MSM Discovers Paternity Fraud
Fatherhood isn’t in the genes: DNA tests are confirming men’s suspicions of not being their kid’s real dad — but they’re still made to pay up
A man is supposed to take care of his children. If he gets a woman pregnant, he’s expected to step up and take responsibility. But what if that man discovers that the child he thought was his own — the kid he read to, cuddled and tucked in at night — is another man’s? Then who is responsible for the kid — the biological father or the nurturing adoptive dad? That is the quandary increasingly being raised by DNA tests. As Ruth Padawer writes in a fascinating cover story for the upcoming New York Times Magazine, the rise of paternity tests — bought on the cheap online or at local drug stores — have revealed “just how murky society’s notions of fatherhood actually are.”
Mike L., the lead subject in Padawer’s piece, found evidence of his wife’s affair with a coworker and decided to have L., his 5-year-old daughter, take a DNA test. The results arrived in the mail: He was not the father. “I ran upstairs, locked myself in the bathroom and cried and dry-heaved for 45 minutes. I felt like my guts were being ripped out,” he says. Mike separated from his wife, Stephanie, and began paying her child support because, he says, she claimed Rob, L.’s bio-dad, had refused. Things continued on this way for several years, until he got news that Stephanie would be marrying Rob, and that was too much to bear. He asked a Pennsylvania court to relieve him of parental responsibility, but a judge ruled that Mike was the legal father, not Rob.
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On one hand, it is good to have paternity fraud exposed nationwide in the 11-22-09 story.
Perhaps, it did not go far enough in explaining:
1. There is a root cause for paternity fraud — child’s mother. Fraud or Accident. It is not difficult to ponder why the wife would not tell her husband, boyfriend or one nighter that he is one of the paternity candidates. But definitely not the only one.
2. Family law courts and no fault divorce seem to support paternity fraud by holding the deceived man responsible for a pregnancy that DNA proves he did NOT commit.
3. There is a difference in loving a child that you are allowed to parent versus paying hundreds of thousands to finance the mother’s lifestyle.
If a bank robber has a good reason for killing and robbing, do we excuse the behavior? No. Neither should we excuse paternity fraud, but should provide redress and counseling for all of the victims, not just the child.
One of my clients is the star of this story — he is unable to afford a family with his honest wife. Another client, could not handled how he was treated by the ex-wife, former daughter, family court and attorneys. He took his own life.
These men are the reason why I initiated an academic Paternity Fraud Survey with Dr. Sharon Squires PhD, Sociologist. There many more untold stories from paternity fraud victims that have the same underlying message … these men and children need help.
Here’s a thought — DNA paternity test is a pre-emptive strike against paternity fraud. Please tell men about our survey at http://www.PaternityFraud.com.
Happy Holidays,
Carnell Smith PfV
Analyst / Consultant / DNA + Paternity Expert / TV & Radio experience (9 yrs)
Founder, US Citizens Against Paternity Fraud
A man is supposed to take care of his kids, yes I agree, but when has the state and the women even acted like these kids are ours? Answer : never, if they want you to have rights , you have rights ,if they don’t ,so sorry, your shit outta luck, the government sponsored kidnapping and extortion racket is not interested in you having rights, it only gets in the way of their sinister master plan. Women have got it in their heads that they own the kids and the man is not worthy of rights.
Men are going to have to stand up, demand DNA test at birth, demand that any man that is not the father or it later determined not to be the father not to have to pay child support. The reason the system is so unfair is that they benefit from this system, there is no motivation to be fair or reasonable. There is no penalty for defrauding these men. They steal with impunity and their is no consequences.
We have to give them motivation to be fair and reasonable. That is by taking away the money, power and control these “thugs” crave.
Once they can’t take your kids, steal your money or violate your rights with impunity, they will stop. Oh, they will need to be brought to justice and be severly punished for what they have done. These people do not understand that what they are doing is wrong, only the punishment and the fear of punishment will stop them.
Women, well they are going to have to be given the bad news, equality is not all goodies and benefits, there are some slings and arrows that go with this vaunted status. That women are over due and need to take their turn on the payside of the equal sign.
Once they find out that this equality thing is nowhere near the fun and games they thought was going to be , they will go back to being women and understand that men are men ,women are women and no matter how P O litically I N C O rrect it is, there are things a man can do that women can not and vice versa. They will need to be more like men, be ok with who and what they are, acknowledge that they are not men and can never be.