Another Violent Mother
October 8, 2002
by Stephen Baskerville, Ph.D.
The media has discovered another dangerous
mother. Madelyne Toogood was filmed beating her 4-year-old daughter.
Social workers have seized the child, and everyone waxes indignant.
Why do the media focus on a few sensational
cases of maternal child abuse? By exaggerating these cases, the media
imply that they are exceptional. In fact, violent mothers are a dime-a-dozen.
The sensational cases tend to fit an
acceptable profile. The media focused on Andrea Yates for the killing
of her five children not because the act was unusual but because she
represented what the media dislike. She was a married, stay-at-home
mom, an evangelical Christian, and a home-schooler. The implication
was that the stresses of this life led to murder.
But Yates and Toogood are not typical.
Yes, children are beaten and killed by their mothers all the time. Sidney
Johnson, president of Prevent Child Abuse America, says, "The unfortunate
truth is that this is an all-too-familiar scene that happens every day."
What Mr. Johnson does not tell us is
that most abusers are single mothers who have removed their children
from the protection of their fathers. Fathers are the natural protectors
of children. "Contrary to public perception," writes Patrick Fagan of
the Heritage Foundation, "…the most likely abuser of a young child will
be that child’s mother."
Mr. Johnson says we need to "provide
all parents with the appropriate tools, resources, and support so they
never resort to this kind of behavior."
- Likewise, University of California
psychologist Daphne Bugental says we need to equip abusive mothers
with "problem-solving skills" through government programs.
In truth, what we need to do is to stop
taking children from their fathers. We know from years of research that
the one thing that can bring child abuse under control is the presence
of a father. Since this would require political courage, it is much
easier to spend money.
Spending money is a good way of avoiding
problems. Spending money makes us feel good about ourselves and allows
some of us to make a living by perpetuating the problem.
Another politically inexpensive way
of pretending we are doing something is to put people behind bars. If
Madelyne Toogood receives a draconian sentence, it will also be unusual,
because most mothers are not punished for harming their children. But
with all the publicity, Madelyne Toogood is a good candidate to be made
a scapegoat. For the beating of her child is a standing reproach to
our cowardice in refusing to face the real causes of child abuse.
Stephen
Baskerville
Audio commentary available on freecongress.org.