Rights & Responsibilities
November20, 2002
by Wendy McElroy
Politically correct feminists seem determined
to manufacture gender conflict by packaging women and men as separate
classes with antagonistic political interests.
The truth is we are all just human beings
with the same political interest: to have our individual rights respected
so that no one is treated differently by law than the person next door.
A recent flap in the media captures
how PC feminism is fabricating conflict and then refusing to deal with
the consequences.
The controversy involves Martha Burk
-- the virago who blasted the privately owned Atlanta National Golf
Club for not admitting women members. An old article Burk wrote for
the Nov-Dec. 1997 issue of Ms. Magazine has surfaced. In the
piece, entitled "The Sperm Stops Here!", Burk
advocates the mandatory sterilization of men at puberty as a solution
to the abortion debate.
"The Sperm Stops Here!" was allegedly
intended as satire. The tip-off is Burk's lead-in: "A modest proposal
..." This refers to Jonathan Swift's famous 1729 satire "A
Modest Proposal" in which he exaggerates British policies in Ireland
in order to discredit them. He carries British callousness to its logical
conclusion by suggesting that the English farm and eat Irish babies.
Swift intends to elicit horror in his readers.
But is "The Sperm Stops Here!" really
a hoax?
Kathryn Lopez in National Review
and Rush Limbaugh on his radio program took the article at face value
-- much to both of their embarrassment.
But there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
For example, in contrast to Swift's
classic piece, Burk was defending a policy -- abortion -- by
ascribing absurd positions to its opponents, which they have never held.
She opens by stating that both sides believe "if all babies were planned
... women wouldn't seek abortions." If abortion is outlawed, therefore,
men at puberty must be chemically sterilized. Then state tribunals (and
women) could plan all babies. Burk is eliciting contempt for those who
question abortion.
Then, those who object to this hamfisted
tactic are doubly attacked as being so stupid or humorless as to not
"get" that the article is a hoax.
Consider Burk's Nov. 12 appearance on
CNN's Crossfire.
Co-host Tucker Carlson asked Burk about the mandatory male sterilization.
Burk responded, "Hey, if they're going to restrict abortion, buddy,
we've got to do it this way."
When attorney Debbie Schlussel had the
audacity to take that response seriously, Burk countered, "Do you guys
know what a spoof is?" Thus, she was able to make her point and retract
it at the same time. Burk's point: The reproductive rights and responsibilities
of women and men are in direct conflict. Her retraction: Anyone who
objects doesn't have a sense of humor. Burk's "now I mean it, now I
don't" approach accomplishes one goal very well: It blocks honest discussion.
A real hoax is occurring. Ironically,
the position Burk ascribes to abortion opponents is actually a logical
and grotesque extension of her own beliefs -- namely, that women
should have all the reproductive rights while men have only responsibilities.
The position she is "spoofing" is her own.
According to PC feminism, the woman
alone has the right of choice in carrying a pregnancy to term while
the man bears legal responsibility for child support. Yet, in paying
child support, he has no guarantee of joint custody or even visitation
rights.
The idea of responsibilities without
rights is taken to such absurd lengths that even men who do not father
children are held responsible for them. Consider the case of Morgan
Wise, as chronicled by journalist Cathy Young. Blood tests proved
that only one of "his" four children were actually his, yet the court
ordered Wise to continue all child support payments and prohibited him
from contact with the children. His role in that family is now the biological
equivalent of an ATM machine. Wise's case is unfortunately hardly unique.
And, so, gender warfare becomes a political
reality -- not because it exists naturally, but because it has been
created. The legal system now assigns rights to women and responsibilities
to men.
Disputes will always exist because the
desires and claims of some people will conflict with others, especially
in intimate relationships. This is natural but it is not a matter of
gender. Husbands argue with wives, daughters with mothers, sisters with
each other. The fact is that individuals often come into conflict.
And a just resolution requires that those involved -- male or female,
black or white, purple or polka-dotted -- have equal rights and responsibilities
under the law. Otherwise, the law itself becomes the source of conflict.
Reproductive rights should not be uncoupled
from responsibilities. I have seen the human agony caused by laws that
privilege one parent over another based solely on gender, and there
is nothing humorous about it. I have no doubt that individual women
suffer injustice from the court system. But men suffer as a class.
One travesty cannot be used to justify the other. Women and men must
be equal as individuals under law in both rights and responsibilities.
Only then will the suffering diminish.
Wendy
McElroy
Wendy McElroy is the editor
of ifeminists.com. She is the
author and editor of many books and articles, including her new anthology
Liberty
for Women: Freedom and Feminism in the 21st Century
(Ivan R. Dee/Independent Institute, 2002). She lives with her husband
in Canada. Other
articles by Wendy McElroy can be found in the Men's
News Daily archive.