‘What’s the point of working if you can’t spend it? So I let him work for it and I spend it’

Tuesday, December 23, 2008
By Glenn Sacks

Michael, an Orange County, California reader, has been a hairdresser for 20 years and he says he's heard some incredible things from women in the hair salon where he works. He explains:

I have heard these same things said over and over for years from women of all walks of life yet I’ve never really heard these attitudes depicted in television, movies or any other venue. Most men would never be privy to such remarks.

It’s true what is said that people tell their hairdressers things they would never tell anyone else. I’ve heard the most incredible and bizarre tales but still have to keep a straight face. Many clients interpret the smiling nods as support and come out with the big secrets. 

In this series--"Things a Hairdresser Hears"--Michael details some of the things he has heard and seen. This is of course a one-sided view, but it's an interesting one. I suppose the other side--the "bad things men do" side might be captured by a bartender or a barber. If one is reading this and would like to contribute, please email me at glenn@glennsacks.com.

Michael's first four posts were:

Hairdresser: 'The sheer volume of women who cheat was staggering...they're so good at getting away with it'

'He only pays attention to the kids, I left so I could have a life...He can still see the kids once a month'

'There is nothing I can’t do for the kids that he can'

'She said the kids didn’t like him anyway, but I bet they liked his child support'

Michael's Things a Hairdresser Hears (Part V)

Having been a hairdresser for 20 years, I have heard some incredible things. I would be told things like:

“What’s the point of working if you can’t spend it? So I let him work for it and I spend it, ha ha ha.”

 “I left him because he’s an alcoholic, he drank beer at night after work and my group said he’s an alcoholic.  It’s only a matter of time before he becomes physical, the people in my group said so.” 

“Our relationship was going nowhere after 20 years so since he wouldn’t part with the money to go travelling I took it from him.”  

“He made a lot of money he just wouldn’t spend it and I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life at home cooking, so when the kids moved out….” 

I have run these quotes in all five of these posts by many of the women I work with in the salon and all agree that they are 100% accurate.  More surprisingly was the way they looked at me, like I had caught them at something.  Some even said, “You’re not supposed to hear those things.”

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