Friday, October 07, 2005
Heed the Basal Thermometer
For those of you men unfamiliar with a basal thermometer, it is a highly accurate device that a woman can use to monitor her morning temperature, to determine her precise phase of ovulation -- for either achieving or avoiding pregnancy, depending on her wish.
To grasp the long-term societal results of anti-male indoctrination women receive as little girls, let's use a "basal thermometer" to read the male-attitude temperature of women on college campuses. I came across an opinion letter from two college women to their college newspaper (shown below), describing their feelings about men. I was shocked as much by the letter's vitriol as by the newspaper's decision to print it. But, then, I shouldn't be so naive. The typical university is a left-wing cauldron of anti-(fill in the blank), hell-bent on destroying all traditions. The perverse irony of their article is that they don't get why men loathe them.
It is no wonder that men avoid commitment with women (read my article "Why Men Avoid Commitment") and that Congress overwhelmingly passed VAWA 2005 -- an anti-male, unconstitutional domestic-violence law. If you men ignore the readout of this frightening male-attitude basal thermometer, you will do so at your own peril. Face it, the USA has become a bastion of male hatred. Unless people force their elected officials to reverse this male-bashing tide, we all will drown. What are YOU going to do about it?
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October 14, 2005
Battle of the Sexes
(Impact -- San Joaquin Delta College)
By Stephanie McKinney and Cameron Ross
In general, men are as predictable as a mammal in the wild. There are always exceptions to the rule, but they certainly do not make up the majority; so today we focus on the phenomenon known only as: man. It's quite disturbing, I must note, that even though I am deeply in love with a man whom I plan to marry, it was still remarkably easy to comprise a list of several "flaws" I believe every man possesses. I'm not even going to explore what's wrong with guys when they're in dating mode, because then we would be here all day and I'd probably walk away from this computer feeling like a Man-Eater. I'm simply going to fast forward to examining the man when he is in a relationship.
First of all, try as they might, we all know that men are consistently and devastatingly clueless about women. Now, that's not to say (or perhaps it is?) the dork in the quad got a pretty girl on his arm out of sheer luck. I'm confident that some guys are genuinely fond of their lady friend, and would do or say anything to keep her smiling; in the beginning. For anyone who has ever made it passed the six-month mark with that special someone, you will notice that two things slowly begin to change around this point. Men are what I like to call "emotionally lazy."
Making a relationship last requires a team effort, and what some guys maybe don't realize is that it's going to exhaust a lot of their mental and emotional energy to make us (women) happy. In my last relationship, I was the giver and he was the taker. Every time he had a problem I spent hours talking to him, reassuring him that everything would be okay, and coming up with solutions to right the wrong in his life. It got to the point that whenever my ex was upset, he'd turn to me and say, "fix it." Just one time I would've loved for this guy to have been able to fix my problems, but instead I was left out in the cold. Whenever I was sad or ticked off, all he could do was make jokes to try and lighten the mood. To this day, nothing sends me off the deep end faster than a fool who cannot grasp the severity of which I am feeling a negative emotion.
Not too long ago, I lost all patience for dealing with men who are not ready and willing to commit more than their egos to the relationship. Now, I mentioned that two things will change as time goes on, and that other thing is the facade that men bear in the beginning of one's courtship begins to wear thin. Unfortunately, it begins to become clear just how little men really understand about women. This is when the energy required becomes mental; fellas, all you have to do is think before you speak and take us into consideration when we're not around.
My best friend's friend's boyfriend went away to Las Vegas for a weekend and before he left she asked him to call her periodically while he was gone. Needless to say, he did not attempt to call her even once during the whole weekend, and actually had the nerve to act surprised when she tore him a new one upon his arriving back home. This is an example of a guy being inconsiderate of a girl he supposedly loves; "mentally lazy." (Sigh) I suppose I could also list the fact that whenever a man enters a relationship, he mysteriously becomes hard of hearing. This occurrence is not funny; it's so beyond unamusing, it's irritating. And that's all I'm going to say on the matter.
Examining the behavior of a man in a relationship is doing so while he is out of his true comfort zone; away from his friends. There's no denying that we all act differently while in the company of our chums. Sometimes we will act louder, crazier or stupider. Guys in particular are especially disgusting when in groups. Together, men will be reckless, immature, foul-mouthed, and perverted. They could be all of these things individually too, of course, but I guess it just wouldn't be as fun or annoying. Maybe I am old-fashioned in saying this, but I think it's sweet when guys try to refrain from swearing in front of ladies. In this one respect I do not want to be treated as equal. I'm glad my fiancé doesn't call me a jack-a** when I'm being one, or drop f-bombs every three words when he's describing how crappy his day was. At the end of the day I'm a big fan of love, and men. I don't hate them, I just simply accept them for how they really are -- sweaty, flawed, and hairy.
To grasp the long-term societal results of anti-male indoctrination women receive as little girls, let's use a "basal thermometer" to read the male-attitude temperature of women on college campuses. I came across an opinion letter from two college women to their college newspaper (shown below), describing their feelings about men. I was shocked as much by the letter's vitriol as by the newspaper's decision to print it. But, then, I shouldn't be so naive. The typical university is a left-wing cauldron of anti-(fill in the blank), hell-bent on destroying all traditions. The perverse irony of their article is that they don't get why men loathe them.
It is no wonder that men avoid commitment with women (read my article "Why Men Avoid Commitment") and that Congress overwhelmingly passed VAWA 2005 -- an anti-male, unconstitutional domestic-violence law. If you men ignore the readout of this frightening male-attitude basal thermometer, you will do so at your own peril. Face it, the USA has become a bastion of male hatred. Unless people force their elected officials to reverse this male-bashing tide, we all will drown. What are YOU going to do about it?
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October 14, 2005
Battle of the Sexes
(Impact -- San Joaquin Delta College)
By Stephanie McKinney and Cameron Ross
In general, men are as predictable as a mammal in the wild. There are always exceptions to the rule, but they certainly do not make up the majority; so today we focus on the phenomenon known only as: man. It's quite disturbing, I must note, that even though I am deeply in love with a man whom I plan to marry, it was still remarkably easy to comprise a list of several "flaws" I believe every man possesses. I'm not even going to explore what's wrong with guys when they're in dating mode, because then we would be here all day and I'd probably walk away from this computer feeling like a Man-Eater. I'm simply going to fast forward to examining the man when he is in a relationship.
First of all, try as they might, we all know that men are consistently and devastatingly clueless about women. Now, that's not to say (or perhaps it is?) the dork in the quad got a pretty girl on his arm out of sheer luck. I'm confident that some guys are genuinely fond of their lady friend, and would do or say anything to keep her smiling; in the beginning. For anyone who has ever made it passed the six-month mark with that special someone, you will notice that two things slowly begin to change around this point. Men are what I like to call "emotionally lazy."
Making a relationship last requires a team effort, and what some guys maybe don't realize is that it's going to exhaust a lot of their mental and emotional energy to make us (women) happy. In my last relationship, I was the giver and he was the taker. Every time he had a problem I spent hours talking to him, reassuring him that everything would be okay, and coming up with solutions to right the wrong in his life. It got to the point that whenever my ex was upset, he'd turn to me and say, "fix it." Just one time I would've loved for this guy to have been able to fix my problems, but instead I was left out in the cold. Whenever I was sad or ticked off, all he could do was make jokes to try and lighten the mood. To this day, nothing sends me off the deep end faster than a fool who cannot grasp the severity of which I am feeling a negative emotion.
Not too long ago, I lost all patience for dealing with men who are not ready and willing to commit more than their egos to the relationship. Now, I mentioned that two things will change as time goes on, and that other thing is the facade that men bear in the beginning of one's courtship begins to wear thin. Unfortunately, it begins to become clear just how little men really understand about women. This is when the energy required becomes mental; fellas, all you have to do is think before you speak and take us into consideration when we're not around.
My best friend's friend's boyfriend went away to Las Vegas for a weekend and before he left she asked him to call her periodically while he was gone. Needless to say, he did not attempt to call her even once during the whole weekend, and actually had the nerve to act surprised when she tore him a new one upon his arriving back home. This is an example of a guy being inconsiderate of a girl he supposedly loves; "mentally lazy." (Sigh) I suppose I could also list the fact that whenever a man enters a relationship, he mysteriously becomes hard of hearing. This occurrence is not funny; it's so beyond unamusing, it's irritating. And that's all I'm going to say on the matter.
Examining the behavior of a man in a relationship is doing so while he is out of his true comfort zone; away from his friends. There's no denying that we all act differently while in the company of our chums. Sometimes we will act louder, crazier or stupider. Guys in particular are especially disgusting when in groups. Together, men will be reckless, immature, foul-mouthed, and perverted. They could be all of these things individually too, of course, but I guess it just wouldn't be as fun or annoying. Maybe I am old-fashioned in saying this, but I think it's sweet when guys try to refrain from swearing in front of ladies. In this one respect I do not want to be treated as equal. I'm glad my fiancé doesn't call me a jack-a** when I'm being one, or drop f-bombs every three words when he's describing how crappy his day was. At the end of the day I'm a big fan of love, and men. I don't hate them, I just simply accept them for how they really are -- sweaty, flawed, and hairy.
