When Grief Becomes A Weapon.

Unassailable?

Who says that the parents used for their anger against the President and the war in Iraq are unassailable? The media ushering them into the limelight so gleefully?

For those parents and the media presenting them to accuse the President of killing their children, it’s not only the media: both are to blame.

Exposing the Left’s connection doesn’t assign all of the blame: the parents seem now to have an axe to grind and don’t know how they’re being used... But they should.

Nothing new here, sadly.

As always, the Left coaching them doesn’t know Thing One about compassion. They don’t know anything about patriotism and they know nothing about justice. They’re too pre-occupied with adolescent, inner anger of their own.

Nothing new here, either, tactically speaking.

Grief is, for some, a series of stages, a progression of emotional management depths or milestones of working it all through to a return to tranquility which never really returns.

Inherent in most persons is the deeply internal desire to manage this; to get better again. Profound grief is disabling, and doesn’t much permit such vociferous or vicious involvement as we have seen in some parents in the media. But usually, it’s normal to go through this as a process toward a recovery, of a kind, that is.

Inserting oneself into the process as the Left’s connection is exposed, it’s absolutely predatory to keep a suffering person in any one stage– such as an anger stage – for political purposes. [Note: The liberals have glommed onto Anger and keep it there; once it leaves the anger stage, the parents are of no further use to the liberals. When will the innocent parents be released from their service to the Left?] You might say those parents are now political prisoners of the Left using them, conscripted and sentenced for a crime they didn’t commit, and most important, probably for a view they didn’t previously hold - trapped in a sort of Stockholm Syndrome of identification with their captors. Suddenly, she can relate to the Left's anger?

On Grief, there are five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Understand that, even in a time of acceptance, grieving never really entirely remits.

Other experts believe that grief never really moves through stages, recognized more as a flow of gray areas with less defined borders, and which remains as a permanent change you only overcome partially with time. Whatever it is, it is deeply painful, and can easily be unwelcomely summoned with a comment, any reminder at all for the rest of one's life.

It can also be manipulated by persons as the Left.

But no one escapes sorrow. The Left's anger betrays its adolescent view, as their own personal pain eclipses all they see and traps them in adolescent time so that they actually believe that they can change politically what hurt them so long ago. In that futile process, they will use anyone, do anything. This is the major defect in liberal thought (or lack of it).

Sorrow is a fact of life, we know, and we know that it is most painful, and we also know that some losses seem so very unnecessary and unjust. Are you very surprised that a sense of justice or a sense of injustice attaches to a loss so powerfully in the grieving process? Did a loved one die after a mature life, or did one die prematurely? Did one die for something?

This is key to managing grief under circumstances such as a battle death, and where one’s life may have such a sense of purpose, the road to recovery can be a little brighter, the way it was most probably meant to be by the deceased themselves.

This is especially true for a volunteer military, and changing the sense of mission of the deceased to describe them as fools is just another liberal hijacking.

Would the deceased wish for anger to prevail, and is rage what he or she dies for? Or the freedom to speak responsibly and by the rules of fair play in a homeland of liberty they felt so deeply a part of?

What were they attached to when they left on a mission: foolishness or purpose? Did they understand poorly or did they understand fully that someone must go if people like their parents are to be safe and free – people who cannot go?

Giving meaning to a life and a death helps enormously for the living to deal with the loss.

Gratitude, whether the loss was foisted upon them or not, could be integral to grappling with the sorrow and to give the loss meaning, not in illusion, but in reality. Using the loss for another gutter rabbit punch to the conservatives and the more mission-oriented parents might as well mop up the floor with the uniform, as the Left states that every soldier dies for nothing, which is to say that our nation is nothing worth protecting. This is their adolescent anger talking.

I have one answer to the Left in this country: Yet you choose to live here of all places.

Irrespective of your political position on the War – the grieving process is being hijacked, delayed for a tour of duty of its own: a war against its own nation. In a way, the parents have become 2005's useful idiots, to muster a viciousness that perhaps wasn’t even in their character beforehand. Were these people this vicious before? How are they changed for the better?

In interrupting and arresting the grieving process, the Left is nothing but a band of hijackers, helping themselves to something they do not own, ‘borrowing’ someone’s grief for the duration, but not returning it in the condition in which they found it, certainly.

Nothing new in that.

The Left is not fellow Americans of a different, constructive view: these people are sick, spreading their disease by a kiss of death - (Keep It Socialist, Sally).

Cruel. Heartless. I suspect they like it.

Nothing new in that.

The democrats are no longer an American political party. They are a disgrace to the idea of fair play, the party of underhandedness they somehow feel necessary. The Democrats are an insertion of anti-liberty persons, for they have now attacked the non-combatants, the parents of servicemen and women for propaganda, inflicting wounds anew, interfering with the healing process without regard for their overall health and recovery.

The Left is going to keep turning up the heat until they've utterly ruined the nation, without regard for the innocent non-combatants; there is no longer a difference between the Left in America and suicide bombers: it's not how you attack -- it's who you've attacked.

Whether the evolution of the Democrat Party and its minions follows recognizable stages or is a series of incremental gray areas of one depressing movement, the result is, itself, nothing but a source of pure grief now for the entire nation.

But then, nothing new in that, is there?
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John Longenecker is author of The Battle We Fight - Battling Potomac Fever To Recapture Our Homes And Communities, available at all booksellers. His website is www.NationwideConcealedCarry.com

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