I have counseled for 45 years. I have listened to and observed first-hand women beating up on their men. I have seen it with my own eyes.

Yet for a man to squeal on an abusive women is anathema. It just can't be done. He's then a wimp, liar or psycho-imaginary.

Nevertheless, the facts are that both genders, being severely damaged due to our spiritually fallen sphere, beat up on one another. But unfortunately for both genders the common opinion is that men beat up on women and that women don't beat up on men.

Women pound their fists into men. If the man strikes back, cops are called. Man is hauled off.

Women break objects over men's heads. If the man retaliates in like kind, cops are called. Man is hauled off.

Some women, not ready for body-to-body combat, come up to the man's chest--screaming, ranting--baiting him to take the first swing. If he doesn't, she wins. He's a coward. It he does swing, cops are called. The man is hauled off.

But there are other means by which women beat up on men.

Verbal beating is daily fare in too many men's lives. Sadly, it can be repeated over such a long time frame that it becomes a neurotic way of life in the relationship.

One of the most advantageous places for a female verbal beating to take place is in a vehicle. As the car is moving, she has him pinned in a jail on wheels - then she lets loose while he is at the wheel, baiting him, tempting him to either drive off the road in anger or strike at her in the passenger seat so as to both lives in danger. Further, she gambles that she can go and on and on, especially when the two are on a long trip, knowing that there is little chance of him making a U-turn for peace and quiet back home.

Verbal beating also occurs conveniently in the house when no one else is present and the windows are tightly closed. She then rants and raves, once again baiting the male to retaliate.

Verbal beating can take place in public, too. This is the malicious woman's most advantageous geography because she concludes that the male will not give up his civil image in a public place by responding in kind. So she goes at it--and for the big win.

Her verbal beating may be subtle or blunt, short or long, loud or soft--or a mix of the aforementioned, but it is verbal beating just the same.

In my counseling, I have found that the "big-loud mouth" attack is too common. In that, the woman refuses to shut up. She cruelly persists in taunting and badgering. She flails her arms, stomping her feet, and daring the man to respond with like barbarism. These situations are countless.

The vicious illogic behind this verbal meanness is quite simple: women conclude that since they can't win with body thrusts they will win with tongue sabers. So they go for it--and go for it--and go for it.

Over time, if the male succumbs passively--exhausted--to such mouth battering, the woman concludes that she can build quite an arsenal for numerous occasions; with that, a lifetime can be wasted in combat as the male loses his self-respect, self-esteem and any standing of worth within clan or larger community.

If you are the beaten-up male, what are some solutions?