Illegitimacy is not accidental

Feminists, the media, and politicians constantly portray women who get pregnant out of wedlock as hapless victims of happenstance or men.  Never mind the fact that many of them chose to have a child outside marriage, or are at least indifferent to it.

Kourtney Kardashian is one such woman, who admitted she regularly “forgets” to take her birth control pill. Of course she now accidentally pregnant by her revolving-door boyfriend Scott Disick.

Neither of them are famous or particularly rich, but Scott is no waif having an income between $150,000 to $200,000 per year.

One thing we can be very sure of: Kardashian did not tell Scott she “forgot” to take her pill.  By “forgetting”, one cannot possibly remember to mention it before having sex, right?

Now for the clincher:  Just before a woman has sex, if she really does not want a child out of wedlock, how could she possibly not think back about whether she took her pill or not?  If she cannot remember that she did take it, and if she has sex anyway without insisting on using some other form of protection,  she knows darned well what she is doing.

Any parent knows that kids apply “selective memory” as a standard ploy to avoid taking responsibility for things they do.  Most parents don’t fall for it.  So why do we let some fully -grown women get away with it and then pay them for doing so?

Kardashian certainly isn’t going to say she wanted to get pregnant.  Most folks ears go back when women say they intentionally become single mothers.   Kardashian knows she is safe pretending she is a victim of her own conveniently-feeble memory.

Kardashian is saying Scott is “way more” excited about it than she is (as if he forgot to take his pill and could hardly wait to impregnate her).  As we would expect, Kardashian does not appear to be interested in marriage — but certainly is not  considering an abortion (which is what women do when they really do not want an accidental pregnancy).  This combination of positions is a sure sign Kardashian wanted to get pregnant in the first place.

Scott has not said a thing about the pregnancy.  Had he been a willing participant in pregnancy, they would not be keeping him in the coal bin.  They don’t want him portraying Kourtney as the con artist she is.  Given all the money and lawyers the Kardashian family has, he does not dare talk about it.  He’s just hoping Kourtney will let him take on the visage of responsible fatherhood so Hollywood does not see him as just another rambling stud muffin.

The Big Picture

Certainly, a few accidents will happen.  But the occasional “accident” does not explain even a small percentage of America’s greatest and longest-running international embarrassment: an illegitimacy rate of over 40% (temporarily superceded by the economic crisis).  A nation of baseball players bawling about home runs being purely accidental would be met with laughter.  This is how America is viewed by the reproductively and maritally-responsible nations of the world — the correspondingly successful Asian and Arabic countries we are inextricably dependent on for energy and debt tolerance.  (I will not apologize for America, but I will not lie for it either).

I do not “have it in for women” (as some feminists suggest).  My point is heirarchical in nature — made for me by burlesque entertainer Evelyne West, who many years ago proudly proclaimed that “When women go wrong, men quickly follow”.   Indeed, when large numbers of women chase after men to create entitled child-pawns, guess what will happen?

We have all agreed for years that men should not be fooling around, and that men should not rape or take advantage of women.  We must now address the female part of the problem with equal vigor.  We simply cannot anticipate women observing moral values in large numbers when large sums of money strongly motivate them to become single mothers (often by being strippers too).

Any girl can take advantage of a guy over the long run by building up a little trust, “forgetting” to take her pill, and then basking in the sympathy of society while collecting  a load of child support (which is actually mostly hidden alimony).   Does everyone now understand why  illegitimacy is at new record levels?   Women no longer see marriage as the best path to motherhood and economic security.  They now prefer marrying the Department of Health and Human Services, but end up in poverty having to “do it all” on less money, because a check from the village does not nearly replace the human dynamic that occurs only within living marriage.

Kardashian is just one of many public role models sex bombs destroying marriage in the minds of the average woman.  In fact, its might take all week just to find a Hollywood starlet that actually had a child while married.  A lot of average woman want to live this new American dream.  Talking about morals in this equation is about as useful as handing somebody a kitchen sponge to clean up a Taiwanese typhoon.

Take John Edwards, a wealthy politician sporting a zipper matching his loose brain. He has already been blackmailed for large sums of hush money (which nobody has noticed).  He will soon be bled blue for child support by Rielle Hunter, a tantalizing camera girl (who decided to pursue the peculiar American institution of forced mistressing), turning Edwards into a long-term sugar-daddy in bondage.  Correction: John Edwards is not the money in the family — Elizabeth has the money and will be bled blue by marriage (but she could get it back by nailing Al Gore and raiding the Heintz estate for even more child support).

Take Louisville Cardinals coach Rick Pitino, another philanderer who got much more than advertised having an affair with the wife of his equipment manager.  Pitino found himself being blackmailed for $10 million by a pregnant Karen Sypher, who “wanted the baby” but later got an abortion when her slam-dunk didn’t result in a fat paycheck.  She is presently indicted for attempted extortion, claiming that Pitino paid her husband to marry her.

When are we going to stop entitling the feminist con game?  It has tremendous financial consequences on others, not to mention the wide array of problems children usually face when not raised in the heterosexual married family.  The impact on marriage and other women is tremendous.

Everyone has a stake in changing public policy to not reward marital irresponsiblity — which includes not rewarding those who bypass the most important aspect of marriage — its necessary role in reproduction.  When  policy changes are accomplished, many more women (and men) will naturally return to moral values.  And, the marriages of married women will not be invaded so frequently by fast-moving gigalettes, who over time will be more interested in marriage than making a quick killing, often at the expense of another woman.

© 2009, David R. Usher


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Very true. Women want to have children because they feel that is their role in the world. It completes them far more than a 'relationship' does. It gives them far more POWER than they could ever have in a 1 on 1 relationship with a male.

Posted by Davidtoo Gravatar
August 15th, 2009
 

Here's a thought: women are not solely responsible for ensuring they don't get pregnant. If a man does not want children, he needs to use a condom every single time he has sex, regardless of what birth control she claims to be taking. Until men understand that it is equally their responsibility to prevent reproduction, unwanted pregnancies will continue to happen.

Besides which, hormonal birth control for women is much more arduous and has more severe side effects than just plain ol' condom use. If you don't want women coming after you for child support then ensure you aren't creating children! It's quite simple, really. There's no reason to villify women who may have used their birth control inconsistently or incorrectly. And sometimes BC fails no matter what you do. Stop blaming women and step up and take responsibility. A potential consequence of having sex with a woman of childbearing age is pregnancy. If you aren't prepared to deal with the repurcussions of that then you really shouldn't be having sex.

Posted by TNS Gravatar
August 15th, 2009
 

"Stop blaming women…" - however, when there is case after case of women actually methodically planning to get pregnant, when there are studies that actually document that women willing lie to deceive their "partner" in order to get pregnant, when maliciously planned and documented paternity fraud is so wide-spread (and supported by the government), and when there is every incentive provided by the government to do exactly all of the above - yes, men should protect themselves.

Women are predators. And what they seek is a male's ability to generate resources - so they can take them as their own.
Gold digging is hard wired into women at the biological level.

Posted by Davidtoo Gravatar
August 15th, 2009
 

The best way to protect ones self (assuming that one doesn't want to pay child support for an unwanted or unplanned child or contract a form of VD) from a woman is to avoid having an intimate relationship with her in the first place. These day engaging in sex is like putting a gun to one's head which is just plain stupid. Unfortunately P.T. Barnum was right when he said: "There's a sucker born every minute." Especially since when it comes to women the average male is an all too willing sucker these days.

Posted by DaPoet Gravatar
August 15th, 2009
 

Very few men in long term relationships like or use condoms, and most women don't like them either. Condoms have distinct negative connotations — as if its a one night stand. At some point in any relationships, condoms will fall by the wayside. Diaphrams are very effective if used correctly, and good for men who want a visible form of birth control (you can put it in). Of course you both have to know that both you and your partner do not have any diseases.

I have seen too many men get vasectomies. This is a really bad idea because these guys often end up Playboys because they know they are shooting blanks.

Having said all this — beyond the obvious moral issues (which most folks don't care about), I must point out that waiting until marriage is by far the most reliable form of birth control. It also has other effects: you won't be marrying a hussy — loose gals won't wait around for marriage — your chances of marrying a decent gal increase substantially. People who get into "delayed gratification" do far better than those who shack up and live-in.

The main point: Morals are usually not warrantless taboos (as some assert). They are there for very good reasons beyond the obvious religious directives. Those who are unwilling to subscribe to morals at face value only send themselves headlong into a sea of trouble. These are the same folks who go bananas when things blow up in their face.

Posted by drusher Gravatar
August 16th, 2009
 

The fact is that the woman is in the best position to prevent pregnancy. This is obvious. This is just a fact. Basic economics says the cost or risk should be placed on the party who can control it best at least cost. The man is not in the best position to control this risk / cost.

The woman has incentive to not control this risk effectively. Men are actually insane to have sex with women under the present situation. The prevailing wisdom I suppose is that men just cannot act rationally with respect to sex. I actually think they are. I think there is a substantial amount of avoidance of women and sex by men.

When I was young, I saw a whole lot more evidence of romantic / sexual relationships than I do now. I don't see men and women holding hands and going on dates, etc. like I once did. I can go to a restaurant even on a Friday or Saturday night and not see hardly any if any "dating" couples. Women if they refuse to act responsibly are going to kill the special relationship that has always existed between men and women.

Posted by dogwild Gravatar
August 18th, 2009
 

Another alternative for men who don't want to become fathers is to not have vaginal intercourse but engage exclusively in other forms of sexual activity. There are many sexual activities that cannot result in conceptions.

Posted by Denise Noe Gravatar
August 18th, 2009
 

Two of my children are "broken-rubber" babies. Answer that one dipstick.

Posted by Squiggy Gravatar
August 23rd, 2009
 

 
 
 
 
 
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