The Plague of Modern Masculinity

2010-03-07
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Authors note: This essay is a revision, a radical overhaul and expansion rather, of an earlier piece, “Killing the Alpha Male.”  Writing that piece caused me to rethink and revisit the subject of modern masculinity. I was also prompted to consider other factors after reading Pelle Billing’s piece “Feminism and Chivalry” and the comments there regarding the symbiotic relationship between feminism and masculinity. It is part of a developing treatise on modern masculinity so criticisms are most welcome, either in the comments or by email.  Thanks.

Scores of our young men today are stranded at an impasse on the road to realizing manhood. They are bogged down in the confusion of a generation lost to treacherous forces they never saw, for reasons they were never able to comprehend.  They are struggling and starving; unable to feed their souls in a world that finds them increasingly unnecessary and burdensome.

They have come of age in a time of coerced impotence, their nascent masculinity gutted and stripped long before having the opportunity to shape their character and their destiny. In that they are suffering from the loss of things never held, from things missing but never known. They are, quite literally, a lost generation of the walking wounded, wandering blindly from a battlefield on which they never knew they stood.

In that light, the path they are on is not really the road to manhood, but simply a retreat from the effacing malice woven into the very fabric of their developmental lives.  And it takes them not to safe ground, but directly into a dismal culture of shallowness and self indulgence; a realm of options without obligations; of self gratification without self awareness or self discipline.  It is the death march of the western male, destined for a withering end ensured by intellectual, psychological and moral atrophy.

This aimless, narcissistic existence is a forced escape from lives shrouded in shame; from manhood being reduced to an evolutionary joke in the eyes of a culture that holds it in contempt, even as the elders deny it is happening.  With the wholesale whitewashing by society and abandonment by the fathers more or less complete, the newly (de)engineered young man is all but defenseless against this downward spiral into terminal insignificance.

It’s happening all around us.  One only need look at current events to see that the world of men is quite literally circling he drain; disappearing from the stable foundations of education and employment. They are targeted with disinformation about crime and domestic violence, and about deviant sexual proclivities with women and children.  These are no longer just the ruminations of twisted ideologues. The demagoguery now emanates directly from the government, backed by men with gavels, and men with guns. The judicial apparatus has been reshaped, not to pursue justice, but to incarcerate men at every opportunity, even to enable and encourage false accusations to accomplish that goal. This isn’t just about male bashing any more. It is about male subjugation. And it is not being executed by feminists or women, but by men.

We might proffer that the solution is a redirection to days past, when we imagine that men made masters of sacred codes; when they possessed strength and purpose and would stand against this growing tragedy and defeat it.  We would be wrong. We can only find that Thomas C. Wolfe was right. You can’t go home again.  And what’s more, you really don’t want to.  It was, in a sense, home that got us here. And that is a truth we must face, no matter how natural or compelling the tendency to point to any other “outside” force and satisfy our frustrations with the simplistic convenience of an easily identified enemy.

As always, our true enemy is in the mirror. The only thing that will save us is to face up to that and act accordingly.

In the fitful and often strange world of the men’s movement, we attempt to answer this social malady; to create a haven, if only an intellectual one, for the refugees of this godforsaken gender war.  It is a mission often hobbled by our own hands, yet the work goes on, limping toward solutions. We strive, I think, as men who have taken the red pill and seen through the Matrix, to formulate an appropriate response, and in our own way to push some sanity and balance back into the collective consciousness; to force it past the architects of institutional misandry, both male and female. But even as we exert pressure, we don’t have a firm grasp on what it is we are fighting.

We have not ascertained, nor have we even really thoroughly tried to, what role traditional manhood plays in the problem. Unfortunately, what we have too often done is practice the obstinate politics of wounded children who insist that they have no role in whatever befalls their lives.  We have, at times, angrily and energetically reacted to misandry, but have balked with equal vigor at seriously examining how we fostered and enabled it with masculine codes of conduct. Consequently, all of our efforts rooted in this approach have failed, and miserably so.  We have made some progress, and will no doubt eventually mature into a more effective movement, but not before we embrace more than the hostility we feel for perceived enemies.

Our most functional response thus far is to check out and go our own way, but I contend that an exit is not a destination, but just a needed removal from the line of fire; a chance to collectively regroup and rethink.  Remember that the young men festering at those crossroads have, in their own way, checked out, too.  It isn’t looking too good on them.

And it forces us, sooner or later, to swallow a pill that some will find bitter. And to face a reality that some will find unconscionable.

The feminists were right.  Masculinity has, as it relates to modern realities, corrupt, oppressive and destructive elements that need to change.

And yes, I mean that literally.  And no, I’m not kidding.

In fact, the entire thrust of my argument is that the monstrous social degeneration we are now witnessing, more than anything else, is the result of outmoded and horribly misguided masculinity.

Of course, once we dig more than a nanometer deep into the subject we find that objectivity and reason veer us onto an entirely different philosophical trajectory than the pathologically twisted and apoplectic mindset of feminist ideologues.

To chart our course, we will do two things that feminists never did. First, we will look at the subject without a politically driven agenda for unjustified revenge, or a mandate to dominate the other half of the population. And two, we will proceed with the sincere goal of benefit for everyone, not just an elite group.

The only sensible place to start is with a more grounded understanding of masculinity itself, something that can’t be done in a 3,500 word essay, but can, with even marginally appropriate treatment, arrive at far better conclusions than the last forty years of women’s and gender studies. We can rely on the combined contributions of history, mythology, politics and, most importantly, human sociobiology.  For in the end we are a species of animals whose very existence depended on the development of reproductive strategies, the primary of which is that the most aggressive and powerful males are selected for mating by the most reproductively viable females.  Those strategies arose from an environment of necessity and produced an effective way to produce offspring with the highest probability of survival. As a function of survival, that strategy, and not patriarchal conspiracy, shaped the male hierarchy, as well as what we now call masculinity.

Some dry facts- The hierarchy of men:

Despite the numerous male archetypal figures of history and legend, there are truly only four basic types of men.  Three of the more commonly known are the alphas, betas and omegas.  The fourth I will address later.

Alpha males are a very, very small fraction of the male population.  They are highly dominant men who reside at near the top of all populations, from social groups to national governments. These men are generally characterized by the ability to force the deference of other men, often mistaken for leadership, and to obtain and hold power, which lends them dominance in being selected for mating by the most desirable females. There is no evidence to suggest this is any different now than at any other time in history, and there is no way to underestimate the importance of the mating strategy in the phenomenon of the alpha male.

Success often has its price. Alphas also tend to be obsessively controlling, abusive and megalomaniacal. If you point to any despot in world history that slaughtered scores of his own people, for the need to maintain control, or for sheer sadistic pleasure, you are pointing at an alpha male. With alphas, you can throw your imagined codes of honor out the window.  Those codes are nothing more than tools used to force betas and omegas into compliance with their agendas.  All romanticism aside, the code of the alpha male is to conquer and control, both the objects of his desire and the men he exploits and expends to acquire them.  Characterologically speaking, they are a minute, worst representation of the male of the species.  But they also get things done, and with great efficiency if you don’t factor weigh the loss of freedom and human life.

Incidentally, their characteristics are also the same ones that feminists have erroneously used to define masculinity in one broad stroke, painting all men as domineering and oppressive.  Success at this enabled them to take other microscopic minorities of men and attribute their characteristics to men in general as well, e.g. abusers, pedophiles, rapists, etc…

Historically, the challengers to alphas frequently came from other alphas and often from the ranks of beta males, who form the next tier down in the male power structure. Betas serve as the alphas enforcers, the strong-arms used to maintain control over greater numbers. They also play the role of  “yes men,” affording them their own realm of power and putting them within striking distance (or scavenging proximity) of the alphas position and status, including sexual primacy. Like roadies for a rock band, fortune often filters its way into their hands, and beds.

At the bottom, and most heavily populated part of the hierarchy, are the omega males. These are the pawns on a chessboard, often under the direct control of alpha, or by proxy, beta males.  This is the common man, and the one most vulnerable to the hazards of common life.

A good way to look at this is to take a look at the military chain of command. The general tendency is that the alphas, betas and omegas shed increasing amounts of blood in descending order and claim the spoils of victory in ascending order.

Government runs in the same way. In the simplest of terms, alpha lawmakers use beta law enforcement officers to exercise their will on the generally omega population.

Or rather government used to work that way, but it really doesn’t any more.

The political sell out that changed the world.

Alpha males in government didn’t just collude with feminist ideologues in order to garner a sizable and dependable voting bloc. They had wives to contend with, many of whom were supporting feminism, which effectively reduced everything to the biological imperative. Alpha males are no less, and arguably even more disposed to take whatever measures are necessary to ensure sexual status. Faced with a perceived threat to that, they effectively ceded the alpha position and became beta enforcers for the feminist agenda. You won’t find better examples of that than Barak Obama or Joe Biden, or George Bush for that matter.  These alphas became the beta muscle for a feminist Mafioso, maintaining rank and privilege through enforcing ideological imperatives on the defenseless masses beneath them. They became cops hauling men to jail on the simple accusation of their wives. They became judges bludgeoning men with their gavels in corrupt courtrooms; politicians passing ever more misandric legislation; C.E.O.’s of pharmaceutical companies pushing drugs like Ritalin to sap the vitality and strength out of our boys, to make them more malleable in female hands once the father had been removed from the home.

Isn’t this ironic?  The supposed pinnacle of strength in the male hierarchy was revealed by feminism to actually be the pinnacle of sexual weakness. This series of events is also a lesson in real power, and where it resides, which in the realm of sexual selection has always been in the hands of the women who did the selecting.

But an even greater irony is revealed.  Women, who have bemoaned a lack of power for ages, and in fact still do, found out four decades ago that all they had to do to gain almost complete control was step up and demand it be handed over, playing the sex card as they did so.  And it was handed over, by the most powerful men in the world, who in the presence of these women became like butlers offering cocktails on a serving tray.

I am not fond of that conclusion.  In fact, as a man who continually struggles to break old world ties, I am rather embarrassed by it.

Nothing learned, nothing gained.

Nonetheless, what happened here on the whole was that women, their raw biological power masquerading as feminism, have taken the dominant alpha status in our culture, and the result is quickly becoming an age of oppression and injustice more insidious and intractable than any other. It is in the biological, survival oriented nature of women to enhance their lives through the utilization of male labor and male expendability, without compunction or moral constraint, and that is exactly where our culture has ended up on an Orwellian scale.

Defeating this monstrosity requires the insanely formidable task of battling (figuratively) through beta enforcers masquerading as alpha controllers, not to a command post with someone in charge, but through a pervasive ideology that snakes like countless invisible tentacles through the consciousness of the population at large, and that emanate from the very heart of human evolutionary psychology.

And the first strike in that battle should be, must be, at the elements of masculinity that allowed it all to happen.

Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

They say there is nothing new under the sun.  History infers wisdom in those words. We can see with proper discernment that the women’s movement was not really a new era for women at all.  It is, on close inspection, just women and men practicing their biological strategies in a highly successful manner. So successfully, in fact, that it is rendering large portions of the male population even more expendable.  So expendable, in fact, that we are now creating reasons to get rid of them.

It was destined to happen once male control of the environment made it safe enough for women to start acquiring power and resources outside the traditional and protected realm of the home.  This is why you see feminism with its strongest foothold in industrialized nations founded on the rule of law.  And it is why you see that law itself is now being manipulated away from the idea of justice (which was its intent in a man’s world) and toward the funneling of added protection and resources to women (which has always been the intent in the world shared by both sexes).

It is not the pursuit of equality or the love of egalitarian values that has led to feminist governance, but pure blind human biology, practiced in the same way it was on the plains of Africa a million years ago.  And the stunning successes of men making all manner of advances since then has now begun to take us out of the picture.

Quite simply, men have worked themselves out of a job.

As noted earlier, we have already begun to disappear from the ranks of the employed and educated, and the government is adopting policies to accelerate that process.  It doesn’t take a conspiracy nut to understand that this will eventually become a disappearance from the planet.  In practical terms, there are not near as many men needed proportionally as there once was. The ones that remain will be of increasingly lower status and will be subject to ever more draconian control.

But of course, there is one factor that will turn the tide before it’s over.  It is the instinct for survival.  It is the only instinct stronger than sex, and it has already shown signs of emerging. We call it the men’s movement; MRA’s, MGTOW, and the like. We are the evidence that men transcending biology is possible; proof that there actually can be something new under the sun.  And we are growing rapidly because more and more men are beginning to see misandry for what it is; a loaded gun pointed directly at their heads, and at the heads of their sons.

Unlike feminism, which is simply a normal, functioning part of the female sex role advanced to destructive levels, masculism is the exact polar opposite.  This is the first time in human history that men are organizing to overcome their biological mandate and to reverse the flow of survival power back to the world of men.  And while our ranks contain many who are misinformed, and who in fact unwittingly play into the wrong agendas with support of chivalry and traditionalism, those notions are becoming increasingly unpopular and more commonly attacked on philosophical grounds.  The men’s movement is starting to get it.

And this is precisely the battle we need to fight! Not with women and not with feminists of either sex, but with the aspects of masculinity that are leading to our destruction because they are now outmoded, archaic and self defeating.  What remains of chivalry is better described as toxic waste in the water supply.  And just as we depart from the old definitions of masculinity, we must do the same with chivalry.  It may have once also been a code of honor used by alphas to control other men, but in the modern world we all know it has but one meaning- female privilege.  And so now we can call chivalry by more modern, more appropriate names, e.g. VAWA, primary aggressor laws, Title IX, rape shield laws, Title IV-D, family court, prosecution on false accusation, media bias against men, or, if you prefer the short and simple version, misandry.

The fourth type of man- the zeta male.

As previously noted, the men’s movement is a unique and literally unprecedented phenomena. It will bring with it some other firsts.  One of them is the socio-sexual warrior, and I refer to him for the purpose of this discourse as the zeta male.  The tag remains faithful to the Greek alphabet classification of the other three types of men, but there is more purpose to the label.  I took it from the star Zeta Persei. I liked the navigational metaphor of the star as it is applicable in the context of the lost generation.  But I was also intrigued to learn that Persei is a variation of Perseus, the first of the Greek mythological heroes. Perseus had a remarkable talent for slaying archaic monsters, Medusa the Gorgon among them, who as a mortal woman possessed great beauty, and was self enamored and struck with the power of her sexual allure until she was turned into a hideous monster by Athena, who later used her severed head as a weapon on her shield.

In 1940, an article by Sigmund Freud was posthumously published, entitled Medusa’s Head (Das Medusenhaupt) in which he postulated that Medusa represented castration in a child’s mind related to discovered and denied maternal sexuality.

Even more interesting is that in modern times, feminists (Women: A Journal of Liberation, 1978) adopted and reinterpreted the image of Medusa as representative of women’s rage, and it served as a binding symbol of feminist solidarity.

So Perseus, namesake of Zeta Persei, was the slayer of oedipal shame (control) and the murderously powerful raging feminist archetype.

The zeta male.

This classification of a male is new because this is a male that until recent times was never needed, and indeed was never there. He is emergent and unpolished and struggling to find his legs, but is doing so thanks to the fertile, safe ground, provided by, of all things, other emerging zetas on the internet.  He has no allegiance to tradition or nostalgia for the past, and in fact is charged with plotting a new course.  He cannot be shamed into control or intimidated into silence or seduced into capitulation. He doesn’t fit in the classic hierarchy, and would gladly bring it down in the name of his cause.  When someone says he needs to act like a real man, he smiles and says, “No, thank you.”

He doesn’t seek power, but justice.  And he has one overarching feature largely absent in the world around him.

He cares about those lost young men who were ambushed coming out of the womb. And he will strive to make himself an example, living proof that there are other roads to take than the ones that lead to self hatred and self destruction.

Paul Elam is the Editor-in-Chief for Men’s News Daily and the publisher of A Voice for Men

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  • James

    Interesting concept, I need time to reflect, however the internet was for me a godsend in that I was nolonger alone, feeling that there was something inheritantly wrong with feminism.

  • Squiggy

    They say there is nothing new under the sun.

    “They” just happens to be God, speaking to us in Ecclesiastes. And He was speaking to us about another time in human history when pretty much the same situation was happening.

    Men had tamed the world to the point where we weren’t (quite so) necessary. I’m not really sure how it went down then, but in the end, the civilization they had was destroyed. Kind of makes you wonder if destruction isn’t the inevitable result of the “girly-man”.

    P.S. Please tell me why the “zeta-male” isn’t a “girly-man”. Your description sure makes him sound like one. Hiding behind anonymity is what pussies do.
    (I know, I look like one too, what with my anonymous handle – but does protecting your children give you an excuse?)

  • Trust

    I’ve long found this paradox of feminism both amusing and depressing: feminists have no tolerance for gender differences, unless those difference are to their advantage.

    Take physicality for example. Feminists are adamant that women can weather the perils at war and be as effective as men. Yet the same feminists find the notion that women can be just as guilty of domestic violence absurd.

    Feminists love to accuse men of having selective hearing. They convenient overlook their own selective interpretation and selective application.

  • Ohone

    All Jews were made to wear the star because of alledged crimes and control by powerful Alpha Jewish dynasties in business and banking. All lower ranking men are are now supposed to wear the star for the crimes of Alpha dynasties and abusers of all discriptions.

  • http://thedamnedoldeman.com TDOM

    Excellent article. You’ve spelled out almost precisely the idea that I’ve been working on for several weeks. However, I would argue that the alpha male has always been under the control of the woman who was strong enough to control his sexuality. He only had the appearance of power and control because women could not concern themselves with exerting their power on a societal level. Biology made that impossible so they concentrated their power in individual families and in controlling their husbands.

    Technological advances have now made it possible for women to unite and to exert their power and control upon society at large. They no longer need the alpha and have declared war upon him as he is the only thing standing between them and their goal, which is the subjugation of the male. The rest is as you state.

    The zeta, as you call him, had better hurry and evolve. If he doesn’t it will soon be too late. Technology continues to advance and will soon develop the ability for the female to reproduce without the male. Sperm cells have been created already using female stem cells. While it is not yet possible to create a child with this technology, it is only a matter of time. When it happens, the male will be completely irrelevent to the survivial of the species.

    The goal of the zeta will not only be to redefine masculinity and reestablish manhood, but to also find a way to maintain relevence.

    -TDOM

  • http://www.unitywall.com TXM

    Some of my thoughts about the Zeta male:

    - In the power play between men and women, he seeks power, surely. But not at the expense of free women. He does not need slaves, for slaves own the master as much as the master owns them. The power he seeks is self-reliance.

    - He recognizes that western marriage, as it is currently constructed, is a sham. He does not enter into it.

    - He recognizes that women recieve just as much pleasure from sex as he does (if not more) and therefore feels no compulsion to pay for sex directly or indirectly.

    - It is a biological fact that no male can produce his own offspring. Today, he effectively has no legal rights to his own children. How does this man have children?

    - He recognizes that society views him as disposable. That work or war can literally end his life, and that a woman can replace him with another man. Another man might very well be father to his kids. Yet, he decides that he is not disposable to himself! That his life matters TO HIM. That it is worth living and worth living well.

    - He knows he can’t play bachelor forever. Sooner or later he is going to have to deal with the feminine. How? And on what terms?

    I love the idea of the Zeta male. It allows us to just start with the facts and build up a new vision of masculinity …one that is sorely needed. Great article!

  • Ken

    Articulate and well thought out.
    Ruminations of the “new” definition of masculinity, or “what a man is today”.

    What had once defined a man was the contrast of the feminine, as provider and protector of her and offspring. Since this is no longer as we knew it to be; Who is he? How does he relate to this world he finds himself in?

    As it stands now his only hope is to be fortunate enough to obtain alpha status or at the very least beta. What attracts the defeated omega to the realm of the zeta? What’s he expected to gain from it other than the hard self-realization he’ll never be better than who he is? Is pure awareness of his condition enough?

    Still more questions than answers so far, but that’s progress.

  • Mike M

    Hi Paul,
    I have to say I believe you to be a very intelligent man and your writing is a proof of that. Your insights in the condition of young men facing his growing insecurity is real but slightly too dramatic. I was a teacher for many years and I did not see a great concern that affected the males in my class, quite the contrary, I notice about the same confidence express by men throughout the passing years but not equally by my female students. I felt I needed to encourage the girls more. I did not need guidelines from the feminist, to a teacher fairness is a natural instinct.

    I wish Paul you could write an article on the difficulties that women still have to overcome to succeed today. The young men of today do not have the same obstacles that young women had to face in the past
    his only limitations are his own. He is now being challenges by a more disciplined female colleague, he will have to work harder to compete, he will have to be better than was expected from him before, he will need to believe in himself, he will need to be stronger, he will need to be a better man and he will become a better man and society will benefit by this gender competition

    But first Paul, we have to stop this witch hunt of feminism, this pursuit is draining the energy from many who could be working on more positive solutions. For years, women where telling the men what could be done so they would avoid the problems they are facing now but men did not respect them enough to listen, now its a bit too late, women do not have respect enough to listen to men, they are now on their own and they find this insupportable, but it is the first step to recovery, to know its weakness is to be more intelligent and aware of the work that is to be done. I have faith we will see a turn around in the coming years in the recognition of masculinity in our society but we must first acknowledge
    our mistakes and not be so consumed by the progress feared by many from the feminist. There is no reason why
    men should not be progressing in the same manner. History reveal tremendous achievements made by men and they is no reason to lose the confidence.

  • http://www.unitywall.com TXM

    To Mike M,

    I think you fundamentally miss the point. You talk about the fact that men now face women in the workplace: “…his only limitations are his own. He is now being challenges by a more disciplined female colleague, he will have to work harder to compete, he will have to be better than was expected from him before, he will need to believe in himself, he will need to be stronger, he will need to be a better man and he will become a better man and society will benefit by this gender competition.”

    What is the modern man’s incentive to push himself this way?

    If a man chooses not to marry, and chooses not to have children, it is very easy to live a pretty good life. He has a surplus of labor that he can sell for wages, or he can work less and enjoy more lesuire time.

    Do you really think he will continue to work in the coal mines, fishing boats and the Infantry (Omega males) if there is not some compelling reason to do so?

    This is precisly why traditional marriage and traditional gender roles evolved as they did… to support higher civilization. It is not enough to hold the politically correct line and talk about “fairness”. The fact is that there are consequences to society for a 50% divorce rate. There are consequences for ostracizing men from the family and the basic human relationships they need to be healthy.

    My son is almost 16 years old. He is facing the probability of getting married that is more likley than not to end in divorce. If that happens, there is a 70% likleyhood that the divorce was initiated by the woman. There is a better than 90% chance that he will be physically removed from his children (my grandkids) and be forced to pay an onerous and arbitrary wage to the state for the privelege.

    Does that sound like a good deal to you?

    It doesn’t to me. And out of love and compassion for my son, I am advising him not to get married. Ever. He ultimately will make his own decision. But that’s what he is getting from me.

    I don’t think you understand the moral argument. But at least consider the economic one. Why would you encourage any young man to voluntarily enter into a life of endentured servitude? To “better himself”?

  • SkepticBeliever

    Paul,

    You have hit the nail on the head. This is absolutely brilliant.

    To Mike M.: (and this is not an attack; but your comments really brought back some memories for me). I have to disagree completely with your comments even though you obviously wrote them in good faith. I was born right before the feminist revolution burst upon the scene, and this excerpt from Paul’s essay exactly describes my life as experienced in my immediate family:

    “They have come of age in a time of coerced impotence, their nascent masculinity gutted and stripped long before having the opportunity to shape their character and their destiny. In that they are suffering from the loss of things never held, from things missing but never known. They are, quite literally, a lost generation of the walking wounded, wandering blindly from a battlefield on which they never knew they stood.”

    I did exceptionally well in school, as you noted is your experience with teaching boys vs. girls, but inside myself my sense of masculinity was absolutely crushed. I was fed a steady diet of ‘men are no good’ long before this was popular, as well as other emotional, physical and covertly sexual abuse at the hands of females in my family. My subsequent adult life was severely crippled by the destruction of the masculine components of my being, even though I could ‘perform’ in a sense.

    What I am trying to say here is that the wounds to the psyche, soul and emotions are often not visible, and boys learn to pretend at a very early age how not to show what is going on within them. So I am not at all surprised by your observations. My world was a microcosm of what feminism was about to become on a grand scale.

    You may feel that you are trying to do girls justice in encouraging them, and that is admirable, but you are completely invalidating me, my life’s experience, and I fear the experience of many young men who cannot articulate what the problem is (I certainly couldn’t at the time). You obviously do not share this problem or have similar experiences, otherwise you would immediately see that what Paul has laid out is so dead-nuts (pun intended) on, that it makes me want to weep.

    On the subject of feminism: it is not all complete B.S.; there are many cogent observations made in some feminist writings. But I don’t think the intent of Paul’s article is a ‘witch-hunt’ of feminism. I believe you missed the point here, which to me seems to be that men have to salvage the hearts and minds of young men from an attack coming from other MEN who are unconsciously carrying out a twisted biological imperative. This is way past the feminist movement; this is a call for consciousness among HUMANS before we become just like a colony of bees or ants where the basic model is female, the queen runs the show, and only a few males are needed for breeding purposed (if that).

    I am not OK with that future. The human race deserves better than that.

  • http://www.dapoetslament.wordpress.com Dabir Dalton

    Even if feminists find a way to reproduce without men it will be but a short journey from there to a dead end and the eventual extinction of the human race. Because of the lack of and rapid diminishing of genetic diversity along with the rapid proliferation of genetic errors within the genetic code; unable to refresh itself from the contracting gene pool.

  • http://www.dapoetslament.wordpress.com Dabir Dalton

    TMX you are absolutely right about the men who don’t marry having a surplus of labor that they can chose to sell for wages or to work less and enjoy more lesuire time.

    For myself I enjoy writing as a hobby in my spare time but I intentionally chose not to make my living by writing which leaves me free to write what ever I want instead of what someone else tells me to write.

    Now if only I hadn’t made the mistake of marrying when I was much younger I would have more time to enjoy my hobby. So fellas if ain’t hitched to a ball and chain don’t even consider marriage in this day and age of the oppression of the male gender.

  • keith

    I am not a man. I AM.

    Your icons of oppression, father, brother, son, soldier, saviour, servant, these are your illusions, for your fear. These are your idols and your sins. You are free, and you are afraid. You rage against a war that has come and gone. You weep for the loss of your false icons and idols. Wounded by the death of seasonal gods that defined you. You hover in shadow amongst monolithic caves you molded for your beliefs and for your gods. You put justice in a basket and sold it like bread, for profit and for power. Your basket is empty of justice and you hunger. You are wounded and lost, hungry in the shadows of your monoliths, temples and beliefs. Angry that your gods have forsaken you.
    You cower at the cackle of policy and politeness. Whimper for the justice you baked, sliced and sold. Your empty basket is now heavier. You may reside here, you need not live here. You breathe, therefore you are free. You need not stroke your penis with your wallet, to sanctify your love of life. Give it up. Put down your e-rection and pickup a di-rection.

    For those young men lost in the cackle, busy trying to understand. Put down those interests for one day. Begin with one day for yourself alone. Get out of the construct and the city, or where ever you are. Take to the dirt and walk in the elements, whatever they be. From sunrise to sunset, just walk on the ground. At sunrise I’ll call you son. At sunset I’ll call you brother. In the dark hours we will talk.

    You will then know, that if every -man- layed down his pain and anger for one day to walk alone, in solitude and in the silence of his thoughts and not utter a word. He would give himself one day of justice, one day in the real world, outside the political matrix and construct and inside the elements of life. If all men chose the same day, no banner or protest, no statements or politics, the silence in the cities would be deafening.

  • http://menarehumanstoo.blogspot.com/ Adi

    Hi all again.
    Great article and very well written as usual.

    Just a small point I don’t agree with:
    You say that the decreasing number of men are likely to be ever more brutally subdues (without MRA).
    I’ll tell you why I find that particular scenario unlikely:

    Someone has to do the subduing and that will not be the women, it’ll have to be other men. This means that a significant number of men will have to remain to control society. Even if women are making the top level decisions, the ‘doing’ is done by the men.

    If men did ever find themselves enslaved by women (not using men to execute the orders), then they would revolt very quickly and easily. I just can’t see the armed forces ever comprising mostly women. No amount of feminism will bring that about.
    Bottom line: If things really get that rough, then there will be a quick (but violent) revolution.

    I think it won’t get that far though. It’ll still get worse than it is today but eventually MRA will pick up sufficient momentum to break the vicious circle.

  • http://menarehumanstoo.blogspot.com/ Adi

    I meant subdued and not “subudes”. Sorry it’s late.

  • keith

    @ Mike M

    With all respect to the nurturing of your masculine chivaldric identity,(don’t make the mistake I did and forget to kill the spiders) I can only suggest that you burn your bra!!

    There is no battle with the women of feminism. Women do not represent a higher standard of anything, anywhere, at anytime to anyone. In the biological maelstrom of pro-creation and existence, women hold exactly the same significanse they did a thousand years ago and a thousand years from now. If there is a battle it’s with ourselves. The suggestion is that we hunt down all the small “p” alpha’s, saw off their high heels and burn their bra’s. Particuliarly when they are de-man-ding that I dress up to.

    Consider the “Theseus Paradox” at this link
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ship_of_Theseus scroll down to “Aristotles Causes”. Replace the ship with you. Contemplate the solution of four-dimensionalism further down the page. You would have to agree that in the context of politically dressing up to pro-create, this politic is much more slendering and doesn’t make you look fat at all.

  • Ken

    Young men who suffer in silence need to be told, “It’s not your fault.”.

    If so many must languish as lowly and scorned omega males, at least they might stop hating themselves for a social existence they themselves did not create.

    If you’re born into a world where women are lauded for being more like men, it doesn’t mean you failed at something, destined to be a nascent eunich. They’ll try to humiliate and shame you into your own darkness. Ignore them. It’s not personal and it’s not your fault. They’re abusing the sexual and now political power bestowed upon them to punish all of us.

  • http://jayhammers.blogspot.com/ Jay Hammers

    “Unfortunately, what we have too often done is practice the obstinate politics of wounded children who insist that they have no role in whatever befalls their lives. We have, at times, angrily and energetically reacted to misandry, but have balked with equal vigor at seriously examining how we fostered and enabled it with masculine codes of conduct. Consequently, all of our efforts rooted in this approach have failed, and miserably so. We have made some progress, and will no doubt eventually mature into a more effective movement, but not before we embrace more than the hostility we feel for perceived enemies.”

    Yeah, sometimes I feel like I’m playing the victim card – like a feminist, haha. Men are victims, yes, but that doesn’t mean we have to be powerless. We can own our “oppression” and let our anger fuel our need for righteous justice.

  • Paul Parmenter

    Your article is another step forward, Paul. It is a step along a tightrope above an abyss, but it has to be made; because what we are edging away from is death, and what we are edging towards is life.

    Thanks for expressing it so well.

  • V

    Having been blessed with baldness at the age of 18 I was not part of the dating game or the mating game until my late twenties, by being an out-cast my views on women were that they are prisoners of their own making, and their mates were less masculine as required by this feminine delusion ie perfection is a myth and that beauty is only skin deep.

  • zuismanm

    Hi Paul.
    I have read your article wit great interest and pleasure. It is really deep and thoughtful essay on most fundamental and painful issue of MRA movement… And I have to say that I disagree with at least half of your conclusions:-)
    First of all – situation, when males can be evaporated and replaced from work force is not common world situation.. It is result of neocolonialist economy of USA, IL and some European countries. Those economies seized to produce anything (except weapons and bear) and became “services supplying”(that means – producing nothing , based on financial speculations). But that bulb is possible only since they abuse 90% of the wold resources through different methods of economical and political enslavement, or by direct military force like In Iraq and Afghanistan… US do not need any more construction workers and industry engineers, not because it’s population can leave with no plants and their production, but because those plants are now built in third world slaves countries… Such perverted situation can exist in small portion of world( two three, ten countries). Finally some one have to produce real things – plants, food, refrigerators… ). I do not see womyn going in their masses to work in construction , agriculture, different industry plants… So actually it is not spoken about males diminishing, but about marginalization, dehumanization and enslavement.
    I have to stop right now here , but I still have few things to add :-)

  • http://www.standyourground.com Poiuyt

    This article articulates the curent state of male affairs very well indeed.

    Males, because of their privately inspired conspiracies with females against themselves are effectively destroying their genderclasses status and running their own identity down to oblivion.

    There absolutely no longer exists any place of safety, serenity nor sanctuary for males, young or old anywhere :

    … Not in the family home where they are systematicaly deprived and displaced as husbands, fathers or sons, in order to furnish mothers and wives with free transfer payments;

    … exiled by being labelled as abusive-threats, violence-prone or rapists of females whom are themselves innocent of all evil;

    … or coercively worked to disease and death in pursuit of wealth and material resources for other female housholders separated long since by divorce, but in return for absolutely nothing.

    … not in the workplace where they are determined to be sexual harassers and economic oppressors of women whom would aledgedly do better sans men.

    … not in public spaces or conveniences where they are determined to have evil, malign and bad intentions, necessitating their being segregated as leppers from societies angels.

    And it all becomes even much more saddening when one realises that this mal-identification of males as evil, jejune and bad is being machined into place by other ambitious and opportunist males. Opportunist males whom feather their nests at their own genders expense.

  • pj1

    Very nice essay. I have nothing specific to add, but consider the following:

    I heard an ad on the local radio, it was a call to men by the Freemasons to restore men’s destiny and dignity by answering the call. Interesting…

    When I was younger I used to be a liberal and always found the following Grateful Dead lyrics interesting and never understood what they meant, but now i do.

    From the US Blues song:

    “I’ll drink your health, share your wealth, run your life, steal your wife.
    Wave that flag, wave it wide and high.
    Summertime done, come and gone, my, oh, my.

  • unapologetic masculinist

    “There is no battle with the women of feminism. Women do not represent a higher standard of anything, anywhere, at anytime to anyone. In the biological maelstrom of pro-creation and existence, women hold exactly the same significanse they did a thousand years ago and a thousand years from now. If there is a battle it’s with ourselves.”

    No it isn’t. The battle is with women, who set the battle on us forty years ago when they built up all the prerequisite weapons to use against us (suffrage, “rights”, etc.).

    Today women wage war upon us men. Yet we dare not retaliate?

    If men are not smart enough to see that the battle is first and foremost with women – not other men, not “marxism” – then the male power movement has no hope.

  • unapologetic masculinist

    “Opportunist males whom feather their nests at their own genders expense.”

    … SEX’S expense.

    Gender is a term invented by feminist women used only to advanced the interests of women.

  • unapologetic masculinist

    “This is way past the feminist movement; this is a call for consciousness among HUMANS”

    Women claim feminism to be essentially “humanist” – which it is not.

    Clearly this “humanistic” approach does not work and we must ditch this rhetoric. “We should just see each other as humans! Why can’t we all get along and learn to love our differences!”

    Wishful thinking and nonsense. Completely ignores the essentials of the Sex War.

    No my friends, the only game intown is opposing the women’s movement and developing male power. Standing up for male interests and defying the power grabs of the female collective.

    Humanism is a weak, impotent copout.

  • BC Philosopher

    What to me is most remarkable is that this is not a battle that is difficult to fight.
    Our weapons are already there, our soldiers there, they just need to understand the battle they are fighting and they need to realize how important it is to them and their children, sons and daughters.

    The longer this goes on without change or reproach the greater the potential backlash when it comes. Men are being pushed further and further and still not reacting, there will come a time where the push may be too hard and the reaction will be all the greater. I would rather see it stopped before that point, it will save lives.

    I like the concept of the Zeta male but I think its incorrect, it is not a new kind of man that needs to stand it is every man who needs to stand up and be counted. It is every man who sees “International Women’s Day” and says “where is men’s day?”.

  • keith

    “Masculine Codes of Conduct”

    It would seem as males that we like to extend this code of conduct to the benefit of women, to somehow define our significance to them and to ourselves. In doing this we polarize our conduct to men in the exact opposite way, usually as destructive. We like to think and -feel- that this defines the warrior/hero in us. So when we humiliate and oppress another man, cheat him with our cleverness, exploit his vulnerabilities and call him stupid and worthless, as we trick him from his prosperity and security. We are really doing it to ourselves. Look around and ask yourself who the real author of misandry is.

    In simple terms, I have concluded that I cannot take an idiot out back and put a bullet in his head just for being what I believe he is. So in order to help myself, I am charged with helping him, or at least not hurting him further. After all if he is an idiot he’s got tough times ahead and will certainly need some help. Although in these times, this simple principle is being reversed. Let’s hope your not labeled an idiot. After all what is an idiot, an organism with a different perspective. We don’t measure an idiot by their ability to experience life right. We measure an idiot by their ability to conform to our demands and requirements.

    Male Code of Conduct: the fight for equality is not with women, it’s between men. Feminism and women in general have absolutely nothing to do with a men’s movement, if one should ever start.

    I am a self-employed furniture mover. A low level omega. I am the dirt of this prestigious world of technology, entertainment and politics. I work beside young men that range from ritalin illiterates to nintendo doctorates. I find most of them come from a history of neglect. From family, institutions and society. Trust me when I say, there are more of us than there are of you. These men come with clumsiness and youth. With physical labor they learn to occupy their bodies and gain a confidence they rarely experienced. With confidence they begin to occupy their own minds. When this happens they become very interesting people to talk to. They don’t quote books or education, they quote themselves and their life experience. They rarely speak of privilege, and are invested in determination. It would seem that if you guys up there are feeling the sting of misandry, consider for a moment what it’s like down here in the dirt. Of course check your schedule first and see when it’s convenient.

    I don’t believe a men’s movement is about me being like you. I believe it’s me being me and you being you and bridging the gap with goodwill……… towards men. But it’s just so damn unmanly.

  • Mr.K

    @ Mike M.
    It’s said that flattery gets you anything. But as you wrote Paul Elam is “intelligent” and unlikely to fall into the trap you put out for him.
    As to young men having opportunities for jobs, the military is one option after Title IX ruined scholarships for athletics for boys and created artificial opportunies for girls who had no interest in sports. It was even reported that they created rowing team for girls in Arizona desert school.
    But it’s not too late for women who have children and families. Since we seem to have perpetual wars amd men are pushed into the “meat grinder” like in the movie Hurt Locker.
    So the Army proudly announced that a German-born mother of 13 children had joined the Army. American women could do the same. Link to the story

    http://www.army.mil/-news/2008/12/09/14945-mother-of-13-brings-new-meaning-to-army-strong/index.html

  • keith

    @ unapologetic masculinist

    the politics and politicians that socially disenfranchise men are paid for with your tax dollars.

    the purchase of feminist programs and propaganda by those same politicians is with your tax dollars.

    these bastards are buying votes with your f–king money and mine and you want me to attack the voters.

    better yet why don’t I just attack myself. wait a minute maybe that’s already happening.

  • keith

    @ unapologetic masculinist

    brother this ain’t no guerrilla war with sniping from safe places or anonymous names. the political and sexual histrionics don’t matter anymore, your in up to your knees. forty years ago isn’t today. the lies of yesterday are the truths of today.

    “you better learn how to swim or you’ll sink like a stone” bob dylan

    I’m not arguing your points, I’m suggesting the battle with ourselves is “how to swim”.

  • keith

    @ unapologetic masculinist

    the lies the feminists wrote weren’t about women or men. just as the lies the historians wrote weren’t about men or women. history is always written by the winners and it’s never about the truth. it’s purpose is to form belief, intention and direction.

    can we transcend our biology?
    can we redefine ourselves?
    can we be humane humanists?
    can we learn how to swim?
    can we survive?

    It is a brilliant article and insight. A strong plank with which to form intent. A timely call for examples to rise. An excellent time to support those who have risen and are outstanding examples.

    Excellent piece Paul excellent!!!

  • http://avoiceformen.com/ Paul Elam

    @ Ken

    What attracts the defeated omega to the realm of the zeta? What’s he expected to gain from it other than the hard self-realization he’ll never be better than who he is?

    The answer to that is written clearly at the bottom and top of Maslow’s Ladder. At the bottom is basic survival. That is, after all, what we are increasingly challenged with.

    And at the top is self actualization, the purported pinnacle of human development. My thinking is that self actualization may be a lot more accessible to the average man if he shapes his own identity as much as possible, outside the mandates of men seeking power and in defiance of the biological expectation to serve as a utilitarian accessory in the lives of women.

    We may find, in retrospect, that the zeta path is the clearest one to self actualization, and works well for the culture at large, simultaneously.

  • http://avoiceformen.com/ Paul Elam

    @ Mike M

    I wish Paul you could write an article on the difficulties that women still have to overcome to succeed today. The young men of today do not have the same obstacles that young women had to face in the past

    Hi Mike,

    Misandry is most often, I think, practiced by people with good intent, but the again, as they say, the road to hell was paved with good intention.

    Your question is an instructive example of precisely what is wrong in society, and with men, in particular.

    Faced with a 60/40 representation of women to men in higher education, with women outnumbering men in the workforce, with being bashed and dismissed at the wholesale level, of dying and getting sick more often than women while we continue to open offices for women’s health but deny the same to men, you ask me why I don’t write about the struggle of women, even as you only point to problems they faced in the past.

    What can I possible say to this?

  • http://avoiceformen.com/ Paul Elam

    @ Paul Parmenter, Poiuyt, et al. Thanks for the support.

    @ Zuisseman

    Old friend, as always there is a lot of insight in what you have to say, and I think you nailed it pretty good. But I don’t think you accounted for the fact that all cultures are driven to acclimate to whatever the prevailing circumstances are.

    Given that you are right and we have had our production base eroded and have gone on the foolish path of a service economy, that still leaves a pecking order and the ability to ascend within that realm. And even there, as we see men falling behind in school and employment, what this tells us is that the site of men with mops in their hands standing next to women with clip boards and cell phones will only increase.

    And at the same time, we will still put the onus on men to take financial responsibility for the women.

    I agree with your big picture, but don’t think you have completed it with understanding what is happening at the sexual level.

    Cheers

  • Ken

    Thanks Paul.
    (I feel like I’m out of my league here.)

    As both sexes define each other, what do they become without each other? What do the survivors of this feminist induced “gender war” wasteland look like?

    Men need women to need them. With this dynamic all but lost, what fills the vaccum? What’s his new reference point now that the rules have been changed on an already tilted playing field?

    What’s a young man’s life supposed to look like going forward? Should he still cling to the hope of marriage and family or do something else? If so, what? Deliver pizzas, and get high to forget his plight?

  • http://avoiceformen.com/ Paul Elam

    @ Ken

    You are hardly out of your league. Your questions are the most relevant ones asked, and I don’t pretend to have anything but guesses for answers.

    But I will tell you my guesses. One, like it or not the relationship between men and women will have to change to accommodate the fact that we actually don’t need each other in the same ways we used to. We particularly don’t need each other for survival after reproductive goals have been met. I know there is a certain amount of collective grief for men that comes with acknowledging that, but I think it is true.

    I think the men that mature out of the lost generation, many will become zeta males; socially and politically conscious, survival minded and of general benefit to their community. They just won’t be self deluded about women or the risks of getting close to them.

    I think we will also see men get better at handling grief than they are now, because they will have to accept transient relationships where they never take their eye off the need for self protections. I also think we will actually start to see women change a little as zeta males move into political positions and actually start making changes to remove female entitlement from western law.

    Basically, I could write another essay on it and do believe I will. Thanks for your questions.

  • zuismanm

    As I mentioned – I absolutely agree with your brilliant analysis of chivalry males behavior codes as self destructive, and leading males gender to misery, degradation and self oppression. I do not agree with your conclusions about macro social mechanisms of current males marginalization, and causes/mechanisms leading those process on high echelons of power.
    I am sure, that mechanisms, acting on those echelons are not gender (at least not gender only). Power, ruling elites, big money has no gender , no nationality, and of cause no moral or something even close to it. They have thirst to more power , money and of cause will do anything to ensure their position “on the top”. If to gain it males at those elites will have to eliminate 99% percent of other males – they will do it with no hesitation… Same – females. So I do not think, that power shift have been happen on sexual level. It occurred on layer of power elites, that faced problem of increasing social stratification of society, when (at least according to statistics I have read few years ago) life level of half of population remains at best same as 30 years ago, while tinny minority leave in bonanza… And number of “superfluous” people grow from year to year.. In such situation problem of control on such society is major one… And of cause old good “Divide And Conquer” was reimplemented in new coverage… I think, that from point of view of power elites feminist ideology suited this purpose perfectly. That is simple reason – all those women orgs gained such power in so short historical period. They became perfect tool, that help to keep society divided, in permanent internal animosity. Feminism is great tool to castrate what was called “citizens society” that once was seen as balance to power of economical elites and keep it in permanent self oppression… Ancient conquerors had a custom to kill all males older then 6-9 years at conquered nations… This way you have silence for few generations… Today economical elite instead have VAVA… and women orgs

  • zuismanm

    I absolutely agree with you that our main purpose if to teach men to stop take faked and perverted responsibility that has no any justification today for things that does not belong them any more:
    Children – on which they (males) have no any real right any more
    Society in general (it is women’s world)
    Women (that does not need any more male near them)
    Society reproduction (why should I pay from my taxes for children health care if reproductive rights belongs solely to females?)
    And they have to learn to take responsibility on things really important for them:
    Their health, education, self fulfillment
    Their rights (justice in share of public resources (health , education…) between genders)
    Their gender interests
    And so on.

    The real problem that I see here is lack of males reproductive rights. How can we teach males to all that if overwhelming and growing majority of them are raised solely by female (mother)? I think, that main long term target of MRA movement have to be separation of sexes and their reproductive rights… In ideal we have to achieve situation when female kids will be raised by female (mother) and male kids by male (father)… Question is that right now I have no idea how to reach those purpose…:-(

  • http://dannyscorneroftheuniverse.blogspot.com Danny

    BC Philosopher:
    It is every man who sees “International Women’s Day” and says “where is men’s day?”.
    Its going to take more than that for such a statement will only be countered with claims that “everyday is men’s day!”. Mind you that claim is totally based on the premise that we are all a monolithic entity which would allow for someone to think that the Elite Joes patting themselves on the back is somehow representative of all males. Its like Paul said in the post people (not just feminists) have deluded themselves into thinking that Alpha males, while only a small subset of men, actually represent the entire male population.

    zuismanm:
    In ideal we have to achieve situation when female kids will be raised by female (mother) and male kids by male (father)… Question is that right now I have no idea how to reach those purpose…:-(
    I have to disagree with that. I think that trying to bring about such a rigid gender divide would lead severe isolation and would rob the parent of the opposite sex the chance to raise their child. This is already a problem that many dads face when they are pushed out the lives of their children of both genders. Getting dads back into the lives of only their sons would be a grave disservice to all involved.

  • zuismanm

    At previous post – when I wrote
    “Ancient conquerors had a custom to kill all males older then 6-9 years at conquered nations… This way you have silence for few generations…”
    The reason is – females do not revolt… And society that lost it’s males becomes submissive society…
    Same is going on today… Society dominated by females (it is women’s world) is submissive and easy to manipulate… I mentioned this example few time , but I will repeat it once more… In IL last 20 years, when feminism got heavy control on most of what once was IL citizens society – there were no any significant social (not gender) struggles… Poverty (and especially among children) reaches levels, that IL never knew in past… 40 years ago it surely would raise wave of strikes , demonstrations, social revolt(as it really happened those years) and state would be forced to take some actions… But today – it is absolutely different story… Only issue that can raise wave of demos is another delirious story of some whore that claims she was “violated” by politician, actor, sport seleb or just “man”…
    Social funds are truncated by 2-4 billion NIS per year (education, health and so on) but what remains is caricature redistributed in favor of females… And women orgs are silent, women “feels they archived some more advances” and no one is interested why after all, number of children that raise in poverty, undereducated, with no access to worthy health services grow from year to year… Such a paradox!

  • zuismanm

    Hi Danny.
    Your critique would be right in era of family institution… But today family is dead. Period.
    Family was unique institution existed in Patriarchal society. After those society was dismantled – family ceased to be and was silently replaced by modern matriarchal pseudo marriage, at which males have only duties but no rights… such perverted construction can not exist long time and supply valuable platform for sexes cooperation and raise of new generations… So genders ways are separating. It is not a question any more. Old platform of cooperation is destroyed and nothing valuable is not created to replace it. And I think it will take hundreds years to create such valuable new model… We are now speaking about – how males gender can survive those period without being thrown into misery, enslavement and subhuman conditions. One of main targets to gain it is to give male right to his kid(kids) as females have already today (sperm bank) without being on mercy of some one else (female)

  • Mr.K

    If this U.S. Navy captain had been in charge of the Titanic, would sh have shouted “Damn the topedoes (Icebergs)” and as the ship began to sink, shouted women first into the lifeboats. According to Bernard Chapin’s video, her sister and brother in law are Admirals, but Captain was shifted to a desk duty. Link: Capitol Hill Blue.

    http://www.capitolhillblue.com/node/26306

  • Mr.K

    More detailed story from Time of the Captain of U.S.S Cowpens.Link; Time.

    http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1969602,00.html

  • http://www.masculinity-movies.com Eivind F S

    Very powerful essay and I share many of the views, especially that one of the main tasks is for the new man to see outmoded forms of masculinity as one of the main hurdles to true men’s liberation. Your language is pretty polarizing, Paul, which I think is good to inspire men to action, but overall fails to get the message cross as well to the general masses.

    I’m not sure anyone is really the enemy here. If anything, it’s anti-male ideology itself and our own failure to confront it, which I think you actually point out – although I don’t agree so much that it is the enemy that I see in the mirror as much as it is a man who has not been initiated by elders and who is now looking for an initiation of his own. I think the appropriate response is compassion, for myself, you and all those misguided women. From that compassion, powerful action in the world can arise.

    So the reason I like the first part better (I define first part as that which ends with “some dry facts – the hierarchy of men) is that it seems more grounded in a love for men and boys whereas the second part seems powered some anger towards women. Perhaps it feels that way because I haven’t reached thoughts that are exactly like yours, and that I’m resisting them, but still, my feeling is what it is.

    That anger has a valid foundation, but the tendency to extrapolate from the status quo to a future without men – a male apocalypse – is unneccessary. Many women I meet are on “our side” in this struggle. They are sick and tired of male bashing. In Norway right now, there are strong signs that the politically correct feminist misandric agenda is starting to falter, simply because there is a TV show now that completely humiliates a lot of gender researchers who will not even consider that biology has anything to do with the forming of the sexes. They are basically being ridiculed at a national level right now and the politically correct academia is quivering in its boots. It’s quite promising.

    We are here aren’t we? We are ready to start fighting the good fight. But I don’t want that fight to be a battle for survival as much as a battle for pressing love and truth into the world with our integrity and brotherhood. If it is anything but, it will be a dirty fight, fought with weapons of passive aggression because we are not men enough to fully own our own responsibility for creating the mess. You point that out, much to your credit, but it will be so easy to forget once the fighting commences.

    The most important aspect of this struggle is that men start meeting again. That men gather and rediscover themselves in an atmosphere of brotherhood. I’m starting up a group like that in Oslo very soon under the Masculinity Movies umbrella (http://www.masculinity-movies.com), which I believe will have a strong impact locally. While the Internet is incredible valuable as a communications hub, a proving grounds and an arena for honing our message, we must eventually actually meet in person to affect the real changes we are looking for.

    Overall, I love the essay, although I feel there is a subtle inner disconnect between the heart and the balls here. Probably not more than what would have surfaced in a piece of my own, though, so that’s okay.

    But this sentence “Unlike feminism, which is simply a normal, functioning part of the female sex role advanced to destructive levels, masculism is the exact polar opposite,” sounds a bit like an ascension trip, an attempt to outshine all others but ourselves. I think there may be some personal kinks here for you, Paul, although I see where you are coming from.

    Lots of food for thought here.

    Thank you, Paul, for this great contribution.

    Eivind
    http://www.masculinity-movies.com

  • http://www.pellebilling.com Pelle Billing

    For me, this piece outlines the difference between old, traditional masculinity and the new kind of masculinity that we still need to create. It’s important that we as men take ownership of this process, and not blame anybody else. We cannot leave it to anybody else to explore or define what manhood means in the 21st century.

    Yes, we do have to stand firm in the face of feminism, and create new kinds of scholarship and ideas within the field of male studies (this is what I spend a lot of time doing myself). But we also have to forge a new identity. As zeta males, or whatever we want to call it. This is a topic I discuss regularly with a small number of male friends who get that something new is needed.

    Parts of the essay seems to be fueled by anger, which I think is symbolic for what many men feel in a “you-go-girl” kind of world. However, I think that the very moment we commit to creating a new kind of manhood, then the anger transforms into purpose, and reconnecting to our inner strength. And it is only once our anger is transformed in this way, that we will create actual results in ourselves and in the outer world.

    I see your essay as the starting point for a fruitful discussion, Paul. Thank you so much for having the guts to publish it.

  • http://avoiceformen.com/ Paul Elam

    @ Elvind

    First, many thanks for such a well considered critique. There is much to ponder in your good words.

    An admission here is that these writings (there are more to come) are not the product of exhaustive research or long held beliefs. They are actually close to stream of consciousness. I have started only with a kernel of an idea, and much of the rest more or less writes itself.

    For me, this is much more of an exploration than a conclusion.

    I will say though, that the polarizing element is intentional. As you indicated the need for men to physically meet and vet these things out, I also see an imperative that this happen outside the real of feminine influence.

    Ultimately, I hope the objective is more conciliatory and healing. But to me there are cuts that need stitching and bones that need setting before the disconnect from balls and heart is a good move.

    I will read your post several more times, though. As with so many comments from the MRMs brilliant members, they are a guiding and molding force in shaping the literature that is yet to come and in putting a bearing on our shared direction.

    Regards.

  • http://mensdefense.org Richard Doyle

    Very well said, Paul.
    I’ll send you a copy of my book, Save the Males, when revision is complete. Soon, I hope.

  • http://www.masculinity-movies.com Eivind F S

    I’m happy that you derived some benefit from my feedback, Paul. And the way in which you respond to the critique is immediately trust-building. I will follow your writing more closely in the future. It was only thanks to Pelle that I became aware of this piece. Thanks, Pelle!

    “As with so many comments from the MRMs brilliant members, they are a guiding and molding force in shaping the literature that is yet to come and in putting a bearing on our shared direction.”

    This is an exciting time, isn’t it? It’s like we are at the outset of a huge new cultural wave that will be defined by none other than ourselves. Very inspiring!

    Please feel free to contact me using e-mail as well. I’d love to stay in touch.

    Eivind

  • http://www.masculinity-movies.com Eivind F S

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  • Shayna

    Interesting topic and supportive argument. Question: What role do you think religion as an institution and its literary texts plays in all of this? Christian and non-Christian?






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