Feminism: Fighting for women's right to be dependent
upon men
August 5, 2003
by
Rachel Alexander
Feminism claims to empower women to become the equals of men. Yet the painful
truth is that feminism has gradually metamorphosed into a movement that trains
women to gain government imposed advantages over men, while at the same time remaining
dependent upon men’s money and the government, all under the false rhetoric
of “rights” and “empowerment.”
Women have made great strides over the last century in areas where they were
not historically equal to men; they gained the right to vote, they removed the
barriers to traditionally male professions, and they changed the way society
looked at them. Women are no longer viewed as primarily “nurturing”
or “emotional” creatures, but are judged on their individual qualities.
Consequently, this has left the feminist movement with very little left to do
for women, other than helping women in less fortunate countries. To remain relevant
in the U.S. and other democratic countries, feminists have championed odd issues,
issues that are not about women’s equality, but are about getting one-up
on men.
Abortion is the most obvious example. Feminists like abortion because it allows
women to control a decision that involves both a man and a woman, and this power
can be used to really hurt a man by aborting his child. Yet aborting children
does not help women become equal to men. To the contrary, it devalues women’s
ability to bring life into the world, gives them a guilty conscience, and allows
men to have sex with women and leave them, which is a practice that society
should be trying to stop, not encourage. Never mind that girls are aborted more
often than boys. Abortion is the number one “right” that feminists
support, and feminist groups like the National Organization of Women consider
abortion the number one issue facing women. What is interesting about this is
that women in general do not agree with the feminists on this issue. A recent
ABC News/Washington Post poll found that a majority of both men and women equally
oppose abortion except in very limited circumstances. Around 57% of both men
and women oppose abortion except in cases where the mother or fetus might be
harmed, or there was rape or incest involved. Clearly, this is not an issue
women’s groups should be championing, considering most women are not in
favor of mass legal abortion, and it is no more of an issue for them than it
is for men.
When it comes to issues involving the family, feminists promote an agenda that
keeps women dependent on men and the government. They are adamant that fathers
should pay large amounts of child support when a mother and father split up,
and they teach ex-wives that they are entitled to alimony from their ex-husbands,
even if the ex-wife was the one responsible for the marriage breaking up. Instead
of encouraging women to support themselves, or to obtain better careers like
the men so they could perhaps become as successful and educated as the men,
feminists train women to become dependent on their ex-boyfriends and husbands,
even after they are no longer together. NOW lobbies against shared parenting,
instead urging women to obtain sole custody of their children. Where is the
“equality” here? Father’s rights groups, on the other hand,
generally support joint custody. Apparently, it is no longer about equality
for feminists, but using the government to obtain more power than men, while
remaining dependent on their money.
Feminist created “domestic violence” laws serve as another way
to give women an upper hand over men while keeping them dependent on men and
the government. Domestic violence laws are not necessary, since there are already
well-established laws in place preventing assault and battery. But feminists
wanted to give women an advantage in the home over their husbands and boyfriends
by teaching them to involve the government in order to win verbal arguments.
Domestic violence laws now include “glaring looks” and “financial
violence,” whatever that means. Somewhere less than twenty percent of
all domestic violence calls even involve an allegation of assault. Domestic
violence laws give women an edge over men because men are five to nine times
less likely to call the police over a dispute than women are. Police reports
and restraining orders play a large role in deciding child custody issues, so
the more a woman calls the police, the better chances she has at obtaining custody
of any mutual children along with “free” child support.
Affirmative action is another area feminists champion that trains women to
be dependent on the government in order to get ahead of men. Instead of encouraging
women to work as hard as men, feminists teach women that they should use the
government to artificially get ahead of men, which excludes men from positions
they were better qualified for. How is this about equality or rights? It is
not, it is based on the premise that women are not as capable as men and need
extra help from the government in order to get ahead of – not just be
equal to - men. It is true that women do not make as much money on average as
men do, because women tend to pick careers that pay less. Yet instead of focusing
on encouraging women to choose tougher majors and more ambitious careers, feminists
urge women to take Women’s Studies and other touchy-feely majors that
pay less than traditionally male areas.
Feminists efforts in these areas have successfully created a new type of woman
– a woman who thinks of herself as a victim, chooses to underachieve,
uses the government to give herself artificial advantages over men, and remains
economically dependent on men. How feminists can continue claiming that they
are about empowerment and supporting women’s rights is flabbergasting.
Their record today demonstrates that their agenda is doing little to benefit
today’s modern women. Their current leaders are women like Barbara Boxer
and Hillary Clinton, who do not conjure up images of women who stand for equality
with men. Instead, they are women who became powerful because of their husbands’
success, and strike most people as angry women who want to punish men. They
would not understand what women’s equality is really about, because they
really do not want to become equal to men, they would rather use the government
to give themselves artificial advantages over men, while finding nothing wrong
with relying on men for their money.
What is sad about this approach is that it only hurts women. Women who underachieve
do not become the Einsteins, Beethovens, or Bill Gates’ of the world.
Cheating to climb to the top does not instill the values necessary to become
successful. If women are handed advantages by the government, and handed money
from their ex-husbands, they are not going to develop the drive to work hard
for success.
NOW’s membership numbers reveal its uselessness to women. NOW claims
membership numbers of 280,000. Its equivalent organization on the right, Concerned
Women for America, has over 500,000 members. The National Women’s Coalition
for Life has over 1.5 million members. Apparently, women today see through the
feminist message that tells them they are inferior and need to be dependent
on men, and are choosing to join women’s groups that better reflect their
needs. It makes you almost feel sorry for today’s feminists, they don’t
even realize how embarrassing they are to women.
Rachel Alexander