I received a letter from a male who was telling me of his breakup after like 20 years of being together. Why did they break up? Because she lost “respect” for her partner after he was reduced to being on crutches after an accident. I guess she just couldn’t be with such a “weak” man. I find it sad how sometimes when a man needs love the MOST in his moment of weakness he is ironically LEAST likely to get it (despite bending over backwards to pamper, protect, and care for the well being of his wife). I think it was George Orwell who noted that homeless men not only lose their homes….but also their sense of feeling loved and cared for.
The Webster Dictionary (2004) defines love as the following:
Love: A strong liking for someone or something
With this definition in mind, it is clear that maintaining the health and safety of another is perhaps the greatest form of true love there is. So why is it men who are treated as so disposable by women (and other men)? There is an article (cited below) that reveals just how “loving” and “reciprocating” women can be when the shoe is on the other foot. It is sad how so many men are willing to protect and provide for others when so many women are not prepared to reciprocate. If housework is as “menial” as some feminists claim it is, why are so few women willing to provide and protect men when the shoe is on the other foot? Don’t they love them as much?
The article (cited at the end in the sources section) goes on to try to “justify” this less-than-savory state of affairs by saying that some women lose “respect” for their husbands because they no longer view their men as disposable “alpha males” whose prime purpose is to be a mere worker bee there to protect the queen. What good is “respect” when your true love leaves you at your moment of weakness? And isn’t “respect” a part of love anyway? Are men just “shoulders” to cry on and “boulders” to be “hard as a rock”? I have one thing to say about a girl who would rather “respect” me than “love” me……flattery will get you nowhere! I will choose LOVE over RESPECT any day. If a man is willing to “take a bullet” for his true love, it only makes sense that she would be willing to do the same thing for him! I find it odd that the female lawyer in the article (cited below) seems to think that men should be okay with catering to a woman’s need to feel “protected” and “pampered” like a proverbial princess. Expecting someone else to “give” so that you can “take” is not equality. It is prejudice.
Research by Alice Eagly seems to suggest that society “likes” and “cares more” about women than men. She calls it the “women are wonderful effect”. Some call this progress. Again, I call it prejudice. It is small wonder, then, that society cares so little about how men are the vast majority of the homeless, prison population, suicides, work fatalities, casualties of war, the male-only draft, victimization of violence in general, prison rape, victims of the longevity gap, chivalry bias, victims of the female dominated spending-gap, victims of being objectified as disposable beasts of burden, victims of false rape allegations, victims of unfair dating expectations (like buying rings), victims of the legal-sentencing gap, victims of police bias, victims of domestic violence bias, etc.
The men’s movement isn’t new by any means, as the 1913 quote by Belfort Bax makes perfectly clear:
E. Belfort Bax (1913) from “The Fraud of Feminism”:
“It is rarely that anyone takes the trouble to refute the legend in
general, or any specific case adduced as an illustration of it.
When, however, the bluff is exposed, when the real facts of the case
are laid bare to public notice, and woman is shown, not only as not
oppressed but as privileged, up to the top of her bent, then the
apostles of feminism, male and female, being unable to make even a
plausible case out in reply, with one consent resort to the boycott,
and by ignoring what they cannot answer, seek to stop the spread of
the unpleasant truth so dangerous to their cause.”
There is NO excuse for male disposability. Men and women alike have an equal right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. I don’t need “respect” from a woman near as much as I want someone who LOVES me just as much as I love her (besides, respect is a part of love anyway). And that means being willing to provide, protect, and pamper me when the shoe is on the other foot. Besides, isn’t it women who supposedly like shoes? If this is true, then women should have no problem putting a new shoe on their foot. Let us just hope it fits…..like a glass slipper.
Sources:
Househusband backlash as high-flying wives ditch men they wanted to stay at home. Diana Appleyard. (link below).
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-467390/Househusband-backlash-high-flying-wives-ditch-men-em-em-wanted-stay-home.html#StartComments
The New Webster’s Universal Dictionary (2004)
Belfort Bax (1913). The Fraud of Feminism.
