as though it were smart.

We are ceasing even to love ourselves, preferring to have ’self-esteem’. An image. A fantasy that replaces the authentic.

We see the armour and not the man inside it.

Feminism is a bad dream; a nightmare result of our lack of authenticity. And we men, mostly, are inside the same nightmare. We must become Conscious, before we lose ourselves altogether.

Wake up. Our world, Humanity, is at a critical phase in the development of a fully human consciousness that has been in evolution for 5 million years. It is the phase-transition of human development at which we have arrived. Just as the old Greeks were at that other transition when man gained ‘Mind’ and needed ‘Heart’ too We, though, are failing.

The Fully human being may be still-born.

Or aborted.

We need to know Parzival’s life and journey because we are setting out into deep and dangerous human psychic landscapes just as he did with the same past-its-use-by date lessons.

We need to find Old Amfortas and the Holy Grail. We need to honour Parzival’s aspiration and cure the Wound of Amfortas, so that the whole man is integrated.

So that the Kingdom blooms again.

Otherwise, we face further decline, decay and doom.

This is amfortas.

Ask, Wo does the Grail Serve.

*see also 

http://mensnewsdaily.com/2009/08/10/the-ascent-of-men/

 http://mensnewsdaily.com/2009/08/13/men-going-their-own-way/

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Amfortas is a Psychologist and Men's Rights Advocate living in Tasmania; the mania inflicted by Feminist-Socialism. He is the Past-Chairman of mensnewsdaily.com Ask, Who Does the Grail Serve. | More from Amfortas