Man Receives Oral Sex, Ordered to Pay Child Support

2011-02-27
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So, a man sued his ex-girlfriend for fraud and emotional distress after she secured a court order demanding he pay child support for their two year-old daughter. The reason? This woman saved his semen after performing oral sex and secretly impregnated herself. No, this is not a new plotline of absurd television show One Tree Hill but actual events that formed the basis of a 2005 legal battle in Illinois.

Although this case is six years old and garnered some media attention at the time, we recently came across it on Professor Jonathan Turley’s blog and couldn’t resist an opportunity to discuss it.

But before we get to the legal issues presented in this case, namely how a man can be ordered to support a child when his sperm was used without his knowledge, the soap opera-esque facts surrounding this situation deserve to be explained in greater detail.  Trust us.

It all began when Dr. Sharon Irons (an internist) and Dr. Richard Phillips (a family practitioner) began dating in January 1999. Dr. Irons led Dr. Phillips to believe she was divorced and within a few months, they became engaged. According to Dr. Phillips, the two discussed the possibility of having children and he made clear his intentions: that he did not want children until after they were married and any pre-marital sex would require the use of condoms. Throughout the course of their relationship, they engaged in only three instances of oral sex: they never went “all the way.”

On one of these intimate occasions, Dr. Irons did something rather remarkable: After fellating Dr. Phillips, she held his semen in her mouth (where it was suitable to sustain viability) and then inseminated herself with it. She did not inform Dr. Phillips of her actions.

Dr. Irons also never informed her boyfriend that she was, in fact, still married. Five months into their relationship, she confessed to Dr. Phillips that she was not divorced and he decided to end their relationship.

Fast-forward to November 2000, when, surprise! Dr. Irons slapped her surely stunned ex-boyfriend with court papers to establish paternity and child support for “their” daughter.

To quote Justice Scalia in 1989’s Michael H. majority opinion (a paternity case also dealing with convoluted family relations, although not as entertaining as here), “The facts of the case are, we must hope, extraordinary.”

Extraordinary they are, indeed. And while Dr. Irons’ act of stashing semen away definitely made for attention-grabbing headlines, the media focused more on the sexy- slash-crazy angle and less on the actual law. We decided to explore the legal claims advanced by the parties and the reasoning behind Dr. Phillips seemingly unjust obligation to support a child whose existence was beyond the realm of expectation.

In his suit, Dr. Phillips alleged the unauthorized use of his semen constituted actionable claims of fraudulent misconception, conversion and intentional infliction of emotional distress. A lower court dismissed these grievances, and he appealed.

The Appellate Court of Illinois found that a fraudulent misconception claim was only available for “economic” wrongs, and so dismissed this claim. (Dr. Phillips was suing for physical and emotional harms he alleged that he’d suffered as a result of Dr. Irons’ actions).

The court next turned its attention to the conversion claim. Conversion is “an unauthorized act that deprives a person of his property permanently or for an indefinite period of time.” The arguments on both sides of the conversion claim are worth noting.

Dr. Phillips argued that his ex-fiancé took his property, his sperm, without his permission to conceive a child. Dr. Irons countered by asserting the sperm was a gift: Dr. Phillips delivered it to her with the intention that she keep it because if he really wanted to retain his semen, he would have put on a condom and “kept its contents”.

The court agreed with Dr. Irons: Dr. Phillips cannot claim he was deprived of his property because he did not intend that the semen be returned.

Finally, the court considered Dr. Phillips’ claim of intentional infliction of emotional distress (IIED). To bring an IIED claim, the plaintiff must prove that 1) the conduct was “truly extreme and outrageous”; 2) the defendant had to intend, or be aware that, her conduct would cause severe emotional distress; and 3) the conduct did actually cause severe emotional distress.

The court stated that Dr. Irons’ conduct in deceitfully engaging in oral sex to procure the sperm necessary to impregnate herself would, according to any reasonable person, be considered “extreme and outrageous” conduct (Ed. Note: well, duh).  Considering the nature of Dr. Irons’ actions and Dr. Phillips’ clear expression of not wanting a child out of wedlock, the second element of IIED was met. For the actual distress, Dr. Phillips claimed a whole slew of anguish including nausea, loss of appetite, interference with his profession, insomnia and more, which was enough to keep the case alive.

The final decision or current status of the case is unavailable which means that the case is still being litigated or the parties settled.

Regardless, what confused us most about the case was that the child support obligation on behalf of Dr. Phillips was not contested. How could a father be forced to pay child support if the conception of the child was beyond (way, way beyond) a reasonable person’s expectation?  The court itself stated that the mother’s actions were “extreme and outrageous”, after all.

The answer? Public policy. In a note for the Drake University Law Review, A Man’s Right to Choose: Searching for Remedies in the Face of Unplanned Fatherhood, author Adrienne D. Gross explained the general policy in law of looking out for a child’s best interest in both child support and paternity statutes. Undisputedly, a child’s best interest is to have the financial support of both biological parents, regardless of their marital status, and according to Ms. Gross, “the child should not suffer from a parent’s indiscretion concerning the events leading to conception.”

Basically, if you father a child and the paternity is established, you are on the hook for child support payments. (A father can sue for IIED, if the mother’s actions in the conception meet the requisite level of crazy, but there is no guarantee he will win.)

A 1983 paternity case sheds some light on how New York courts balance the best interest of the child with a father’s dealing with an unwanted pregnancy and child support obligations in unorthodox situations. The father, established by paternity tests, had been assured that the mother was on birth control.  He alleged fraudulent misrepresentation and argued that he should not be responsible for child support. The court disagreed, and held that fraud and deceit have no bearing on determining child support obligations.

The court explained that the “primary purpose” of New York’s paternity statutes “is to ensure that adequate provision will be made for the child’s needs” and does not allow for the “consideration of the ‘fault’ or wrongful conduct of one of the parents in causing the child’s conception.” If the father really did not want to have a child, despite the woman’s assurance that she was on birth control, he should have used a condom during sex.

Decisions like this seem to signal, rather unfairly, we think, that a man can be held legally and financially responsible for any unilateral actions his partner takes to conceive a child, no matter how absurd or unforeseeable those actions are.

And Dr. Phillips seems to have been treated particularly unfairly. He didn’t even have intercourse which is the one and only act that, outside of fertility clinics, can foster a reasonable expectation of conceiving a child.  In fact, without intercourse (and outside of fertility clinics) creating a life is, simply, impossible.  There was no way, short of checking what his partner did with his semen after oral sex (do you know anyone who does that?) that he could have known that he could possibly father a child.

But the courts don’t care about how the egg was actually fertilized: because at the end of the day, there’s a child now involved.  And the concern, from a legal perspective, is whether or not the child will be adequately cared for, regardless of its conception.

Lesson to be learned: If you don’t want any babies, use protection – and make sure your partner isn’t hiding a test tube under the pillow.

 

Originally published on Legal As She Is Spoke

Sarah Berent is a contributor to Legal As She Is Spoke, an online project of the Program in Law and Journalism at New York Law School.

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  • James Hamlet

    u could say the same thing if a women is raped the child would be conceived without the women permission that means if a women is raped and get pregnant she has to keep the baby you can’t pretend the child doesn’t exist

  • Hovik

    I agree that this woman’s actions are unconscionable, but let’s not play the slut-shaming game, eh? That’s just immature.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jankowiak.richard Jankowiak Richard

    U R MORON. If woman goes to fertility clinic to get anonimously impregnated- you want to give her rights to sue any anonimous donor??? It is her choice. Without father knowledge. Like – you give a girl rape date drug, and sleep with her- she does know what is going on around

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=790999429 Liberty Duryea

    How can a person sue for child support after engaging in oral sex? This lawsuit is ridiculous. What’s next? Suing Sperm donors? And what the hell is up with the weird symbols in this report?
    ” Makes no sense to anybody.

  • wayne siegertsz

    ahahah Chr_sexton
    surely this is some kind of wind up ??
    no one can be this much of a DUMB CUNT??.
    Chris if your serious ,i suggest giving your a head a big fucking wobble ,and engage your fucking brain before your mouth

  • http://twitter.com/emscorer Emily Scorer

    i think this is a massive generalisation. yes women like this do exist i am a woman and i take full responsibility in stopping myself from getting pregant and equally if i did get pregnant i would discuss it with my partner/father of child before i made any decisions

  • http://twitter.com/michael_golson Michael Golson

    Yes my man. Most sense I’ve ever read on the internet.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000025282812 Dee Jaye

    Agreed

    Remember the song “American Woman, Stay away from me” <-true true

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000025282812 Dee Jaye

    I agree completely.  The mother needs a beating and her ovaries removed.

  • violett

    kimberly strong ..u are a hypocrite ..u say the child is innocent and should not be punished yet u think the child should be removed and put into foster care. I cant think of anything that would be more devastating to a child than that. Pull your head out of your butt . What happened here is wrong but there is no crime and regardless of how this child was brought into this world it needs to be taken care of. This man is the father and even though its not fair to him he is legally responsible $$$$. The mother is a piece  of work but life is not always fair.

  • againstmisandry

     This is what women sound like,  “If you dont want kids dont have sex, wear a condom its not in childs best interes so you should PAY up regardless etc etc”….  Ill reverse this by saying to a woman seeking to abort or give up her kid for adoption  that if she would have coverd her ass she wouldnt be pregnant.. So,  dont give her the choice to abort or give up her born kid for adoption being that its not in the childs best interest? So, lets force mom to work 2 jobs or be forced to pay for her ‘choice’ pre sex, and if not go to jail??   her undesired responsibility to be a parent matters not ‘because she caused it’ to happen… If she REALLY didnt want kids then she shouldnt have had sex… do you see how that sounds when you say it in reverse??? you dont? then you are a hypocrite and misandric..

    before you mention that “men cant get pregnant” (which isnt relevant as the childs best interest is what matter not ‘how its conceived’)  — which you may choose to bring up like most feminist in order to dismiss what was written above  completely and not have to address any of it–     remember that some women cant get pregnant  either and when they adopt a kid they have many  programs to help them as single moms yet almost non for single dads so she STILL has more choices EVEN when she cant give birth like a man… Not  to mention welfare by far caters to women also regardless of them giving birth AKA they have help when they make bad choices men do not. Stop your backward rationality.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/ONEQIDX5UN3J3XMUPE6UZI4PSI ceseme

    Now if he had totally saved any type of sexual intimacy until he was actually married, he might have been upset when she finally told him she wasn’t divorced, but at least he would not have suffered all of this.  This was an unforeseen consequence of bad behavior, but a consequence, nevertheless.  God gave us the law of chastity, (which is to only have sexual relations with one to whom you are legally wed)  to protect us from all types of consequences.  Trouble with people today is they want all of the bennies with no responsibilities or consequences.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KO2DTSUS5ARDVMCVWSQ2RFUWKU A S

     are your fucking retarded?  So if a woman has sex with a man ONCE, should she have to always do so forever into the future?  One time, so forever have some claim over that person?  Go jump in a lake.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KO2DTSUS5ARDVMCVWSQ2RFUWKU A S

    Ok, but we aren’t talking about some ‘mystical’ story of a man that might happen to exist that poked a hole in a condom at some point.  Either way, the person doing the deceitful action should not be rewarded.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KO2DTSUS5ARDVMCVWSQ2RFUWKU A S

     yeah, like ‘don’t wear those clothes or you might get sexually assaulted’.  So I guess that it would be your fault for someone else’s bad act. hypocrite!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_KO2DTSUS5ARDVMCVWSQ2RFUWKU A S

     you’re horrible!

  • Anonymous

    I agree that this sort of thing is a disgrace to society. How can anybody do this to somebody else? If you want a baby so badly, you should go to a sperm bank or adopt. It’s the reasonable thing to do. How can women who trick men into getting them pregnant sleep at night? Do they ever stop to think of the burden and hardship they are placing on men? My boyfriend got duped into fathering a child. The woman was 30 and jealous that her sister had a baby and she didn’t. She said she was on the pill. Of course my boyfriend was an idiot for trusting her, but it’s sad to think somebody would lie about such a thing. They had a two night stand. She told him she was pregnant. When he begged for  an abortion, she said no. He offered to get married since it wasn’t right to bring a child into this world under stuch circumstances, and she said no. She said she didn’t care what he thought or what he wanted, but this is what she wanted and she would have the baby and he would pay. She never compromised with him and just asked for more and more money. She claims she needs day care when she barters child care with family and friends and lives at home with her parents. My boyfriend felt so demoralized that he didn’t think he would be able to be a positive part of his daughter’s life knowing he hated her mother so much. He now has to pay a ton of money every month to a terrible woman. Something needs to be done to stop woman from doing this. I believe that legal documents should be signed prior to the birth of the child that says that you are a willing participant in this birth or after paternity is determined. If not, you shouldn’t have to pay support or at least it should be a set amount of support. My boyfriend makes a good lviing and has to pay way more money than any single child should need. YOu know this woman is collecting money and probably not spending all of it on the child. The amount of money given should be equal to the amount states deem appropriate for foster care and not a penny more. This might stop women from looking for a free paycheck. It’s is just so sad that things have come to this. I think we should try to get custody of the child because who wants a mother with such poor morals raising a little human being, but the reality is that court’s will almost always side wth the mother. Then the mother can be a pain about visitation. As far as I know, there is little enforcement. The system is very unjust and needs to be changed. What can we do?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jamie-Keating/100003401353661 Jamie Keating

    i never new that sperm could live long eought in someone mouth  to get someone pregeant.

  • max holden

    She is WAY more of a slut than he is. Did you forget she lied about being divorced?  She is a terrible person who conned a man. Oral sex is protection against pregnancy. She  lied to and manipulated him to get child support she should not win her own games.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/E-Cig-Guy/100000376956199 E-Cig Guy

     Amen Louie!!!

    I”m pro choice, the choice to decide before the deed, not after.

  • bdkalltheway1956

    Sperm only live a few minutes outside the body unless flash frozen in liquid nitrogen, and for her to get pregnant with it a physician would have to inseminate her using special instruments. I don’t believe this story no matter how many references it’s taken from. This sounds like a new twist on an urban legend story I read about one time.

  • Anonymous

    It may seem wrong but the willingness to give up semen in a woman’s mouth is a gift.  You gave up a part of yourself willingly.  A woman’s mouth being used as a form of birth control is sick.  I’ve suck dick before however never was willing to do this route.  He should have used a condom.  I would preform the same method if sperm was so easily given up in that way.  Men have to think for them selves.  WHY is her mouth used in the first place?  He should have pull out like most men, condom, surgery if he never wanted kids.  But really shouldn’t he had used protection?  We can all agree and disagree on the matter of her pregnancy method but none the less a majority of women want to get pregnant one day.  Clock is ticking and having patience is hard.  Her method may have been extreme but he gave it up willingly point blank.  If Suck You Penis, Can you offer me the white coconut filling as a gift!!!!  Sucking for free, PRICELESS….There are somethings money can’t buy, for everything else there is SPERM….

    But on a serious note, I would do the same thing however the child support part would have been not necessary.  I would have wanted a baby that bad and would take care the child alone.  May not even tell the father about the child, if very desperate.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Phillip-Galey/100000196824224 Phillip Galey

    Like Clinton’s:  ”One thing I want to make clear to the American people, I did not have sex with that woman.”—if fellatio isn’t an act of sex, I wouldn’t know how it might be correctly categorized, but, it is having sex, and he did have sex with Monica L.—y’all are in rationalizations which appear as rather small, mere, cheap, powerless and false:  for, regardless of what a mere stated intent might have been, or of what he wanted, or of what he thought that, she thought, the supervening fact remains, he gave it to her—ga-a-a-ve, . . . he gave it to her.

    Can deceit play a part in what romance is all about, as say, “All’s fair in love and war.”?  Well sure, . . . you might re-read the story of Judah and Tamar, ending where he admits to her that, for her deceit:  ”You have been more righteous than I.”, . . . and read that also, in Malachi where says:  ”For this cause He brought them together male and female, that, they might have children.”—he’s a doctor, . . . and in the presumption against him, well knew he, what messing around with a woman was all about, . . . and for all of this?  The simplest common sense?  He takes it t’court?  The good doctor strikes me as a educated kind of fool, . . .

  • Craig Martin

    So if a man is given a drink laced with thorazine and passes out and a woman or 10, or 20 of them decide to slam a needle into his balls and extract semen and use THAT then he is on the hook for child support also.  According to this it doesn’t matter how the semen gets into the woman she is entitled to a payday once it’s there thus creating a financial incentive to do just what I described above (outrageous as it sounds).  How about we treat women the same way on this for a little while.  From now on any woman who is raped shall be forced to conceive the child and give it to the rapist then pay him child support under threat of prison.  It’s for the children after all.  No adoption either because he has a “right to choose”.  Would that sit well?  

  • Craig Martin

    So if a man is given a drink laced with thorazine and passes out and a woman or 10, or 20 of them decide to slam a needle into his balls and extract semen and use THAT then he is on the hook for child support also.  According to this it doesn’t matter how the semen gets into the woman she is entitled to a payday once it’s there thus creating a financial incentive to do just what I described above (outrageous as it sounds).  How about we treat women the same way on this for a little while.  From now on any woman who is raped shall be forced to conceive the child and give it to the rapist then pay him child support under threat of prison.  It’s for the children after all.  No adoption either because he has a “right to choose”.  Would that sit well?  

  • http://twitter.com/ShahMHussain Shah M. Hussain

    absurd n biased LAws!!!

    why blame it on the Innocent Man?? why does only he has to keep it in his pants??
    Can she not keep her leges closed?? have all our women so pathetic?? 
    SAD feminism is not just scr3wing up America but the whole world!!
    Learn to keep you legs closed Sl*twalkers ! blaming any and everything on innocent men all the time will not win u any respect or equality, you rather need to earn it the right way like any other men !
    PERIOD!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kodei-Howyadoin-Sears/573698091 Kodei Howyadoin Sears

    I have to disagree, mainly due to the fact that we had severely seperate childhoods. At 4, my mother walked out on my dad (after cheating on him several times), then proceeded to request child custody (and won) as well as child support (also won). The courts gave her custody because they believe children “need their mother”, neglecting the fact that adultery was at hand. She is still with the man that she cheated on my father with, and my dad is lucky if he gets to see his children for 3 weeks out of the year, no matter how much we beg to see him. I still hear comments “if a man cheats on a woman, he’s a pig. but if a woman cheats on a man he drove her to it”. Everytime i hear it i want to burn down a courthouse, but yet again, fighting corruption seems to be illegal, for anyone with a penis anyways.
    Pertaining to the case at hand, this woman unlawfully used this mans property without his consent, and the man gets to pay for her misdeed. This is like if someone stole a knife from my kitchen and severely injured someone, leaving me to deal with the lawsuit. I dont care if the childs needs need to be met more than the womans wrongs, adoption is always an option. I regret being forced to live with a b**** my entire life, custody reasonably should have gone to my father, but female rights supercede mens these days, in all aspects of law. It appears the courts feel the need to “make up” for wrongs against equality done by our fore fathers, but in another couple hundred years will they decide “ok, we’re even now” or will women, as men before us with their pride, not want to take their pussies off the pedistol.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_RJZZQQHP5INFRVP3AENFRQ4YFI Louie

    I disagree. Women can tell men all day long “you play you pay for 18 years”. But if a man wants the child a woman is aborting, why do we not have a right to say, “you play you pay for 9 months”.

  • turdflusher

    The law is a ass and bitches suck. use whores. cheaper.

  • Boohoo71

    This is the most heinous act a woman has ever done. She showed she was deceptive by saying she was divorced when she wasn’t. I have never felt so ashamed to even be slightly associated with the female gender as I am at this moment. If this sociopath wanted a kid that bad than she should of kept it to herself for eternity. This is how woman get a free ride. People can argue the money is for the child but often  women like her are going to get facelifts and trips to the Caribbean.
     The kid will feel abandoned by the father and then probably will end up with so many emotional problems she will need years of therapy. I wonder if the child support is going toward a therapy fund because that is what this kid is going to need when she finds out what a crazy wench her mother is. Not to mention the story she will have of her conception. “Oh I was conceived with a turkey baster after my mother gave my father head and used me as a mouthwash.” Just asinine!   

  • http://twitter.com/Brookekinghair Brooke King

    This is the most heinous act a woman has ever done. She showed she was deceptive by saying she was divorced when she wasn’t. I have never felt so ashamed to even be slightly associated with the female gender as I am at this moment. If this sociopath wanted a kid that bad than she should of kept it to herself for eternity. This is how woman get a free ride. People can argue the money is for the child but often  women like her are going to get facelifts and trips to the Caribbean.
     The kid will feel abandoned by the father and then probably will end up with so many emotional problems she will need years of therapy. I wonder if the child support is going toward a therapy fund because that is what this kid is going to need when she finds out what a crazy wench her mother is. Not to mention the story she will have of her conception. “Oh I was conceived with a turkey baster after my mother gave my father head and used me as a mouthwash.” Just asinine!   

  • http://twitter.com/Brookekinghair Brooke King

    This is the most heinous act a woman has ever done. She showed she was deceptive by saying she was divorced when she wasn’t. I have never felt so ashamed to even be slightly associated with the female gender as I am at this moment. If this sociopath wanted a kid that bad than she should of kept it to herself for eternity. This is how woman get a free ride. People can argue the money is for the child but often  women like her are going to get facelifts and trips to the Caribbean.
     The kid will feel abandoned by the father and then probably will end up with so many emotional problems she will need years of therapy. I wonder if the child support is going toward a therapy fund because that is what this kid is going to need when she finds out what a crazy wench her mother is. Not to mention the story she will have of her conception. “Oh I was conceived with a turkey baster after my mother gave my father head and used me as a mouthwash.” Just asinine!   

  • http://twitter.com/Brookekinghair Brooke King

    This is the most heinous act a woman has ever done. She showed she was deceptive by saying she was divorced when she wasn’t. I have never felt so ashamed to even be slightly associated with the female gender as I am at this moment. If this sociopath wanted a kid that bad than she should of kept it to herself for eternity. This is how woman get a free ride. People can argue the money is for the child but often  women like her are going to get facelifts and trips to the Caribbean.
     The kid will feel abandoned by the father and then probably will end up with so many emotional problems she will need years of therapy. I wonder if the child support is going toward a therapy fund because that is what this kid is going to need when she finds out what a crazy wench her mother is. Not to mention the story she will have of her conception. “Oh I was conceived with a turkey baster after my mother gave my father head and used me as a mouthwash.” Just asinine!   

  • Missrakeis

    Even if he would have worn a condom her crazy a** probably would have gone through the trash and tried the same thing. The lesson here is don’t deal with people sexually unless you are sure you want a child with them.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Hal-McCombs/100001473923464 Hal McCombs

    Men don’t cheat – women cheat.  At least that’s been the case in MY life.
    ALL of the cheating has been by women, so I’ll use your logic and state categorically that
    only women cheat (and it doesn’t matter if they were “pleasured” or not.)

  • Dulcechica2891

    My friend told me that he read a story about how a woman and man had sex together. The man was wearing a condom. The man came inside of the condom. The man pulls out, and puts the condom in the garbage can. The woman secretly gets out the condom, takes the semen and puts in inside of her body and becomes pregnant. This shows us that a man should always put the money shot in a toilet and flush it. Always destroy the evidence.

  • Anonymous

    Bottom line, you all are assuming that this MAN is not lying. Her court
    documents report that they had regular, good old fashioned vaginal sex and
    he is lying about the oral sex and not knowing that his semen was deposited
    near her fertile eggs. Of course news reports glorify HIS position that she
    did it orally and behind his back. Bottom line though, not one of us was
    there in the bed with them! We will never know how it happened. All we DO
    know is that DNA proved that he was the father and so he is paying child
    support, as per the laws established in this nation… BY MEN. :D


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