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A Garden Variety Nightmare

2010-03-16
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I get email from readers in trouble through my website at A Voice for Men on a fairly regular basis. Most of the time it is men looking for a divorce lawyer or those trying to defend themselves from a false accusation.  I seldom have a place to send them for any relief.

Upon occasion I get someone’s “whole” story.  Many of them are standard, men falling under the oppressive thumb of a family court system that is to the idea of justice what cigarettes are to pulmonary health.

Last might though, I got the following from a reader, Mr. Rick Welsh.  It is a story that demonstrates in clear detail many of the things that plague the life of the modern American man.  It will shock few who frequent these pages regularly.  But I hope it might serve as a warning to the uninitiated visitor, especially if you are a man contemplating marriage.

And I present it here with a message to you. This is one mans account of his story.  It is written in his words and I cannot vouch for its accuracy. But if anyone tells you this could not happen to you, seek advice elsewhere.

Preface

As you read this I may very well be incarcerated, as I am to be sentenced March 17, 2010 on felony non-payment of child support.  This post may very well be the only means I have of voicing my concerns for myself, and others who, through no fault of their own, have no financial resources to affect change prior to sentencing.  Perhaps this letter will bring about necessary change, before others have dealings with the unfairness and unfortunate nastiness of the public servants of Ingham County’s Friend of the Court (FOC.)  I can’t leave out some attorneys of the AG’s office, who seemingly feel it necessary to put notches in their belts to secure their employment, at the expense of many of us.  Simply put, I just don’t find where they are sincere about having the children’s best interest at heart.  How unfortunate!

As many of you know, fairness is meted out to those who have financial resources, or if they have family/friends in the system.

In my case, I do expect a small settlement whereas I can tend to my arrearage, but not for some time if I am incarcerated.  So it is not like I am a deadbeat father.   More on this explained in the following.

Background

I hit forty-eight years old last week.  As a troubled teen, I managed to accrue three non-violent felonies.  I faced the consequences and have not had any troubles with the law since.   In fact I’ve worked hard, continued my education and helped youths navigate in the sometimes awkward teen years in a positive way as a youth leader and Sunday school teacher.   In 2004 I took a position with the Department of Defense as a contractor, (DOD only requires a seven year background check) working in Iraq to logistically support our troops and to assist Iraqi’s in the rebuilding of their infrastructure.

In 2005 my wife filed for divorce while I was in South Tikrit, Iraq.  Shortly after being served papers in a war zone I found our joint account closed and she had taken our money.  I had little recourse being out of the Country and had to settle on an attorney via email who happily took my money each pay period but didn’t do one thing for me.

The Court ordered sole custody and over $1,300.00 per month in support/medical for my young daughter to be managed by my ex-wife.   Though not relevant, my ex made then and makes now a great living; certainly more than I did at the time.   The support and custody was decided before I could get my leave papers to return home.  When I did return to Michigan, I found my truck moved from the garage and left next to the road; covered in graffiti, tires slashed, and my ex had left my home unfortunately, unattended.

To my ex wife’s credit upon my return, she did allow me to visit my daughter on weekends for the six weeks I was home.  It was hard to leave my daughter and return to Iraq but I needed to return in order to make the amount of money to keep up with the high support payments.  I also needed to return because the State of Michigan does not expunge felony records regardless of the number of years that have passed (over 30 years in my case) making it impossible for me to obtain suitable employment.

Injured In Iraq


February 2007- I was severely injured in Iraq, examined in the M.A.S.H. unit and instructed to seek medical help immediately upon my return to the States to include an MRI as their field x-rays showed suspect but inconclusive damage to the c5-c6 areas of my spine.

My Return Stateside

February 2007 – Though I paid my mandatory insurance premiums every month AIG refused treatment.  I sought medical and used my meager savings for a basic diagnostic and again was referred for a MRI which I was unable to afford.

As a result, or along with, my medical issues I was unable to focus, sleep, eat, etc.  I lived in Mexico for 6 months before returning to the States where I roamed aimlessly, sleeping under overpasses and park benches.  I contacted a friend who had served in Iraq with me and he convinced me to join him and his family in Southern Oregon.

Eventually I arrived in Oregon at which point my friend sought immediate emotional help for me.  They were able to locate a clinic in Austin (Union Treatment Centers) who were just beginning a pro-bono PTSD program for returning contractors. I was diagnosed with Combat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Chronic/Severe, Agoraphobia Chronic/Severe.

Because I was a Chronic Pain patient as well they had a physical therapist perform medical tests and determined I had suffered a torn rotator cup as well as the neck injury at no charge to me.  The clinic submitted another request to AIG for an immediate MRI and it was denied.  Four months later the Union Treatment Centers’ funding ran out and patients were on their own.  I returned to Southern Oregon where I lived for nearly a year.

Part of my PTSD treatment was to face avoidance issues.  We set small goals and worked out steps I would need to take to achieve them.  Renewing my relationship with my daughter and possible child support arrears issues were at the top of my list.  We contacted the Michigan Bar for a list of pro-bono attorneys to no avail.  We searched the Internet for Lansing, MI area attorneys and called several only to find that their pro-bono funds were exhausted for that year.  We were referred to Thomas M. Cooley Law School’s Center of Ethics, Service, & Professionalism whose response was; “Dear Mr. Welch: Because our program is not available to contractors, I don’t think we can assist you in this matter.”

I’m wondering … why not contractors?  Next, I contacted Loomis Law firm of Lansing, MI, to inform them that I was aware of a balance I still owed for services rendered and would settle when my settlement comes in.  During that correspondence an attorney from the Loomis Law firm, Theresa Sheets, offered to take my case pro-bono.  Theresa Sheets and her assistant Beth Owen advised me to lay low and be patient.  When I asked if I could get on general assistance they responded that it would require a social security number (helping FOC to locate me) and advised against it reiterating for me to be patient.

They knew I was living in the mountains and eating what fish I could catch and yet I learned they never even filed a motion to adjust child support, didn’t respond to my many pleas for updates, etc.  After eight months of being patient I finally received an apologetic email at my friend’s residence in Oregon from Theresa Sheets stating that they were too busy to continue pro-bono and wished me luck.  I have emails to support this action which I deem unprofessional.

Frustrated, I contacted the F.O.C. for myself without counsel and was that ever a huge mistake.  I emailed Larry Harrison, an Enforcement Officer and introduced myself.  I briefly updated him on what was going on with me, offered documents and contact numbers to assist him in verifying my assertions and assured him that I wanted to resolve issues.  This is his response verbatim:  “Rick.  You need to contact me immediately.  I am in the process of seeking a felony warrant on you and have you extradited back to Michigan.”  (I thought I had done just that)

In response, I told him I thought he sounded hostile to someone trying to resolve issues.  I asked if he would set up a ‘Show Cause Hearing’ allowing me at least ten days lead time for travel, as I would be hitchhiking.  His next response was commending me for taking care of this matter, etc.  In retrospect, I should have been suspicious but I trusted him because of his position. (Never make that mistake…get counsel!)  A show cause hearing was set for January 16th.

About 1 month prior to leaving Oregon for the Show Cause. I felt ready to start working on communicating with my ex and with my daughter.  I was shocked to get a response from my ex like the one I did.  She wrote me and encouraged the idea of me slowly entering my daughter’s life again.  She also said that she would forgive most of the accumulated back arrears as she was certain I wasn’t making the kind of money I once was (She was unaware I had been injured). Things seemed to be moving in the right direction and I was ecstatic.

I hitched as far as South Dakota and nearly froze to death.  A couple saw me under an overpass, stopped and saw my condition.  They took me to the nearest Greyhound depot where I called my friends from Oregon who sent me money for a round trip ticket to Lansing and back to Oregon and extra for a room and food when I arrived in Lansing.

I phoned Mr. Harrison (FOC Enforcement officer) again when I arrived in Lansing and left a message letting him know I would be there on time, where I would be staying and left a message asking him to phone if he had any questions of me.  He must not have had any questions.

I arrived an hour early for my Show Cause hearing and checked in.  The security door to the offices opened and my ex-wife was called in.  Roughly twenty minutes later, two Lansing police officers arrived and went behind the security door and then returned to the lobby and flanked me.  I knew I was going to be arrested but had no idea why.  I assumed the position and cooperated fully.  I was lead towards the exit when the Director – Shauna Dunnings asked the officers to bring me to her.  She introduced herself and said “I know that you and your ex had an agreement worked out but the Attorney General’s office handed down a felony arrest warrant and it is out of our hands.”

In the Lansing Police Station, I was booked and put into a cell.  Hours later I was arraigned by Judge Garcia who denied me a Personal Recognizance bond because I didn’t live in Michigan.  This is where I began to learn that the AG’s office wasn’t only trying to get me for a felony, but because of my 30 year old felonies they attached a 4th habitual offender charge as well.  Now being tagged with a habitual offender charge I could spend up to 15 years in prison.  (I have never committed a violent crime in my life nor would I ever.)

I was given a public defender and spent 48 days in one of the most violent cell blocks because of the habitual charge.  I informed the jailers at booking of the U.S. Department of Labor’s findings of my disability, chronic pain and severe PTSD.  They never put me into a medical cell block.  I spent a total of 52 days on the top bunk of a steel rack and could barely walk, let alone be shackled and walking.  Finally I appeared before the Circuit Court Judge who had yet to hear from me at all.  The AG offered to suspend sentencing for 11 months seemingly allowing me time to get my back compensation for my injuries.

The Judge released me from custody except I had a hold for Jackson, MI on a non-active support with outstanding arrears due to my injuries.  The difference here was that it was a ‘show cause’ hearing so I was able to speak directly to the Judge.  After hearing my plight he asked the bailiff to search the Internet for my claims attorney, called a recess and called my claims attorney from his chambers.  Thirty minutes later he returned to the court room and said; ‘Mr. Welch I have just hung up from an enlightening conversation with your claims attorney who validated what you have articulated to me and expounded on legal matters of particular interest to me.’  He then addressed the Jackson County F.O.C. representatives saying; ‘I do not find Mr. Welch in contempt of court. Release him from custody.’

After being released from Jackson County I made my way back to Lansing in the middle of a severe cold snap.  I went to the Ingham County F.O.C. to request my support be modified.  I had no idea who my caseworker is, and still don’t, though I have tried repeatedly to speak with said person.  The clerk informed me that my caseworker was not in, so I requested Larry Harrison as he is the only person I knew who was familiar with my case.  After some time, Larry Harrison and another enforcement officer stormed into the waiting room where I was.  He walked toward me in a confrontational manner and asked; “What are you looking for?” as if I were challenging him by merely being there.

I told him I hoped to have my support amount modified and he told me I was using the wrong verbiage.  He gave me the general question form which I filled out.  I turned the form in to the clerk and started to leave.

Unbeknownst to me and evidently to Larry Harrison, there was another person in the waiting room and that person was a channel 3 news reporter named Jon Erickson.  Mr. Erickson asked if he could interview me for a news segment.  Even though I wanted to blab to the world everything that had transpired, I was very much afraid it might affect my endeavors to adjust my child support.  Who knows what the ramifications of whistle blowing on the entire F.O.C. might be.  I wasn’t the only one worried as evident by Larry Harrison and the Director Shauna Dunnings’s sudden appearance.  They shadowed the interview and just before the camera was turned on Larry Harrison interrupted Mr. Erickson and I to offer assistance in finding a different caseworker for me to speak with.  I declined.  I resolved to offer a careful interview and to offer pertinent advice to others who may end up unable to meet their child support obligations. Archived transcripts of the interview can be accessed via the link below.

http://www.wlaj.com/news/child-14628-support-less.html

I strongly suspect that the Ingham County F.O.C.’s enforcement officer Larry Harrison was irritated by my pointing out his callousness, and went out of his way to push for the AG to hand down a felony arrest warrant prior to my show cause date so that I would not be able to speak directly to the Judge as he undoubtedly knew the results would be similar to the outcome of my Jackson show cause hearing.   I believe he intended to manipulate the system simply to make me pay for having taken exception with his unprofessionalism.

I returned to Oregon and agreed to take my friends up on their invitation to stay with them until my settlement or sentencing.

Ten months later we finally received a date for a formal hearing in federal court regarding my claims (in June 2010).  I forwarded this great and long awaited news to my public defender who took the news to the AG’s office.  The person in charge of my case from the AG’s office (Mitch something) said that he would agree to postpone sentencing until after my claims court date.  I still needed to come across country for my February 2010 sentencing date and Mitch would ask the Judge to postpone my sentencing.  When I showed up, once again I was misled, and the AG’s office moved to have the court sentence me immediately instead of requesting a postponement.  Furious, I asked my attorney to try to pull my plea, but the Judge denied the motion.

My hope is that I will be able to put this behind me and move on with my life though it will be with another felony on my record.  I am hoping to be an important part of my daughter’s life, and to receive medical, emotional and financial compensation after over three years of waiting.

Paul Elam is the Editor-in-Chief for Men’s News Daily and the publisher of A Voice for Men.

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  • http://www.hechtassociates.com dc divorce lawyer

    Marriage is something that can’t be taken lightly. Always make sure that your spouse is really worth spending the rest of your life with, if not it will result in an ugly divorce. Thanks for posting this article up.

  • James

    There is seems to be some sort of bipolar disorder when it comes to debates that involve government control in peoples lives.

    On one hand the debate over health care and increased government involvement reaches almost hysterical levels.

    Yet when men are unjustly treated the silence (except for this website) is deafening.

    So on one hand Americans accept greater government involvement and then resent in on the other.

  • irlandes

    Most men are well aware of these horror stories. I Know because I supplied counseling for divorced men, and I asked them. They were well aware what was happening to other men, but all assumed they were special and different from all other men who all deserved it, so it would never happen to them.

    Even vicious, woman-abusing brutes like Packwood; Kennedy; and Clinton imagine they are not as bad as most men, they are just being singled out for political reasons, so they happily pass laws to screw over the real brutes, you and I.

  • Robert Stevens

    Yes 3D shooter that is some of what I have been researching. Secrets of the Legal Industry is very general. If you plan to do something specific, like get a court to vacate a void order for child support or child custody, you will need to become familiar with the civil procedures of your state and the court rules in the court you will be filing in. If you don’t know how to do this , that my friend is where the ” career criminals” come in. These people know the law and unlike anyone connected with the corrupt legal system, these people have no allegiance or loyalty to that corrupt system. In fact, most ” career criminals” and or legal researchers outside the system, get their kicks beating these crooked bastards.
    There are people selling information about how to win in these ” rigged family courts” , but I don’t know they actualy know something or just want to sell a book. It is better to do your own research and even if you don’t have the skill level to atempt it your self, put out “feeler” ie put out the word you are doing research on family law and others, who have the same problem, will usually help you. This is good if you have little knowledge of the law and very limited time and financial resources.
    Well good luck 3D Shooter .
    PS. Watch the three video by Richard Cornforth.
    You can find them by Googling : Richard Cornforth Google videos. The only draw back, is that, if you don’t already have atleast some basic knowledge of void judgments and some knowledge of court sites, you may not understand it very well.

  • 3DShooter

    @Robert Stevens

    Is this the material you reference:

    http://sedm.org/ItemInfo/Ebooks/SecretsOfTheLegalIndustry-060420tocs.pdf

    I’ve only given it a cursory glance, but appears worth looking into further.

  • Robert Stevens

    I constantly go around promoting one idea, men need to learn the law. When they do, they will, to their pleasant surprize find out. They do have rights and it is possible to control the “thugs, criminals and terrorist” who run the family court system. It is possible to get a “fair shake”, oh the bastards who run the system will fight you tooth and nail, but rest assured the law is actually on you side, if you use it like it was meant to be used.
    I beleive if, enough men, do this, that it is possible to get rid of the “government sponsored kidnapping and extortion racket” and replace it with a fair and just system.
    It will be a job, we start with individual cases and build on it. One, by one we cut off the money, power and control, until we do one of two things, bring these “terrorist” under control or get rid of them! Either way, we accomplish our end.
    You can start by learning about something called the” law of voids” and look up and old boy from Oklahoma, named Richard Cornforth.
    There are others outhere doing similiar research.
    In simplist terms, most judgments and that is what child custody and child support are , are in fact void and you can get rid of them.
    You still have to take care of your children, they are, after all your! But, you have the right, as per the Supreme Court of the United States, have the right to make private arrangements and avoid dealing with the “parasite” of the family court/child support system.
    Lastly, if these bastards violate your rights and yes you have rights, there are provisions in the Civil Rights Act to get the Federal authorities to make these “out of control” state actors behave themselves. The Feds don’t give a rats ass about the “soveriegn immunity” these assholes claim they have, they run right up there and put the arrogant bastards in a federal prison. You can also sue for damages and damage awards for violations of your civil rights can be quite high, high enough to deter the bastards from harrasing you again.
    Start by forming your own “legal study group”. Find some “career criminals” ie people who have done some serious time and get them to help you, they have had, pardon the pun, time to learn about the law and how to apply federal remedy if the state does not behave itself.
    This won’t be easy, but if you want you life back, you gotta do it.

  • Mr. J

    trashed- I’m sorry to say you’ve got the flag situation backwards…Its not what the flag stands for that is the problem, its those that don’t care about it..You’ve got it reversed if you know what I’m saying….In other words, most of these courthouses should have the flag removed because they don’t have anything to do with it.

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  • Rodney

    @3DShooter

    I’d start by revamping (pun intended) sexual education in our public school system. Repeating it enough to make it stick… something similar to this mans story will likely happen to more then half the boys in our schools today (pulling the numbers from where the sun doesn’t shine).

    and bah, nation of traitors, loyal only to themselves. LOL

    “Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form…”

    When all else fails, cheat (ought to be part of every tool-kit anyways). It doesn’t fail yourself or those babies you help bring into the world.

  • trashed

    As a former foster child…this treatment is standard fare by YOUR government ( “THE” government, to me )….but such things unfolded upon me at 8…not 48…pledge alleigence to the flag…only if I could shower off the shame and filth of having done so.

  • 3DShooter

    @Ken

    “How can MRA’s PREVENT men from entering these unions in the first place or at least be made aware of the potential consequences?”

    It occurred to me today listening to one of the many anti-male PSA’s on the radio that what men need is a broadcast PSA of their own and a way to get it in front of a broad audience. Anyone have any experience along these lines?

    Of course if the state were to inform men, prior to signing a marriage license, that they are third party participants in the ‘union’ and the potential of that third party involvement . . .

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  • Mr. J

    Decades ago, it was stated as one of the communist goals to destroy the American family, this was the major factor in making the US into a communist country…Its clear that they’ve never wavered on that goal…They get two birds with one stone when they can also do damage to military personnel in the process….Men, forget about sports scores and car races THIS is serious!

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  • Rodney

    Men are going to be victims until they’ve got a viable tax funded lobby acting on their behalf.

    With lobby becoming the way to do things, our system of government no longer works. For now, we’ve got to either pay HUGE into this mafia styled protection racket or let negative consequences out weight sustainability (poetic justice).

    Might seem a little cold I guess, but could be worse, certainly deserving of far worse.

  • Ken

    These stories are not told in a broad public spectrum because too many young men would have fair warning about the legal risks of marriage and fatherhood.

    Why do so many men have to find out after it’s too late? So many stories of men driven into hell. How can MRA’s PREVENT men from entering these unions in the first place or at least be made aware of the potential consequences? What will the tipping point be where men say “ENOUGH”? It won’t come through the mass media or academia or government.

  • 3DShooter

    This man’s experience and many others demonstrate that the so called ‘family’ courts are corrupt beyond redemption and that state mandated/enforced child $upport must be ABOLISHED.

  • bizzman662

    This is just SICK what they do to men.

    This story is just 1 in a million.

    The destruction of society comes from the destruction of men and boys.

    Destroy the family unit, make $$ more important than the love of a father and this is what we get.

    Best interest of the child my ass…..more like the best interest of the state.

  • http://www.standyourground.com Poiuyt

    A wake up call to all men:

    Unjust systems eventually swallow its own servants … whole and without mercy !







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