Abusegate: Teaching Women to Falsely Accuse

2010-02-17
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“Oh, I just got raped.”

With those five words, Danmell Ndonye turned the lives of four innocent men into a living nightmare. For several days last September, Stalin Felipe, Kevin Taveras, Jesus Ortiz, and Rondell Bedward were publicly branded as rapists, mauled by jail guards, and threatened with 25 years behind bars.

“I’m not even 25 years old. I’m just 19,” a relieved Felipe said later, following news that the tryst had been taped on a by-stander’s cell phone, which showed the encounter to be entirely (and enthusiastically) consensual.

Afterwards, classmates were “calling my daughter the sister of a rapist,” explained Ramiro Taveras, father of one of the falsely accused men. “Unfortunately, everything doesn’t stop because the DA says go home and drops the charges.”

Ndonye, a freshman at New York’s Hofstra University, had been spotted by her new boyfriend following a raunchy bathroom romp, and she didn’t want him to think she was a “slut.” So she conjured up the rape ruse to conceal the truth.

False accusations of rape, sexual assault, and domestic violence are not an anomaly.

Sociologist Eugene Kanin did two studies of rape claims among university students. The first found a 50% false accusation rate, the second reported 41% of women later recanted their stories.

Studies of domestic violence accusations paint a similar picture.

One analysis of protective orders in West Virginia found seven of 10 orders were unnecessary or false. A Massachusetts inquiry found over half of protective order petitions did not even allege physical abuse.

Another study, “Prosecution and Conviction Rates for Intimate Partner Violence,” published last year in Criminal Justice Review, found only one-third of persons arrested for domestic violence are convicted of the crime. Considering one million Americans are arrested every year for DV, that’s a whale of a lot of persons tossed into the back seat of a squad car without probable cause!

Lawyers are well aware of the problem. Elaine Epstein, former president of the Massachusetts Bar Association, revealed, “Everyone knows that restraining orders and orders to vacate are granted to virtually all who apply.” And Casey Gwinn, a nationally-known domestic violence prosecutor, admits, “If we prosecuted everybody for perjury that gets on a witness stand and changes their story, everybody would go to jail.”

The federal Violence Against Women Act – VAWA — bears much of the responsibility for this legal travesty. VAWA teaches women to bear false witness in five ways:

First, VAWA subscribes to the dubious proposition that any slight – physical, psychological, or financial – is a form of “violence.” That includes raising your voice, furrowing your brow, even sticking out your tongue. In most states, any woman who claims to be “fearful” – no evidence required — is entitled to a protective order.

Second, VAWA-funded public awareness programs bombard the public with images of violent men, leaving women hyper-vigilant and fearful. These feminist indoctrination campaigns dishonestly veil the fact that women are equally likely to strike their male partners. And don’t expect them to murmur a peep about former NFL star quarterback Steven McNair, shot four times in the chest by his ex-girlfriend last July.

Third, VAWA hires so-called “domestic violence advocates” to work in police departments and courthouses. These persons coach women to gussy up their stories so judges become convinced they are victims of abuse.

Fourth, the system offers loads of bennies to women who have ascended to the cult-like status as “survivors” of domestic violence. Not only do they get free legal help, they are also entitled to preferential treatment by the family law system, welfare services, and public housing.

Fifth, there are no penalties for women who manipulate the system. If a woman wants to make a man’s life miserable, she can keep going back to the courthouse, rehashing her sob-story about being “harassed” or “stalked” or “abused.” No evidence is required, not even an allegation of actual violence.

I have known good, upstanding men who have been broken by the calumnies of their vindictive exes. Their reputations savaged and savings depleted, their lives have become filled with court hearings and legal consultations to the point they can no longer find steady employment.

In a disturbing sense, these men are the lucky ones.

Freddie Peacock of Rochester, NY was convicted of rape in 1976 and sentenced to hard time. Six years later he was released on parole. For the next 28 years, Peacock fought to prove his innocence.

Two weeks ago Mr. Peacock became the 250th person in the United States to be exonerated through DNA testing. “Freddie Peacock was released many years ago, but he hasn’t been truly free because the cloud of this conviction hung over him,” explained Olga Akselrod, the attorney handling his case.

  • Noelle

    Wow, I am truly sorry to hear all these cases of injustice, harassment, and abuse, using accusations of domestic violence and sexual assault as weapons.

    However, this article states: “The first found a 50% false accusation rate, the second reported 41% of women later recanted their stories.” Most women AND men I knew at college who were sexually assaulted never reported it, and those who did face so many roadblocks that they eventually dropped the case and “recanted.” It didn’t mean they weren’t raped. There are many cases of harassment and assault being overlooked. It doesn’t mean that “oh, a few men falsely accused is just collateral damage.” It just means that those looking into the cases need to be as sensitive and accurate as possible, as is not often the case, for either victims or those falsely accused.

  • Denis

    Harry Reid is now at it:

    http://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/82803-reid-men-when-theyre-out-of-work-tend-to-become-abusive

    Men are getting slammed again. This time by Reid who says:

    “Women don’t have jobs either, but women aren’t abusive, most of the time,” he said.

    Last time I looked men lost jobs in far greater numbers than women. Not only that, the so-called “shovel-ready” job money from the stimulus was transferred to female-dominated areas such as healthcare, education, and government jobs.

    Reid is one of the dirtbags who jumped when N.O.W. told him to jump and transfer this money.

    So they increased joblessness among men and now berate them for being abusers without jobs.

    I posted at the above link but it is being moderated.

    I suggest all interested MRAs make theri voices heard.

    Our damn government is our enemy.

    Wake up.

  • anonymous

    Actually here’s how it works, a women for some reason want to quit her husband. Most of the time its because he loose his job or she found a new guy that she likes more. She throw the cops, the cops come and tell the guy to shut up, the man is labeled as violent. The court order the kids to go with the mother and the husband have to pay monthly for children he see a couple times a month. From what i heard, its for many the worst kind of torture a guy have to endure, usually ends up as a suicide. Where I invented this? I didn’t, i almost experienced it myself and my lawyer told me this. Actually, this is how it works here in Canada. But anyway same notion, thats why i agree when some peoples says that feminism is like a being in a cage with a sleeping tiger.

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  • http://shatterdmen.com/ Shatteredmen

    pj1….this only shows that those out to destroy our country are given more rights than MEN in our society. Most are not aware of this and even FOX news will not cover it.

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  • Mr. J

    “I thought by now enough men would have gone through what I have to effect some change”
    ……
    Yes, you would think it would work that way, but the type of thing you went through is not the only injustice suffered by innocent people by far and “men” for the last 30 or so years, have had basically nothing between their ears from being obsessed with “professional” sports and car racing and similar meaningless useless crap…When most “men” have their heads full of nothing but that garbage, their opposition just walks away with the real prize every time.

  • pj1

    shattered men @ pj1

    Question…were you given Miranda rights?

    yes. “whats your name and do you know x and were you at y at such and such a time” The police officer in the car said how he arrests people all the time for “beating their wives…” He said you can’t get away with it?

    I stated my innocence but relized after a while i needed a lawyer and shut up

  • http://www.shatterdmen.com shattered men

    @ pj1

    “The next day the female probation officer said “I fit the profile of an abuser”

    Of course you do…you are…MALE!

    Question…were you given Miranda rights?

    We have Miranda Rights for Terrorists!

    http://www.shatterdmen.com/Miranda.htm

  • HQR3

    I hear about cases like this, about DV and other injustices, and it galls and befuddles me that MRAs are so reluctant to use the “O”-word. That’s right: “oppression.” What is happening to men in the West–and now boys–is nothing short of oppression, at least on the scale of anything the Taliban cooked up. A reluctance to indulge in victimology is all good and well when considering minute slights, but the sheer magnitude of the crap that’s coming at us makes exaggeration difficult. Sometimes a victim is a victim; sometimes oppression should be called by its true name. We MRAs have a problem with understatement, a residue of the “manning up” mentality.

  • SingleDad

    The odds are against us, the enemy is strong, but to lose is not an option. Things have gone way too far.

    But, fights like this require courage, tenacity and teamwork, these are our strengths, their weaknesses.

    Remember, a victory is sometimes judged by the size of the opponent you defeat.

  • pj1

    I found the MRA movement because of false allegations of DV. I couldn’t believe how quickly my rights, due process, my freedom and as a result from the local police log – public opinion from a false allegation of abuse. Here is how it worked for me:

    I found out my fiancee was having an affair. Was I mad. yes. My only plan of action was to leave the relationship and inform the people in our lives as to why we broke up. Hours later that night my doorbell rang and the police arrested me. Weeks later I was told by a mutual friend that my ex INTENDED TO RUIN MY REPUTATION BEFORE I RUINED HERS…

    What a nice way to cover up the mess… Needless to say, my ex is the worst type of person imaginable, however she maintains herself as a regular and well regarded professional. And she got lots of sympathy too (even from my friends) for being a victim and losing her fiancee and her life dreams? She cheats, gets caught, ruins me… gets sympathy. Nice.

    So, having spent many days locked up in county jail contemplating how I felt like a political prisoner, I was offered to accept my state’s equivalent of a “no contest plea” which did avoid recording a serious crime on my record. The judge stated, “that despite lack of evidence I find the plaintiff’s claims credible.” If I didn’t get back to work I’d lose my job. I needed to get out. And the cards looked stacked against me, so I bit my lip and accepted the charges even though it stood against all i believed in. The advocates were trying to get me held for 90 days before trial as they considered me a danger to my ex? I say a way out and took it and decided to do damage control on my life asap.

    Being held one has less rights than a convicted felon. No shower. Locked up 23 hours a day. One phone shared among many people. Many other men were there of DV charges too… It is impossible to build a case for one’s innocence under these circumstances. The “system” knows this.

    I did have probation as a part of my plea.
    The female court clerk said to me upon leaving when paying my fine “your lucky to get out.” I politely asked her “if she was paid to have an opinion?” The next day the female probation officer said “I fit the profile of an abuser” I said, “gainfully employed nice guy from a good family with no criminal history…really” – I knew then to just be silent and take it when she informed me that she could and would put a GPS on my ankle, and she said she heard that I was verbally abusive to the clerk… You can’t win. Just “take it” is the modus operandi.

    This happened to me many years ago. I thought by now enough men would have been through what I had to effect some change. But, where are they now? Where are the women who care about equal rights for the men in their lives? Change seems slow to impossible… The reality is that innocent men are viewed as acceptable collateral damage. There is a 0% tolerance policy and the standard of assessment on these matters is based 100% on a women’s account regardless of the circumstance and lack of evidence.

    I realize that I am venting here. I have told my story many times before. I believe being open about it helps affect the way people view this type of matter. DV policy is going to be very complex to fix/change. The entire criminal justice system is already running with a one way approach in handling domestic violence. I do not see the infrastructure changing anytime soon…but that will not stop me from being part of the change that is needed.

  • Ray

    Make that “wreaks havoc,” not “reeks havoc” Sorry about that.

  • Ray

    Proudly, I have not served on a jury in over twenty years. I’m a jury nullificationist. The legal system was already becoming very corrupt with feminist ideology before VAWA. We see now, how a corrupt law like VAWA reeks havoc in innocent men’s lives.

    When I am sworn in on a jury panel, I answer “yes,” when asked to serve, then add “under duress.” I will not participate in such a vile legal system of my own free will.

    When asked if I will follow a judges instruction on the law, I answer, “If it does not conflict with the highest law of the land, the U.S. Constitution, and I will sit in judgment of not only the facts in the case, I will also sit in judgment on the law itself. The U.S. Constitution says, ‘We the people,’ not ‘We the judges.’”

    All the evil, corrupt judges I have told that too in Los Angeles have dismissed me from serving on the jury I’m called for. They do not believe in the words of our founding fathers from the Declaration of Independence, to throw corrupt laws like VAWA out of government:

    “Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.”

  • Bizzman662

    Thank you! This was a very well written article.

    “I have known good, upstanding men who have been broken by the calumnies of their vindictive exes. Their reputations savaged and savings depleted, their lives have become filled with court hearings and legal consultations to the point they can no longer find steady employment”.

    What most people don’t understand or grasp…is that THIS is now the following “roadmap” in divorce proceedings.

    1. Woman hires a lawyer.
    2. Since the ABA promotes and gains financially via the VAWA, she is advised to use that little word “Afraid”.
    3. Man arrested for DV, TRO including his kids.
    4. This process just prolonged the divorce so the FATHER can PROVE to the court he is a good FATHER by chipping away at the TRO via “visitation time”.
    5. More “billable” hours are charged as a result of the TRO and the FATHER proving himself to the court.
    6. As a result of the DV charge, the FATHER has to either get the divorce over with BEFORE the DV case is decided or HOPE TO GOD he is cleared.
    7. Since there is a DV charge, the mother will be awarded more Alimony/CS due to the custody auto defalt due to the DV charge.
    8. Divorce finalized…father is now a “visitor” via every other weekend, two weeks in the summer and alternating holidays.
    9. Since he has a DV charge…finding or keeping a job becomes difficult.
    10. Man falls behind on CS, state start to “suspend” everything making his job hunt or getting to one that much more difficult.
    11. With all of these issues, Mom feels entitled, Dad feels destroyed and begins to have the kids “kept” from him by violation of his “visiting” time with no recourse from the court.
    12. Child Services eventually gets the guy behind on Child Support, (since they are mad about missing that 6 cents for every dollar they collect), throws him in jail, calls him a “deadbeat” and thus his relationship with his children is forever damaged.

    That’s a pretty good timeline of divorce these days…..

    Gotta love being a man.

  • Mr. Knight

    What good image are Mens Rights Advocates publicizing of men to counteract the negative one systemically inculcated by feminism?

    Where are the articles advancing such a good image?

    Vacuums get filled by something bad if they haven’t been filled by something good.

  • Jim

    And just think the guy that started this VAWA is a heartbeat away from being our president.

    Great country we got here!

    I liked your article you are so right…the way things are here all it takes is a woman’s WORD to destroy your life. And if she is lying…….there is no punishment for that at all.

  • http://www.shatterdmen.com shattered men

    “Everyone knows that restraining orders and orders to vacate are granted to virtually all who apply.”

    Actually this is only half true….if you are a man, no need to apply, you will most likely not get it. A judge refused one for my son after he was hit with a broom by his daughter’s mother. The judge said…”Men do not need protection”!


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