Saturday, December 04, 2004
Why No Man Wants a Woman in Her 40s?
A few weeks ago, I published "Can Men and Women Really Get Along?" -- an article based on the eye-opening keyword searches that have brought both male and female romance-seekers to my site over the past year or so, usually via Google.
On my Website statistics this morning, I noticed a standout keyword search, one that a woman obviously wrote, which warrants an entry in my NoNonsenseDating.com blog: Why no man wants a woman in her 40s? Wow, what a loaded and sad question. This is a situation in our culture that, unfortunately, does exist, but there is absolutely no excuse for it. Forty-something women are in their prime: they still have a lot of youth and energy, and they have the savvy, security, sophistication, and self-confidence that make them interesting, fun, and great partners for peer-based relationships.
There is a two-part caveat, however: if you are a forty-something woman who is 1: freshly divorced, bitter, out of shape, and on a mission to avenge your ex-husband, or 2: never-been-married and desperately seeking a father of your theoretical children (read about women seeking sperm donors in my book, The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth), you will be home, alone every weekend. You will not be desirable.
To be fair, many women in their forties complain about "weirdo" men in their 40s and 50s who have never been married, are dysfunctionally attached to their children, or are incapable of accepting emancipated, successful women -- or some combination thereof. Yes, there are plenty of men like that. Alas, these women feel that they are running out of options and have all but turned off to dating altogether (until their libidos take over and they venture out again).
I think, regardless of your age, if you are interesting, warm, energetic, physically appealing, positive, proactive, generous, and discrminating, you always will find partners with similar attributes. Birds of a feather, as they say...
If you have an opinion, please tell me what you think in this blog.
Marc H. Rudov
Author/Publisher
The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women
(ISBN 0974501719)
On my Website statistics this morning, I noticed a standout keyword search, one that a woman obviously wrote, which warrants an entry in my NoNonsenseDating.com blog: Why no man wants a woman in her 40s? Wow, what a loaded and sad question. This is a situation in our culture that, unfortunately, does exist, but there is absolutely no excuse for it. Forty-something women are in their prime: they still have a lot of youth and energy, and they have the savvy, security, sophistication, and self-confidence that make them interesting, fun, and great partners for peer-based relationships.
There is a two-part caveat, however: if you are a forty-something woman who is 1: freshly divorced, bitter, out of shape, and on a mission to avenge your ex-husband, or 2: never-been-married and desperately seeking a father of your theoretical children (read about women seeking sperm donors in my book, The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth), you will be home, alone every weekend. You will not be desirable.
To be fair, many women in their forties complain about "weirdo" men in their 40s and 50s who have never been married, are dysfunctionally attached to their children, or are incapable of accepting emancipated, successful women -- or some combination thereof. Yes, there are plenty of men like that. Alas, these women feel that they are running out of options and have all but turned off to dating altogether (until their libidos take over and they venture out again).
I think, regardless of your age, if you are interesting, warm, energetic, physically appealing, positive, proactive, generous, and discrminating, you always will find partners with similar attributes. Birds of a feather, as they say...
If you have an opinion, please tell me what you think in this blog.
Marc H. Rudov
Author/Publisher
The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women
(ISBN 0974501719)
