Saturday, February 12, 2005
Females as Sexual Predators
We are experiencing a new phenomenon in our country: the female as sexual predator. In the past few years, we've seen news accounts of female teachers having sex with with adolescent boys, a disorder called hebophilia. Maybe adult women have been doing this, on the sly, for decades, but only now is it a part of the "public" discourse (see article). But, this can't happen: women are supposed to be nurturing and responsible.
What's more amazing than the news is the debate about whether these women should be punished as harshly as male adults committing the same crimes. Moreover, TV commentators seem to be shocked that beautiful women can be so dysfunctional, desperate, and depraved. Imagine that!
Our socialization tells us that a 15-year-old boy having sex with his 27-year-old, hot-blonde teacher is experiencing a rite of passage, whereas a 15-year-old girl having sex with her 27-year-old male teacher would be experiencing rape and molestation. Why the disparity? Why the double standard?
I can think of three bogus reasons for society's double standard: 1) boys are supposed to have sex, 2) boys are tough and not hurtable, and 3) boys can't get pregnant. What a bunch of nonsense. No, a 15-year-old boy cannot get pregnant, but he can get his 27-year-old teacher pregnant. Would that not ruin his life and that of his unsuspecting family. Yes. If a grown woman treats a 15-year-old boy as a sex toy and then discards him, would that not scar him emotionally for life? Yes. Are 15-year-old boys better able to cope with the emotions of sex than girls? No. So, once again, we find that our socialization is nonsense.
One more double standard from LA-LA Land: while we see more female teachers being thrown into jail for molesting teenage boys, Hollywood excuses and glamorizes such behavior. In the 2004 movie, Birth, Nicole Kidman had a sexual relationship with a 10-year-old boy she thought was her reincarnated husband. Of course, that was considered " beautiful art." Folks, wrong is wrong is wrong.
The more we realize that men and women are the same, the more we want to fight this reality. Stop fighting it. Deal with it.
Marc H. Rudov
Author/Publisher
The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women
(ISBN 0974501719)
What's more amazing than the news is the debate about whether these women should be punished as harshly as male adults committing the same crimes. Moreover, TV commentators seem to be shocked that beautiful women can be so dysfunctional, desperate, and depraved. Imagine that!
Our socialization tells us that a 15-year-old boy having sex with his 27-year-old, hot-blonde teacher is experiencing a rite of passage, whereas a 15-year-old girl having sex with her 27-year-old male teacher would be experiencing rape and molestation. Why the disparity? Why the double standard?
I can think of three bogus reasons for society's double standard: 1) boys are supposed to have sex, 2) boys are tough and not hurtable, and 3) boys can't get pregnant. What a bunch of nonsense. No, a 15-year-old boy cannot get pregnant, but he can get his 27-year-old teacher pregnant. Would that not ruin his life and that of his unsuspecting family. Yes. If a grown woman treats a 15-year-old boy as a sex toy and then discards him, would that not scar him emotionally for life? Yes. Are 15-year-old boys better able to cope with the emotions of sex than girls? No. So, once again, we find that our socialization is nonsense.
One more double standard from LA-LA Land: while we see more female teachers being thrown into jail for molesting teenage boys, Hollywood excuses and glamorizes such behavior. In the 2004 movie, Birth, Nicole Kidman had a sexual relationship with a 10-year-old boy she thought was her reincarnated husband. Of course, that was considered " beautiful art." Folks, wrong is wrong is wrong.
The more we realize that men and women are the same, the more we want to fight this reality. Stop fighting it. Deal with it.
Marc H. Rudov
Author/Publisher
The Man's No-Nonsense Guide to Women
(ISBN 0974501719)
