by
Wendy McElroy
The University of Colorado at Boulder's ongoing sex scandal revolves
around football players who are accused of "getting away"
with raping up to 10 women over the past several years. Women are
suing. Dozens of athletes and their families are devastated. The National
Organization for Women is demanding the head coach be fired.
Legislators wonder if they should conduct their own investigation.
The truth of the specific accusations has yet to be determined. But,
through the cacophony of voices, Richard Grego wishes to express a
differing opinion: Namely, that the CU campus promotes false awareness.
Grego, who told me his story via e-mail, claims he knows CU promotes
false awareness because, he says, he used to sell the "lie."
From 1997 to 2000, while an undergraduate, Grego served as "a
peer educator" in the Colorado University Rape And Gender Educators
(COURAGE), which is funded by CU, and so, sanctioned by it. The group's
stated mission: "to raise awareness about sexual assault, stalking,
intimate partner violence and gender as it relates to those topics."
In January, 1999, Grego's work was even singled out and featured for
praise by the Colorado Daily in its weekend edition.
Grego now calls his work a "lie" that encouraged unfounded
accusations of assault. He writes, "We created at CU a culture
of false awareness. ... [S]ince I left the group I have suspected
that many women have been making false allegations to obtain the attention,
sympathy, kid-glove treatment, and power that comes with being a victim
of sex assault."
Why does Grego say the awareness was false? For one thing, COURAGE
and its "educators" aggressively promote "facts"
such as "1 in 4 women ... will be sexually assaulted in their
lifetime." COURAGE claimed that the statistic came from the FBI.
Thus, Grego explains, "with the credibility of both a large respected
university and the police department, we told college kids, many of
whom were 18-year[-old] freshmen, that women are being raped left
and right." As a COURAGE educator, Grego "went to classes,
dorms, fraternities, other groups, and many sororities."
Then Grego took a sociology class that used the much-cited "Mary
Koss study" as a cautionary example of how not to do research.
The Mary Koss study was a 1985 report published in Ms. Magazine that
claimed 1 in 4 women had been raped, and based the claim on interviews
Mary Koss conducted with some 7,000 female college students. The women
were asked 10 questions; they were deemed to have been raped if any
question elicited a "yes" response. One question was, "Have
you had sexual intercourse when you didn't want to because a man gave
you alcohol or drugs?"
The 1-in-4 figure ranked as the Number One Myth in "The Ten
Most Common Feminist Myths" flyer from the Independent Women's
Forum, which was circulated amid controversy on campuses in 2001.
IWF commented, "The researcher, Mary Koss, hand-picked by hard-line
feminist Gloria Steinem, acknowledges that 73 percent of the young
women she counted as rape victims were not aware they had been raped.
Forty-three percent of them were dating their 'attacker' again."
Grego recognized the discredited "facts" as the ones he
was "feeding" the student body. They had not come from the
FBI but from a feminist study that was being ridiculed by those who
taught statistics. He asked, "Can you imagine how I felt? I had
been in essence lying to the students. I was stunned."
Grego claims that when he confronted the professional coordinator
of COURAGE about the statistic, she told him that the cause of "raising
awareness" about rape was more important than the questions surrounding
Koss' study.
Grego decided to leave the group.
Rebecca Brown, the professional coordinator of COURAGE during Grego's
tenure with the group, told Foxnews.com that she has no recollection
of such a conversation with Grego or anyone else. She acknowledges
that the Koss study has been challenged, but cites other research
that has upheld Koss' findings.
"Statistics are only one aspect of what the COURAGE program
does," Brown said.
But Grego says that now, instead of extending automatic compassion,
he now questions every report of rape he hears.
"I do not automatically presume the accusers are telling the
truth, instead I realize that I did not witness the events and I wait
until more evidence comes out," he says. Contrast this with a
younger Grego: "Back in high school, this older girl I was friends
with told me she was raped, I was shocked and gave her my sympathy."
Grego's reaction is both natural and disturbing. I view this shift
in his views as "disturbing" because I was raped years ago.
As a teenager, I ran away from home and lived on the streets, which
placed me in a high-risk category for violence. Were I to go to Richard
Grego right now, would he listen with sympathy or skepticism? If the
answer is "skepticism," should I blame Grego or the university/tax-funded
program of false awareness that pushed a compassionate person toward
disbelief?
Although Grego graduated from CU in 2003, he is speaking out now,
he says, because he "can't help but feel slightly responsible"
for the current sex scandal that he likens to "a witchhunt."
Is it a witchhunt? A Boulder newspaper reports, "The CU football
sex scandal has victimized everyone from women suing the school over
their alleged rapes to dozens of athletes and their families to far-removed
researchers on campus who say their work is going unappreciated ..."
It is time to get tax-funded advocates out of the equation and deal
with crime on the basis of the evidence presented by each individual
case.
Wendy McElroy
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Wendy McElroy is the editor of ifeminists.com.
She is the author and editor of many books and articles, including her
new anthology Liberty
for Women: Freedom and Feminism in the 21st Century
(Ivan R. Dee/Independent Institute, 2002). She lives with her husband
in Canada. Other articles by Wendy McElroy
can be found in the MensNewsDaily.com archive.