It started with Eve. Though that is religiously politically incorrect to state such aloud, it is biblically correct-true. Check it out for yourself in Genesis. Every male Bible student knows that fact; but most are afraid to speak it for fear of what the females will do to them!

Who took of the forbidden fruit first? Adam? No. Eve. Eve then invited Adam to partake. Plain and simple; it’s right there in black and white.

What was the snake into by tempting female to disobey deity? Slithery one was into establishing Female Control over male.

God intended for male to kindly head the household. Slithery one was, naturally, out to foil God’s intent, as always. Therefore, slithery one flipped the coin over to Female Control in what has resulted in an on-going cruel contest between the genders.

Eve fell for the lie. Then Adam fell for the lie. The marital state has suffered sorely ever since. It’s obvious how males have paid for it; but how have females paid for it?

Here’s how: Females play out a role they were never meant to play. Females aren’t happy with their control edge. In their Eden-prior-to-The-Fall natures they want to submit to a caring husband; but in their spiritually fallen state they hunger perversely for that which is not of their God-intended nature.

In that, females are not content with their desire to lord it over the male; yet many females daily yield to that unnatural urge anyhow because they, like males, are severely damaged—a spiritually fallen race.

Sad, isn’t it? But at least it starts to make sense when one can trace the malady back to the first woman, Eve.

Then followed other females trying to act out Female Control. Take for instance Sarah who called the shots over husband Abraham. She told him to sleep with servant girl Hagar so that God’s promised child could be born of a slave since Sarah herself was barren. Not good. Not God’s plan. Everyone involved, including the innocent, paid an awful price for that Female Control’s move.

Take for example Rebecca. She babied her one twin, Jacob, in contest with her other twin, Esau. It was she who plotted to do in Esau and husband, Isaac, with her lies and deceit. What pain ensued because of Female Control’s move over sons and elderly, blind Isaac.

Take for example Delilah. She controlled Samson. He paid with his eye sockets blown out and disgrace poured over his head. What anguish due to Female Control’s move over sucker Samson.

Take for example Mary, the mother of Jesus. Sanctified she was, but mortal still. At age 30, Jesus, attending the marriage at Cana had yet to perform one miracle by which His messianic reign would be known publicly. Mary became a bit pushy at that point. She egged Jesus to prematurely change water to wine to surprise the wedding host with His powers. Jesus gently put Mary’s Female Control in place, informing her to wait until the proper moment.

Jesus was not being disrespectful to His mother; instead, He was very much aware of the Female Control move in his own parent. After all, she, like all others, was in the lineage of Eve. He, being perfectly pure—without a damaged nature—could not stand to think his precious mother would ever stoop to take hold of the Female Control move. Therefore, he graciously counseled her to pull back and submit.

Therefore, when there is marital trouble, often it is because of the Female Control attempting to usurp husband’s headship. If female only realized how much the kind, caring husband yearns to oversee his wife and children with his umbrella of concern. But instead she often yanks the umbrella from his hands to take charge.

I have often said that in every garden there is a snake. It’s the fact of this spiritually fallen sphere. With that, the slithery one surely inhabits every marital garden. But the saving factor comes into play when both male and female realize what is going on—both in historical backdrop and present tense act-out.

Once husband and wife are wise enough to get hold of the biblical truth, then they can move into the roles God intended for them. Then peace can come to the marriage. Then harmony can be experienced in real life.

The husband then can live out his caring headship role and the wife can live out her loving submission to that caring husband. Any female would be insane not to pray for that kind of union under God.