Child support reality

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1. Robert Stevens

   November 5, 2008 at 1:54 pm

   Well anytime I see an article like this one, I have to smile. The eggheaded liberals who are in part responsible for the “extortion racket” that is the current child support system, are begining to wake up.
   Reality is seeping in, and hard headed and self centered as some of these people are, the reality will not go away. THIS RACKET DOES NOT WORK !!! It never has and it never will.
   I have studied this “racket” and been a victim of it,for years. I have come to several conclusions. Number 1, when the party who wrecks the marriage and steals the kids wants to get paid, the person they want to steal from resents it and will not cooperate. The way to overcome this, ie go with human nature instead of against it. This whole system is based on a contract. Make that contract a consciounable one. That is make it fair, if one party wants out of the marriage, make joint physical/legal custody the norm. Once the ” offender” , does not win, the party who did not want the divorce feels alot better and is more likely to cooperate. You actually do put the best interest of the child first, not the selfish and irresponsible behavior of an adult first.
   You have an arrangement that is fair and bilateral, noone wins and this might just deter some of the aforementioned irresponsible behavior, because women usually divorce, because the current system will reward them for “doin wrong” not hold them accountable for breaking a marital contract. A fair system creates peace by treating both side equally.
   Conclusion number 2, disinvolve the state, ie the child support system. The current racket, the system is, exacerbates the conflict. It will forces payment without making sure the custodial parent abides by the other side of the equation and is very often excessive and draconian, these people routinely violate constitutional rights. Once the state is out of the picture, it is easier to make the custodial parent act reasonable. The begin to understand that the arrangement is indeed contractual and will act accordingly. They begins to understand that if you trully want assistance in raising the children, you have to give something to get something. This create peace , by ensuring a fair and reasonable system, everybody get something.
   YOu still will have to keep the court involved, because once a noncustodial parent learn how to kick the state, ie the child support terrorist out and force the custodial parent and the court to adopt the private arrangement, good things start to happen. The “state of war” goes away, the anger over being mistreated fades , the custodial parent learns to a to behave herself and the court act the way it is supposed to, ie an intermediary, not a slave master forcing an unfair racket on the noncustodial parent , the system works like it is supposed to and eventually you have pretty good relationship between the parents.

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